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To be uncomfortable as an bit role in customers' sex games?

180 replies

Sheenscrot · 16/05/2026 13:58

I work in a Nice gastropub.

Last night a couple came in for a booked table. The booking notes had asked for sit on the edge of the main section of the restaurant. This isn't uncommon as we have live music on a Friday and it's a good viewing spot. It's a lively pub and busy restaurant.

They were in my section and I welcomed them, got chatting and they told me they we out to celebrate their 4 month anniversary. Champagne was ordered. A pleasant, attractive young couple having a lovely night out.

Then the mood changed a bit; the woman went to the loo and the man played with his phone while she did do.

When she came back he moved his phone to his lap and started to mess with it surreptitiously under the table.

It was so freaking obvious what was going on; her face became animated and she started squirming.

I went back to clear their starter dish and offered more drinks, just doing my job, but they were obviously observing me to see if I noticed.

I went down the civil professional and verging on brusque approach to them fro that point and tried to speed them through the meal to get them off the table quickly.

All the other servers that night were a level students and I wasn't going to expose them to that so I took full ownership of the table.

Grim fuckers Do some people have no shame?

OP posts:
Muffinmam · 16/05/2026 16:18

You should have called the Police.

FoulBlister · 16/05/2026 16:19

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WednesdaysChild73 · 16/05/2026 16:20

TeaPot496 · 16/05/2026 16:15

Ew. That could constitute harassment of you in the workplace. Don't wanna hear it mate. All these pathetic wankers!

She was always overly sexual with things she said and shared, never really thought to report it at the time, I certainly would do now. I’m no prude, but there’s a time and a place, and it’s definitely not the workplace!

DavidStopActingLikeADisgruntledPelican · 16/05/2026 16:21

LoyalMember · 16/05/2026 15:48

What a sweetie wife. Do your job, and mind your own business, ffs...

Huh? It was the OP’s business though? She was at work, doing her job, and 2 people came to her place of work and decided to get off in front of her (and others in the restaurant) without her or anyone else’s consent. When you involve other people in your sex life it becomes very much their business as much as it is yours.

GenialHarrietGrouty · 16/05/2026 16:23

LoyalMember · 16/05/2026 15:48

What a sweetie wife. Do your job, and mind your own business, ffs...

How was it not OP's business? They chose to do this in the most public part of the restaurant knowing that the waiter staff would have to approach the table while they were doing it. They wanted to make it her business.

DavidStopActingLikeADisgruntledPelican · 16/05/2026 16:26

MummyMaryUK · 16/05/2026 15:43

So, you didn't actually see anything or any body part etc.
They didn't actually say anything to you of a sexual nature, and they didn't try to show body parts or converse with any other members of staff or clients.

So at best, your post is 100% speculation and assumption.

Now, in your own words this, 'young attractive pleasant couple', are being vilified and called disgusting on a national website and called all sorts of 'disgusting'.

My money is on you either being jealous of their looks or relationship or, more than likely, this never happened at all.

Edited

Were you the lady in the restaurant with a vibrator up her chuff getting animated?

FKAT · 16/05/2026 16:30

MummyMaryUK · 16/05/2026 15:43

So, you didn't actually see anything or any body part etc.
They didn't actually say anything to you of a sexual nature, and they didn't try to show body parts or converse with any other members of staff or clients.

So at best, your post is 100% speculation and assumption.

Now, in your own words this, 'young attractive pleasant couple', are being vilified and called disgusting on a national website and called all sorts of 'disgusting'.

My money is on you either being jealous of their looks or relationship or, more than likely, this never happened at all.

Edited

They were wanking in public Janet. That's not a pleasant thing to do.

It's clear that the OP means 'they seemed' a pleasant couple, in the same way neighbours say that the serial killer 'seemed like a nice man who loved his mum' until he dismembered her.

I can't imagine being jealous of a woman who risks a criminal record and employment to wank in public for a creepy weirdo who she's been dating for four months. Is that what's aspirational now?

Boomer55 · 16/05/2026 16:30

I can see that you didn't like it, and not something I’d do, but as a waitress, how did it affect you?

FKAT · 16/05/2026 16:31

Boomer55 · 16/05/2026 16:30

I can see that you didn't like it, and not something I’d do, but as a waitress, how did it affect you?

She'd have to give the sticky seat a wipe for the next customer, for a start.

ETA - speaking as an ex waitress / barmaid, the classism by a few on this thread is noted. Waitresses aren't real people - they should just smile at the customers, do as they're told and clean up their body fluids afterwards.

NameChangeMay2026 · 16/05/2026 16:34

I think it's funny 🤣 But they should have been less obvious.

LoyalMember · 16/05/2026 16:36

GenialHarrietGrouty · 16/05/2026 16:23

How was it not OP's business? They chose to do this in the most public part of the restaurant knowing that the waiter staff would have to approach the table while they were doing it. They wanted to make it her business.

Really? Because all we've read is the fevered imagination of the OP. She's no proof whatsoever of what they were or weren't doing. Pulling stupid faces in public isn't proof of sordid sex games. The woman could've been suffering a gastric spasm or cramp of some sort for all we know.

Oliveoy · 16/05/2026 16:38

hallenbad · 16/05/2026 16:04

I always come back to the numbers. I don’t get who the 11% are who think this is OK. Feel for you OP. It’s so disrespectful and unpleasant

That'll be the 11% who think that a waitress in a busy pub and restaurant would be too busy herself to be scrutinising what people are doing with their phones and their facial expressions.

Ilovenutellaaaaa · 16/05/2026 16:38

Doesn't your workplace have CCTV cameras? Tell your boss, you shouldn't have to put up with perverts while trying to do your job

Bigcat25 · 16/05/2026 16:42

LoyalMember · 16/05/2026 16:36

Really? Because all we've read is the fevered imagination of the OP. She's no proof whatsoever of what they were or weren't doing. Pulling stupid faces in public isn't proof of sordid sex games. The woman could've been suffering a gastric spasm or cramp of some sort for all we know.

And she would hardly have looked aroused and animated if that was the case. Why is this so hard to believe? Exhibitionism/kink isn't that rare.

OonaStubbs · 16/05/2026 16:43

Wanking in public is vile and illegal whether it be a man or woman. OP should have called the police and had them hauled off to jail

VividPinkTraybake · 16/05/2026 16:46

Oliveoy · 16/05/2026 16:38

That'll be the 11% who think that a waitress in a busy pub and restaurant would be too busy herself to be scrutinising what people are doing with their phones and their facial expressions.

It'll be the 11% that have actually thought critically about the story rather than taking turns to be disgusted at a tall tale

HRTQueen · 16/05/2026 16:48

It’s grim and another pushing of a boundary that we are meant to accept in the name of people expressing themselves/being into kink

just do it in private or in private places where others will enjoy these pathetic little games

I hope next time they get caught and shamed as that part won’t be so exciting for them

whattheysay · 16/05/2026 16:51

I wouldn’t even have realised what they were doing probably and you actually don’t know what they were doing if any that all, and if I did, and they were, I don’t think I would be so horrified and offended that she had a vibrating egg or whatever I just would have thought they were a couple of weirdos. Unless she was doing a when Harry met sally no one else in the restaurant probably noticed either

Bigcat25 · 16/05/2026 16:52

VividPinkTraybake · 16/05/2026 16:46

It'll be the 11% that have actually thought critically about the story rather than taking turns to be disgusted at a tall tale

Just bc she's busy doesn't mean she's blind! Make it make sense. Op will be seeing them while interacting or walking towards their table.

FKAT · 16/05/2026 16:54

VividPinkTraybake · 16/05/2026 16:46

It'll be the 11% that have actually thought critically about the story rather than taking turns to be disgusted at a tall tale

I take it you've never worked in a bar / restaurant. Customers being disgusting creeps is absolutely the norm. Often the men, but the women too.

But if you think it's a troll, report.

Aspirex · 16/05/2026 17:03

mumofoneAloneandwell · 16/05/2026 14:04

I had to read through twice to get it 😅

She had a vibrator inside her and he was controlling it from his phone?

Eww for you having to serve them 🤢🤢😄😄

💐 yanbu x

I thought they were going to proposition you for a 3some!

Edited

At least you told it better, i didnt get what op was saying.

PistachioTiramisu · 16/05/2026 17:06

Melonmango70 · 16/05/2026 16:16

I didn't even know you could get vibrators that could be controlled by a phone! I'm a bloody dinosaur, clearly!

Nor did I, thank goodness! Not something I even want to think about!

Pedallleur · 16/05/2026 17:10

PistachioTiramisu · 16/05/2026 14:28

Sorry, I really haven't a clue what they were doing (not joking).

Blue tooth vibrator controlled via his phone. Ah the great use of technology.

Holidaymodeon · 16/05/2026 17:15

LoyalMember · 16/05/2026 16:36

Really? Because all we've read is the fevered imagination of the OP. She's no proof whatsoever of what they were or weren't doing. Pulling stupid faces in public isn't proof of sordid sex games. The woman could've been suffering a gastric spasm or cramp of some sort for all we know.

The op has not confirmed that the guy was controlling a vibrator from his phone. How has everyone jumped to this conclusion?
why would he have hidden the phone in his lap if this is the case ?
I don’t believe any couple would have been remotely interested in what the faux waiting staff thought of their vibratory shenanigans either, it’s vanilla as heck

flapjackfairy · 16/05/2026 17:15

dear lord I feel.old. Is this really a thing now !

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