This horrid little man

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So almost a year ago I asked a local painter and decorator to come and quote for some work . Ever since then he’s been sending unwanted messages and recently other unwanted images ( you know what I mean 🤣) . I’ve blocked him numerous times but he must have 2 phones as a few weeks later the calls and messages start again . He’s definitely married or has a partner . If he contacts me again would you tell him you will report for stalking ? I’d rather he just sods off but I know he will be back as I think he probably does this quite a lot 😕

I think it’s something we need to grapple with as a society - I can understand why you “put up with it” and why you used laughing emojis - because in some way you need permission to be outraged and hopefully this thread did that for you. Because it is so wrong but we aren’t there yet as a society to make it feel like you are not “overreacting” etc. We all need to support people going through this and continuously say with kindness and a little bit of sternness no you aren’t wrong this is unacceptable and we support you in taking a stand - so in the least patronising way possible well done for posting initially and for being brave enough to stand up for yourself

Appalling OP. Sadly I had the same thing a few years ago. I ended up changing my number out of desperation.

You get off mumsnet and tell the police now.
If this is true it could escalate.

@PlazaAthenee its definitely true . Now reported though

I'm in the north west, and I've had this happen, but sadly, I think it's just much more common everywhere than we'd like to think. I try to find women to do any work I need doing now, but where I live, the trades are still very male-dominated so it's not always easy.

@Bodhifatva i just think it’s very sad that you can’t have tradesmen in your house without them seeing you as a challenge

Definitely report. This is how stalking starts!

That's absolutely rubbish. Police can locate the phone even when it's switched off.

I haven't voted, only because I think you are unreasonable to have not reported it already. It's a crime and needs to be dealt with as such. This is something that nobody should be "laughing off". On it's own it's bad enough and definitely worth reporting. But you just never know which individuals will escalate and how far they'll go.

I would also report him to your local Trading Standards (usually to be found via your county council's website). He's using his professional capacity to target people. I occasionally work with our local TS team - they take a very dim view of these sorts of things.

Phone the police or get a male friend to go and knock his block off

I’d be tempted to screen shot his messages and post them on the local fb page or his business page warning women not to have him in their house (blur out the offending pics obvs)

Yes, report, as he’s a painter & decorator he’ll be working in people’s homes, and likely with lone women. That’s bloody scary.

Call 101, dont delete the messages or block him again as anything he sends is evidence and escalation

Let the police deal with it.

If you dont and just threaten it you risk his behaviour escalating in dangerous ways. Pleases dont respond, do report

I’m glad you’ve reported him. Who knows how many people he has done this to. It needs to be dealt with before it escalates and someone gets hurt.

Can you find out who his other half is via social media? I had excellent results once with "I've screenshotted everything you've sent me and if it happens again I'll send the lot to Helen".

@Elsvieta im just going to move on I think and I’ve reported him this time . Scummy little man 🤮

I'd have reported him to the police the first time...

I had this with a cousin of an ex once he messaging me on instagram he was gross - kept doing it so I screenshotted the messages, then posted them on my stories and tagged him calling him out ! That shut him up 😆

maybe post about it on a local face book group or whatever places he gets his business from fuck him
the creep

Straight to the police. What he's doing is illegal and he's probably doing it to other women. Vile POS.

Yeesh, after knob#2 I’d have told him I was reporting him to the police- this is a criminal offence. I can’t believe you’ve put up with it for so long!

Christ don’t do this. It’s probably a criminal offence to repost it, and it will get you blocked from Facebook from eternity.

Just tell him that you’re saving every message and if he sends one more you’ll
go to the police. Or go to the police anyway.

How is it a criminal offence to post truthful words someone actually sent @Heronwatcher !

these men get away with this kind of shit all the time cus they mostly do get away with no consequences

theh Always think nobody will say anything

(I obviously wouldn’t post dick pics)

It always totally confuses me that they do this?? I assume it’s to shock ? Or do they think women will look at the picture and think ‘hmm that’s enticing’ when in reality penises are pretty ugly things .

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