To feel humiliated by my fiancé's stag do video?

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I am not sure what I’m hoping for from posting this..probably some reassurance that I’m not being over the top in feeling so humiliated.

DP returned from his abroad stag do yesterday (we get married later in the summer). A big group went and I know a few of the other partners really well.

One of my friends who is married to one of my DP’s best mates messaged me whilst they were still away to say it sounded mental and she’d had a few photos/videos through from her other half, sent with a drunken message in the early hours of the morning.

She sent me one of the videos which was basically my DP on a sort of podium with a barely dressed woman/dancer wearing a really skimpy sort of bondage outfit. It’s about 2 minutes long and she pulls his shorts down and starts using a whip on him. She then gets him to lie down and she lowers herself above his face.

This is all egged on to cheers and shouting from the group.

I’ve confronted him about it - he says he was pushed into it and had no choice. He also said it was not a strip club and was a normal bar which happened to have the woman on the podium. I have googled the place and it is not a strip club. But the whole resort seems so sleazy. He said they’d been drinking in the sun all day and he barely remembers it, but that was happening to’all the others stags too’.

I find it so so embarrassing all the other partners have probably seen this video too, as it was in the group chat and people would have sent stuff on like happened with my friend.

Thanks to anyone still reading. Am I wrong to have reacted like this?

😂😂😂 with a matching ribbon

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Just laughed so loud the cat scarpered

Good luck with the wedding.

OP please explain where “middle” is on the performer. Was she laid out platter style so it was her belly button he was ‘consuming’ from or was it her vagina?

there’s a world of difference.

It was sticky vicky (2)

I don’t think OP replied the first time I asked ???

but argh…

You must be mad ~ he takes you for a fancy meal and all is forgiven!!! Having his face anywhere near me ~ absolutely NOT. This is going to 'haunt' you every day until the next time ......and believe me there will be a next time. Good luck but I think you need a lot more than luck.

Yeah, I kind of doubt this thread is true after that update tbh.... 🤔

It did sound like a 'gotcha' post.

I was thinking the same

I think it’s okay if there’s a braying audience around them! Because being in plain sight of your friends and of complete strangers makes all sorts of disgusting behaviour acceptable, it seems…

Eww

Yea it did have a bit of a wind em up vibe didnt it? Very stereotypical too with the woman expecting to be fine wined and dined and all will be forgiven.

Oh well.

This. All the best OP 🌺

Definitely.

Well it was a very interesting debate anyway and I certainly learned a few things that I was unaware of.

Everyday clearly is a school day.

Oh well. Good luck in your future with this man who appears to have no mind of his own.

God I’m so sick of fake threads, if that’s what this is. Still, I hope the OP whoever they are, sees that the majority think this behaviour is rank.

The truth is, it could easily not be a fake thread: plenty of men are doing exactly this kind of thing on stag nights, and plenty of women do turn a blind eye.

Whether it was the OP's dp is almost beside the point...

I feel sorry for all of you posters that your standards are so low you believe this woman is not worth more than a man who removes ribbons from a woman’s vagina with their teeth or doesn’t stop a sex worker from grinding on their face, in front of all their closest friends and family.

The image of a man (not OPs necessarily) pulling a fanny juice soaked ribbon out of Sticky Vickys daughter (i believe she took the baton?) keeps popping into my head and is making me feel a bit ill 🤢

Fine if hes single, whatever floats yer fucked up boat, but i just cant fathom how a woman would be remotely cool with that if it was her man 😩