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Original poster

This horrid little man

148 replies

Lovelycupofcoffee · 23/12/2025 10:51

So almost a year ago I asked a local painter and decorator to come and quote for some work . Ever since then he’s been sending unwanted messages and recently other unwanted images ( you know what I mean 🤣) . I’ve blocked him numerous times but he must have 2 phones as a few weeks later the calls and messages start again . He’s definitely married or has a partner . If he contacts me again would you tell him you will report for stalking ? I’d rather he just sods off but I know he will be back as I think he probably does this quite a lot 😕

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JacquesHarlow · 23/12/2025 10:53

You need to tell the police please. I think it's the best way as you don't know how these things can escalate (not trying to worry you AT ALL but just saying).

Pppiglets · 23/12/2025 10:53

Report him now! Merry Christmas asshole 🧑‍🎄

francii · 23/12/2025 10:53

Just report him for stalking? You’re probably not the first and won’t be the last. I’d be tempted to post something on his business page too (anonymously) to warn other women.

BePoisedPlumUser · 23/12/2025 10:54

I had this with someone who came to give me a quote and then sent me a picture of his willy. I went to the police because it’s basically flashing and they tried to call him but he didn’t pick up so that was that.

GretaGip · 23/12/2025 10:54

That's completely unacceptable.

Don't go down the smiley face route; get angry.

This is a crime.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 23/12/2025 10:56

I'd call 101 now to be honest.

And as for your 🤣 at unwanted pictures...it's not remotely funny. That's just how men want women to view it. "Oh it was just a bit of banter love"

Sartre · 23/12/2025 10:56

I had an electrician try this once. Not the nude images but he kept texting me trying to flirt and once asked if I could smell a BBQ because he was at a house near mine having one so should come join. I wasn’t remotely interested in him, I’d just invited him into my house to fix something. It’s really gross and predatory. I think you should inform the police.

B1anche · 23/12/2025 10:57

I can't believe you find it amusing. For fucks sake, no wonder men get away with this shit. If he has been sending you pictures of his penis, report it to the police...NOW. Don't wait for him to do it again.

Topseyt123 · 23/12/2025 11:00

It's a crime and it isn't at all funny so why the laughing emojis? It's threatening stalker behaviour.

Report him to the police. You can do it using their 101 number.

Supply them with copies of the texts, messages, pictures and all phone numbers he has used. That would give the best chance of him being traceable and at least getting a warning/criminal record.

Makemeanonymous · 23/12/2025 11:00

You need to report this to the police.

And i would think you won't be the only woman he is behaving like this with.

Paperwhite209 · 23/12/2025 11:00

I'd not only report to him to the police, I'd track down his partner on social media and send her the screenshots.

Repulsive little c*nt

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Lovelycupofcoffee · 23/12/2025 11:01

I’ve just blocked him again and will report. He’s definitely married or with a partner as the calls and messages only happen at set times . He did say on the last message he was away for Xmas with family . What a vile creature 🤮

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Devilsmommy · 23/12/2025 11:01

It's astounding that some men think this is acceptable in any way. Why would you want a dick pic? What do they believe is going to happen? Would love to hear the reasoning behind it. Report the twat asap

Philandbill · 23/12/2025 11:01

Police. It's flashing and no more acceptable in picture form than it is in real life. You may be calm about this but the next person he does this too may get really anxious and upset. I'd hate to think of him doing this to my young adult DC, she'd be very worried and upset.

JustMyView13 · 23/12/2025 11:02

No, I wouldn't tell him I'm reporting him.
I'd just report it. I can't believe you've accepted it for this long already. It's harassment.

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Lovelycupofcoffee · 23/12/2025 11:06

Blocked and reported.

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randomchap · 23/12/2025 11:07

Lovelycupofcoffee · 23/12/2025 11:06

Blocked and reported.

To the police?

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Lovelycupofcoffee · 23/12/2025 11:11

Yep called the 101 number . Vile little man 🤮

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B1anche · 23/12/2025 11:12

Lovelycupofcoffee · 23/12/2025 11:11

Yep called the 101 number . Vile little man 🤮

Crikey that was quick.

randomchap · 23/12/2025 11:13

Lovelycupofcoffee · 23/12/2025 11:11

Yep called the 101 number . Vile little man 🤮

Good. Arseholes like him are a fucking blight

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Lovelycupofcoffee · 23/12/2025 11:14

I’m not sure why I put up with it this long . He goes quiet for ages then comes back . Its not at all funny and as I live on my own it’s bloody scarey.

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CameraGown · 23/12/2025 11:15

Random question, are you in the north west as we have a local guy who is well known for this

Clarehandaust · 23/12/2025 11:16

Paperwhite209 · 23/12/2025 11:00

I'd not only report to him to the police, I'd track down his partner on social media and send her the screenshots.

Repulsive little c*nt

And then you’d be charged with sharing an indecent image, It’s a rare day when the partner says thank you so much for telling me the man I live with is a sleaze bag

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Lovelycupofcoffee · 23/12/2025 11:17

@CameraGown no I’m down south but hopefully it ends today . Just a nasty little man 🤮

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HosierLanez · 23/12/2025 11:17

GretaGip · 23/12/2025 10:54

That's completely unacceptable.

Don't go down the smiley face route; get angry.

This is a crime.

Police need to be told. This is how worse behaviour begins and in and of itself is unacceptable…