To be uncomfortable as an bit role in customers' sex games?

[Sheenscrot]

I work in a Nice gastropub.

Last night a couple came in for a booked table. The booking notes had asked for sit on the edge of the main section of the restaurant. This isn't uncommon as we have live music on a Friday and it's a good viewing spot. It's a lively pub and busy restaurant.

They were in my section and I welcomed them, got chatting and they told me they we out to celebrate their 4 month anniversary. Champagne was ordered. A pleasant, attractive young couple having a lovely night out.

Then the mood changed a bit; the woman went to the loo and the man played with his phone while she did do.

When she came back he moved his phone to his lap and started to mess with it surreptitiously under the table.

It was so freaking obvious what was going on; her face became animated and she started squirming.

I went back to clear their starter dish and offered more drinks, just doing my job, but they were obviously observing me to see if I noticed.

I went down the civil professional and verging on brusque approach to them fro that point and tried to speed them through the meal to get them off the table quickly.

All the other servers that night were a level students and I wasn't going to expose them to that so I took full ownership of the table.

Grim fuckers Do some people have no shame?

Grim. Do you have a booking system? Can you block them from making reservations in future? Skanky pigs.

Gross

What was your “role”?

That is truly disgusting.

Audience. Non consenting.

Were you the most senior person on shift?

Yeah, those are the kind of fucks that get a kick out of bringing their poor servers and others into their sex games without consent.

Spill drinks on them, they lose their keys, whatever.

I used to work in a phone shop and couples would come in and ask you to look at their phone to fix something or show them a function and there would be a photo of something explicit as the screensaver. They would stand there waiting for your reaction. Just weirdos trying to get their jollies

I think @bigboykitty has a good suggestion.

Surely, this counts as sexual harassment.

Vile. Definitely ban them from future bookings.

Grim. Next time mistakenly serve a pint of beer, and "ooops you got it wrong" and as you pick it up you drop it and over his lap.

I must really be getting old (well, I AM old) - I had just assumed that he was wanking to porn on his phone.

Whichever, utterly 🤮 though.

If a man was having a wank in a public place then he’d be arrested.

How is this any different.

I would like to have asked them to leave or rang the police - but how do you prove it.

I would have just looked over and given a disgusted look and ‘eww’ sound.
If they complained I would have denied it.

Non consenting observer.

For some people they get aroused at the making other people uncomfortable. They enjoy the idea of people being uncomfortable as well as getting a thrill out of knowing a lot of people will not challenge them.

They don’t want to be watched by people who consent to watching, they want to make people feel embarrassed and uncomfortable and they get aroused by watching people trying to hide that discomfort.

It’s fucking grim, when the sex board appeared in active a couple of years ago, there was a thread on there where people were sharing where they go and what they do and how thrilling it is when someone has spotted them and is visibly uncomfortable.

Your being unreasonable
ether call them out or don’t complain

You should have sent one of the students iver to serve them
Something to tell their mates about after work 🤣

Its different because the man would be guilty of two observable acts, indecent exposure and committing a sex act in public. This man is guilty of having a phone on his lap and the woman is guilty of squirming and changing her facial expression. You can't arrest people for that. Which makes it all the worse because its subtle and unprovable, and OP would be gaslit if she tried to do anything about it.

Of course you have a right to be uncomfortable. What a pair of assholes. This is a thing for some people though.

You need to bann him OP. It may not have been the womans fault but he is gross and if it had offended other customers it may cost the buisness some reputational damage.

Why is he more gross than the woman who was enthusiastically taking part in the same thing?

Stop it ! I would never have got that i am clearly very naive 😳

Op that is gross honestly people have no shame.

I would have said to the manager on duty at the very least. Or asked her if she needed medical assistance.

I'd have asked them to leave immediately. At least it would have interrupted their game.

If it bothered you, you could report it as a public order offence section 5.
That it's caused harassment alarm or distress

Eh? Why is he the only one at fault?!