Stag do plans and suspect abbreviations

[WestlieJ]

DP is joint best man for a close friends Wedding in early summer and the stag is abroad next month. DP sorted the logistics of booking, chasing everyone for payment etc (there is 16 people going). The other best man has put together a ‘plan’ for the long weekend and sent to DP for his approval.

I’ve seen this because it’s saved to iCloud and we can jointly access that through the iPad we share to watch Netflix etc.

It’s all fairly standard stuff, but the final section is titled ‘expected costs’ and lists things such as a beer, meal in restaurant, etc, to help people budget. Within this section there are abbreviations, which I’ve taken to be ‘dodgy’ given they are not written in full and one is fairly obviously a strip club, although no idea on ‘MP’.

Ive got it in front of me as took a photo so have written out exactly:

SC - Ent: €10-20 / PD: €50-70
MP - €50 / HR +€30 / OWO + €40 / PM,SO +€50 / FS €100

I have already asked DP who said he scanned over the main itinerary and didn’t even realise that last section was on there and has no idea what it means. He also said he never has and never will step foot in a strip club.

Am I being naive to think DP was unaware? And does anyone know what the last part means?

Well said! That list has made me really angry.

Ah the famous 'bro code' 🙄

So really, when they all defend each other and won't call each other out what it means is they are ALL the same.

So it IS all men 😡

Of course he knows all about it. They all talked about it and visiting sex workers was a topic of conversation that's why a full breakdown of costs has been provided. To think otherwise is naive.
Whether he will actually pay to have sex who knows.

Exactly. I can 100% say that I've never had a prostitute cost sheet dropped into my WhatsApp from anyone.

I'm so glad you said this.

Benidorm isn't the red flag, the men who cheat and do those kinds of things are. Blaming a place is the most naive thing I've ever heard

A PDF remember, that's what op said. A PDF so a lot of thought went into it, and it wasn't something tagged onto the end of an email, it was embedded within a document breaking down the costs and itinerary of the trip. How this isn't giving op the ick factor is beyond me. She needs to forward this to everyone partner of the men going. It's totally deplorable.

Sickening. Poor women who have to put some grim bloke’s dick in their mouth for 40 euro 🤢.

I’d be worried my DH kept this type of company.

I cannot imagine sitting through the wedding after all this knowing the calibre of the guests. No doubt it will be in church .....

Your DH associates with seriously dodgy people and you lie to yourself all you want OP but he NOT a good man, not even close

Some men are so. Fucking. Gross.

Exactly. If the groom gave a shit and wasn’t planning on fucking sex slaves then Benidorm wouldn’t be the chosen destination.

This update 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

YY to "dangerously naive"

Wow!! Please don’t assume things like that. That’s a very libel statement made against me.

Where did I state or deny the statistics you have mentioned? That’s right, I didn’t.

No bro code here thanks.

i wish people would think before they type at times, or even read the whole thread

I cannot imagine sitting through the wedding after all this knowing the calibre of the guests. No doubt it will be in church .....

Oh ... it appeared twice... sorry

Most men on a stag do who cheat/have sex just turn up in Benidorm and hope for the best by trying it on with willing women and going back to their hotel room - this is next level organisation to have sex, no leaving it to chance, they’ve got sex workers all lined up and costed so it’s guaranteed

Asked husband for a male perspective.

He said that’s why never did or never would go on a stag do. Nor did he have one.

I personally would never be with a man who attended these vile places.

Did he reply?

Libel doesn’t apply to anonymous posters on an internet chat forum. Also, you seem perfectly capable of making assumptions, and defending potential predators, so don’t post if you don’t want responses

Yip he knows and OP you are naive to believe such clues from his mouth

@WestlieJ I’d tell him not to come back . It would be over and I’d mean it !

I haven’t excused the behaviour of some men. They want to do it, then they will.

so are you saying I’m the same? As in a rapist as some posters have put regarding men that aren’t lap dancing clubs etc?

My friend once told me her DP had come back from a stag do and gone to get an STD test. He told her it was because he had ‘a lapdance but you know I’m paranoid about germs.’ It took five more years and his actual mother taking her to one side at their engagement dinner to make sure she understood the son was regularly using hookers and then another six months after that before she finally left him. Some women cannot face reality.

Libel is the written word, no matter what format.

What am I assuming? That the op’s hubby might be telling the truth? Who knows, he could be