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Carol Vorderman has culled her lovers from five down to three.

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NovemberMorn · 07/03/2026 18:11

Carol Vorderman has had to slash the number of lovers she has down from five to three, admitting: “Times are hard.”
She now only has a trio of three long-term “special” male friends on the go after previously enjoying the attention of five.
The maths whiz has always been open about loving her friends with benefits.

So...
Is it reasonable for a woman of a certain age to have multiple lovers....not to mention the energy.

Is it unreasonable, immoral, and just plain tacky?

Carol Vorderman makes 'burnout' admission as she's left crying on the floor

Former Countdown presenter Carol Vorderman has opened up about her health battles, including a chronic condition that left her in tears and unable to move

https://www.dailystar.co.uk/showbiz/carol-vorderman-makes-burnout-admission-36116752

OP posts:
Disturbia81 · 07/03/2026 21:09

Sunnyperson · 07/03/2026 20:13

i am in my early 50s and totally applaud older women who look great and want to be sexy. She might be a bit OTT, it we need women like her. Too many miserable middle aged women always talking about menopause and it brings me down at times.

I agree. So many on here talk about invisibility yet make no effort or want to be sexual beings. Speak for themselves

sammylady37 · 07/03/2026 21:11

RobinInTheCrabApple · 07/03/2026 19:48

What women around Carol's age (65) need to be told that sex can be great?

Most women with an interest cottoned on to that fact some time back.

Indeed. I’m astounded anyone thinks this is something women in their 60s need to be told.

BootMaker · 07/03/2026 21:11

'Look at ME'

It's absolutely fine to have as many lovers as one likes.

But nobody needs to know about it. Repeatedly.

It gives, 'Nobody liked me at school' vibes.

sammylady37 · 07/03/2026 21:12

Disturbia81 · 07/03/2026 19:44

It’s not hard for women to find fwb at any age. It’s a womans market. A proper relationship with a decent man.. is hard at any age.

I’ve never been happier than having 3 men on the go at the moment. No commitment, lots of variety, no getting sick of each other. I’ve realised one man can’t give me everything. I love the different personalities, looks, way they touch etc. And one is being annoying or isn’t available then there’s other options.

Edited

All of this. Having multiple lovers is a great way of getting variety, ensuring nobody gets too attached etc.

BootMaker · 07/03/2026 21:13

Sunnyperson · 07/03/2026 20:13

i am in my early 50s and totally applaud older women who look great and want to be sexy. She might be a bit OTT, it we need women like her. Too many miserable middle aged women always talking about menopause and it brings me down at times.

Hmm, there is a middle ground...

saraclara · 07/03/2026 21:14

Zov · 07/03/2026 20:24

I have to say though, I do like Carol! I find her quite pleasant and vibrant, and she is attractive. Smile

Except her face (and I suspect her body) is basically plastic.

OneBreezyHelper · 07/03/2026 21:16

posted it because it is unusual for a woman (of a certain age) to talk publicly about having multiple lovers.

I think it's unusual for a woman of any age to talk about that! And it's tacky to talk about it.

Privately? Good for her.

I doubt anyone is actually interested and couldn’t care less about her love life.
they are, or there wouldn't be this thread about her for a start 😂

Disturbia81 · 07/03/2026 21:18

sammylady37 · 07/03/2026 21:11

Indeed. I’m astounded anyone thinks this is something women in their 60s need to be told.

I don’t think it’s about telling them that sex is great. It’s that it’s okay to not be in commited long term relationships and that we can be sexual beings for as long as we fucking want. Not when the patriarchy decides.

Forestgreenblue · 07/03/2026 21:23

Why would she make this public info? She’s unbelievably cringy.

If you want sex then fine, but there’s absolutely no need that anyone needs to know how many partners you have

YerMotherWasAHamster · 07/03/2026 21:31

Forestgreenblue · 07/03/2026 21:23

Why would she make this public info? She’s unbelievably cringy.

If you want sex then fine, but there’s absolutely no need that anyone needs to know how many partners you have

She didn't.

The piece linked says absolutely nothing about it.

Not that anyone cares.

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 07/03/2026 21:39

AmandaBrotzman · 07/03/2026 20:40

You think carol vorderman can't get 5 lovers? Of course she can. She could have as many as she wants! Some women aren't monogamous by nature. She's childfree, why shouldn't she do what makes her happy?

She isn’t childfree - she has adult children.

Not that it makes a difference in terms of who she is or isn’t shagging.

Myyearmytime · 07/03/2026 21:49

Come on use your heads the reason she says these things is to stop the men selling stories on her .Maybe 2 of the men have saying something some where. So if she open about what she does . There is not story to talk about .
As you have all.

have been saying who cares what she does in bed.

ThatJadeLion · 07/03/2026 21:52

I don't believe her for a second. It keeps her in the press.

IberianLynx · 07/03/2026 21:53

How old are the 3/5 lovers? I wonder if she has got some older for the experience and some younger that can perform multiple times. I personally would not be up for having 5 blokes on rotation and I would only ever be happy in a monogamous relationship. But if she/they are happy then that’s up to them.

brendaschmenda · 07/03/2026 22:06

tobee · 07/03/2026 19:06

I’m too lazy to read the article in the link but what does that mean “times are hard”? Why does times being hard mean you have to give 2 of your lovers the elbow? Am I just very naive?

The article mentioned absolutely nothing about any lovers, let alone 5 of them, and nothing about times
being hard.

Donr understand any of this. The headline bears no resemblance to what has actually had been written in the article.

B1anche · 07/03/2026 22:07

daisychain01 · 07/03/2026 20:08

Well if it's good enough for the French, where the phrase originates from (Une femme d'un certain age = a middle-aged woman). it's good enough for us!

I absolutely love Carol Vordeman, she's intelligent, good company and full of confidence.

I bet they're queueing up at her door, and we have no way of knowing what she gets up to, they could be sitting there holding hands watching Netflix with a cup of cocoa. It doesn't matter!

Edited

It's patronising in any language.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 07/03/2026 22:13

I think it’s fine. She had a bit of a second wind in life, I think. Put down her whiteboard marker, had a restyle, and got out there. She’s not tied down, and doesn’t want to be. She is very much in control which is the safest place to be.

I think a lot of women who have had an unfulfilling marriage will be looking at her and planning a more exciting future.

YerMotherWasAHamster · 07/03/2026 22:34

brendaschmenda · 07/03/2026 22:06

The article mentioned absolutely nothing about any lovers, let alone 5 of them, and nothing about times
being hard.

Donr understand any of this. The headline bears no resemblance to what has actually had been written in the article.

It's a very good example of how misinformation is spread, isnt it?

Specialagentblond · 07/03/2026 22:50

Very sensible Carol

TempestTost · 07/03/2026 22:53

NovemberMorn · 07/03/2026 18:24

I agree. Talking amongst your female friends I could accept, announcing it publicly is tacky.
However, maybe it could reassure other women in their 60's that it's OK to sleep with as many men as they like. I do believe there is still a stigma attached to women who sleep around, but I doubt that's the reason she is talking so openly.

I'm not sure that is so unusual, seniors is demographic that has very high rates of STIs.

LorenzoCalzone · 07/03/2026 23:03

I really like her. She defies expectations.

WirelessInternet · 07/03/2026 23:23

I think Carol is great, but even if I didn’t, she’d be free to do what she likes as long as nobody is getting hurt.

Any other opinion is irrelevant and I think it’s a shame there’s so much very thinly veiled jealousy on this thread. And people think men are the misogynistic ones.

PartyAnimalQueen · 07/03/2026 23:27

I’m curious, those saying it is tacky for her to say how many sexual partners she has - would you say the same if it was a man saying it?!

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 07/03/2026 23:30

PartyAnimalQueen · 07/03/2026 23:27

I’m curious, those saying it is tacky for her to say how many sexual partners she has - would you say the same if it was a man saying it?!

I think it’s tacky whoever is saying it.

The only people who need to know about someone’s sex life are those directly participating and any relevant medical professionals.

Denim4ever · 07/03/2026 23:33

GardenGaff · 07/03/2026 18:37

It’s all a bit Jay from The Inbetweeners, I’m not sure I believe it tbh.

She's always been a bit of a conundrum. She didn't do very well in her degree but somehow ended up with this egghead reputation.

I don't know that I'd want to talk about it if I was having such an out there/exciting sex life.

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