Stag do plans and suspect abbreviations

[WestlieJ]

DP is joint best man for a close friends Wedding in early summer and the stag is abroad next month. DP sorted the logistics of booking, chasing everyone for payment etc (there is 16 people going). The other best man has put together a ‘plan’ for the long weekend and sent to DP for his approval.

I’ve seen this because it’s saved to iCloud and we can jointly access that through the iPad we share to watch Netflix etc.

It’s all fairly standard stuff, but the final section is titled ‘expected costs’ and lists things such as a beer, meal in restaurant, etc, to help people budget. Within this section there are abbreviations, which I’ve taken to be ‘dodgy’ given they are not written in full and one is fairly obviously a strip club, although no idea on ‘MP’.

Ive got it in front of me as took a photo so have written out exactly:

SC - Ent: €10-20 / PD: €50-70
MP - €50 / HR +€30 / OWO + €40 / PM,SO +€50 / FS €100

I have already asked DP who said he scanned over the main itinerary and didn’t even realise that last section was on there and has no idea what it means. He also said he never has and never will step foot in a strip club.

Am I being naive to think DP was unaware? And does anyone know what the last part means?

I really feel for you, OP, it must be sickening to think that your DH could be complicit in this.

We don't police them, meaning we don't ask them where they are going or what they are doing. I've never heard any random bloke say "OK, I'm off to buy drugs or women". It just doesn't happen like that.
I am not into to drugs or prostitutes, but I am also not some random blokes moral guardian.

It's a group chat. They are all obviously planning on partaking in the activities. The op's dp has been rumbled hence the 'wagatha' sneer.

You don't go on a sex tourist stag do and stay in, home alone admiring the lovely accommodation that you organised whilst everyone else is getting happy endings.

"Benidorm but the pp was probably referring to the op's dp's stag goers penchant for Thailand."

Thank you Gloriia, that was exactly what I ment, his 2 friends that go to Thailand

So will you be telling the bride or will you dh tell the groom and see what his response is ?

You mean AI's analysis?

OP could have put the abbreviations into ChatGPT herself, she's here for support and advice.

Oh the others go for the temples do they? Those middle aged pot bellied men go for the scenery. Yes hun.

If nobody in the group, knowing full well what those abbreviations are for, calls it out, then they're complicit.

That spreadsheet IS the man who wrote it saying, I'm off to Benidorm to pay women for sex.

It does happen like that, it just did.

The PP specifically said men who go there for sex

"Think you missed the word ‘some’ in your post 👍"

No I did not miss off 'some'

I missed off men that rape women for money

I think I'd dump a bloke for even wanting to go to Benners, without any extra information needed.

Yes, so you accept it rather than ask questions and call it out. One day it may be your daughter or sister's husband having sex with a trafficked sex worker while his friends turn a blind eye.

I’ve seen this because it’s saved to iCloud and we can jointly access that through the iPad we share

Just because you can access something it doesn’t mean you should. Is there a reason you stopped to read it all. My guess is either you were being nosey or don’t trust DP… probably the latter.

I find it very unlikely DP scanned the itinerary but conveniently missed the part with the price list for a strip club.

@WestlieJ
Im sure he is being truthful but now he knows what the vibe is ... does he still want to go..

All it takes is too much booze and bad judgement and your relationship is screwed. (And im talking about that from a woman's pov) its a "dangerous" situation to put yourself in.

I'd be telling him to think hard about whether he he wants to go ... and while no one owns anyone I'd think pretty poorly if him if he went.

Benidorm without the prostitutes is pretty grim for a grown ass man

Where is the stag do??

I do think you are being unrealistic to think that just because your OH's area of responsibility was travel and hotel arrangements means he did not know that the overall plan included sex workers.
A bit optimistic I feel.

What is HE going for? He is, by his account, going to distance himself from the group who are involved in this and wander off to drinkion his own. Really?

He might as well stay home and have a drink if he is going with a group of men (I use the term loosely) who will be off doing their own thing without him.

I think a reality check is needed here.

'Not a clue'. Just like the op's dp!

I haven't first hand experience of it as I'm neither a middle aged pot bellied man nor a sex worker or victim of csa. I do however have eyes and ears and have seen media reports and of course there's loads of social media grim stuff too.

The temples though .

Gosh some people are so nasty on here and sooooo judgemental.

You keep looking at media reports and of course social media, we all know that is gospel what is posted…

not interested in temples either to be honest

Don't you just love it when a herd of men turn up on a thread where the thread has prostitution aka raped and abused women and spout shit? 🥱

Wouldn't set foot in a strip club eh. Yeah and butter wouldn't melt.

i answered the question the op asked

"And does anyone know what the last part means?"

the op did not specifiy how or what tools i used, so i did my best rather than guessing so why is the fact i used Ai an issue ?

Owo means oral without i.e no condom

Yes that has been pointed out approximately 20 times.