Am I being over sensitive?

[Bulldog01]

Back in June 2025,we were invited to my Husband's niece wedding reception.We declined as we live 130 miles from the reception.We sent a decent card with best wishes & a Cheque for £50.00 dated 11/06/25.We would normally send much more,but as we were not attending the reception & her behavior in the past was verging on very rude to our daughter at a previous wedding.We did not feel this was being mean.Today 6/1/26 a cheque was cleared on our bank account from my husband's niece six months after it was sent! I was really quite annoyed by this! Husband thought I was being overly sensitive. Lucky we had some money in the account to pay the cheque.What are your thoughts?

You mean like has been said countless times on this thread and been pointed out just as many times that it's not always an option...

I don’t understand the issue either. If you’re paying things by cheque (why?) then wouldn’t you keep track and have a list somewhere of everything outstanding? I’m 45 so way back when I used cheques I’d keep a running total of outstanding cheques so I didn’t overdraft.

I have no idea why you’d send someone a gift and then begrudge them using it. What did you expect?

My question is did she acknowledge the cheque ? Or has she cashed it in without a thank you ?