Avoidable professional

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Im mid thirties and more or less single after a LTR through my twenties. Im childfree and happy to stay childfree.

Im happy and content in my singleness - truly- I have a nice life, good friends, amazing siblings, brilliant nieces, à career that has its ups and downs but that is rewarding. I am economically stable.

So here is the question - without justification - one evening many yonks ago - my elder sister made me promise to never date people from a certain profession. She didn't want to elaborate but just said "Don't".
My best friend of many years (Male) recently said as long as you don't choose à "same profession" you'll be happy. He didn't want to elaborate either.

Sister is an academic, best friend is a surgeon, I'm a lawyer.

AIBU to ask you to guess thé profession?

I ask because I am being quite nicely flirted with be a man who is "profession" ... He's a relative stranger - we met in real life but no mutual acquaintances.

I have a stupid childish crush on a doctor who is also a part time musician. He's got red flags written all over him, can't quite put my finger on it but have a feeling he couldn't be trusted with a barge pole.

There was a programme where George Clarke took over a home renovation/loft extension. The couple were on a really tight budget, and specifically wanted a bedroom with en suite bathroom. He hosed all their money on one of those Velux window/balcony things, and left the en suite as an empty shell “to be finished in their own time”.

The husband was understandably upset, and George had the brass neck to be pissed off at their ‘ingratitude’ and did a little piece to camera about, “well I did my best with the money they had, no pleasing some people”. No you didn’t, you arrogant twat, you did what you wanted with their money and zero regard for what they’d actually asked for!

My daughter is a commercial interior designer and does Healthcare to commercial spaces, so has worked with architects from most areas. There's a high divorce rate, and a good portion of male architects have huge egos. They look down on others, cannot be bothered acknowledging any effort or level of work one puts into a project. So essentially an egotistical, anal retentative, self-centered human being.

My dad was a fireman. Devoted dad and husband. Shiftwork was swings and roundabouts but he made it work to our family's advantage.

I would guess that they are talking about someone in the police force!

Bailiff?

My husband is an Architect, we live in the midlands and he works on mainly residential! Nice clients who are mainly families. Luckily he doesn’t work long hours as most small practices have a good work life balance unlike those that might work in London. They have to be technically minded and creative.. Take a chance and meet the guy?
You have to study for 7 years to qualify so you have to work really hard and have a lot of dedication, all good qualities in a person I’d say. I studied part 1 myself and know that you have to deal with a lot of criticism and sacrifice a lot to make deadlines at Uni, I think it’s quite an achievement actually becoming qualified and as a bonus you get to go on holiday and look at beautiful places and locations! Give them a chance I’d say ! I’d say your sister has massively stereotyped them then if her husband is an engineer.

I don’t know enough architects to comment. I wouldn’t want to live with someone wanting to spend years living in a building site building his Grand Design type cock extension though. There is no job I would definitely veto. Therapists are a bit intense though so it would have to be an atypical therapist to attract me

.....or any male over 16 who wants a lightsabre for Christmas.

I have been invited to lunch tomorrow. I will keep you posted!

He's a restoration architect. (I think the UK équivalant is a listed buildings architect.) Lunch was nice. He seems pretty laid back. Didn't give off any massive ego vibes. Does have architect glasses. Was not wearing a turtle neck. We're having coffee Friday morning before our christmas office break. I'll give it a go having found out from this thread that my profession is also avoidable ;-).

Child minder

Hmm. A mixed message. Not overly swooning but nice enough to risk a second non date.
Are you seeing your sister over Christmas? - it's time to start the subtle campaign to improve her regard of architects. Maybe drop in a few references to their work in the Notre Dame restoration?

In fairness, architects all loathe interior designers.

It's not that I'm not swooning - he is a hottie - but prudence is needed - him being an architect aside - we work in the same building - share the same lunch spots... etc etc.

That made me smile for very outing reasons - I have PM"d you!

Ah, right. So you need to evaluate how the break-up will be before you've even started dating!

Got your PM thanks.

The next decent boulangerie for lunch is a 10 minute walk ... priorities priorities!