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Avoidable professional

143 replies

mauditsoitils · 11/12/2025 17:14

Im mid thirties and more or less single after a LTR through my twenties. Im childfree and happy to stay childfree.

Im happy and content in my singleness - truly- I have a nice life, good friends, amazing siblings, brilliant nieces, à career that has its ups and downs but that is rewarding. I am economically stable.

So here is the question - without justification - one evening many yonks ago - my elder sister made me promise to never date people from a certain profession. She didn't want to elaborate but just said "Don't".
My best friend of many years (Male) recently said as long as you don't choose à "same profession" you'll be happy. He didn't want to elaborate either.

Sister is an academic, best friend is a surgeon, I'm a lawyer.

AIBU to ask you to guess thé profession?

I ask because I am being quite nicely flirted with be a man who is "profession" ... He's a relative stranger - we met in real life but no mutual acquaintances.

OP posts:
LawrieForShepherdsBoy · 11/12/2025 17:18

Police officer and surgeon are the ones that always come up on threads like this. Police officer cause apparently they’re always shagging. Surgeons cause (understandable) god complex.

StrawberryJangle · 11/12/2025 17:20

I was thinking police or surgeon purely due to hours.

StrawberryJangle · 11/12/2025 17:20

I always ended up with musicians... Never again!

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 11/12/2025 17:22

I don't think it is a related to a specific 'profession' but my advice would be to not get involved in any adult who believes in Father Christmas.

Good luck, and I hope that helps.

WellyBellyBoo · 11/12/2025 17:24

Pilot?

swingingbytheseat · 11/12/2025 17:25

Doctor

50notNifty · 11/12/2025 17:25

Police officer, fire fighter...don't!

UnNiddeRides · 11/12/2025 17:27

Chef

TortillaRapping · 11/12/2025 17:30

Military?
Finance?
Estate agent?

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 11/12/2025 17:30

Politician? I'd never date a politician.

patooties · 11/12/2025 17:31

Dr or copper.

PurpleLlama421 · 11/12/2025 17:33

Police officer

patooties · 11/12/2025 17:34

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 11/12/2025 17:30

Politician? I'd never date a politician.

Why not ?

HoppityBun · 11/12/2025 17:34

Prostitution?

How strictly are you defining “profession”?

notatinydancer · 11/12/2025 17:34

Doctor or police.

coolcahuna · 11/12/2025 17:35

Police

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 11/12/2025 17:39

patooties · 11/12/2025 17:34

Why not ?

Why not "Dr or copper"?
Presumably similar reasons.

Mainly, because the politicians who have a conscious and are decent people, aren't very good at being politicians and the politicians who are good at being politicians aren't very nice people.

TortillaRapping · 11/12/2025 17:39

This is making me laugh and relieved I am married. As a full-time nhs consultant, I have just realised I am undateable ;-)

RaininSummer · 11/12/2025 17:43

Social worker or teacher.

TotHappy · 11/12/2025 17:44

Squaddie?

JLou08 · 11/12/2025 17:45

Police or Army. So much misogyny and abuse. Not all of them, I know 1 man who was in the Navy and is lovely but for that 1 I know 5 that were abusive men.

Panicmode1 · 11/12/2025 17:45

Surgeon is usually the answer...but my brother is one and he's lovely 😊 (and single...!)

purpleygrey · 11/12/2025 17:46

police or pilot.

MadTurkey · 11/12/2025 17:47

Well, regardless of what the Undateable Job is, I don’t think I’d take the slightest notice of this kind of advice. I’ve gone out with doctors of various stripes, a lawyer, a paparazzo, a farmer, several academics, a chef, a search and rescue helicopter pilot. Theur jobs weren’t the reason I’m not still with any of them.

Sadsadthings · 11/12/2025 18:11

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 11/12/2025 17:39

Why not "Dr or copper"?
Presumably similar reasons.

Mainly, because the politicians who have a conscious and are decent people, aren't very good at being politicians and the politicians who are good at being politicians aren't very nice people.

I can absolutely attest to this.

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