My three year old boy causing havoc at preschool

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He’s not listening at circle time, disruptive during any lessons or activities where he just needs to sit and listen. He laughs at the teachers and just continues the behaviour.

they remove him if he’s too disruptive and ignoring them.

at home, he has a fair amount of tantrums and doesn’t listen particularly well. We use consequences like taking toys away, taking him out of the situation. We use a reward star jar for good behaviour and praise good behaviour as much as possible, rather than always focusing in on bad behaviour.

I deflect a lot, give options and pre-empt situations as to avoid fall outs / confrontations. I find that if I’m too confrontational with him, it just ends badly and he acts up even more. It’s almost as if he wants to go against what you want him to do, so it’s best to not use too many words sometimes and just get him to do it.

anyway, he’s definitely a hand full ! He turned 3 recently and is quite a clever little boy in many ways, but he does have days where he’s pretty unbearable and has a lot of tantrums. Clearly at preschool it’s also a strain on the teachers. Unless he’s fully engaged, he becomes disruptive.

any advice ?

My son's the same, also the youngest in the cohort at preschool. Don't forget that there are a lot of nearly 4 year olds in the same room so his behaviour will stand out more. Doesn't mean there is anything wrong. I'd bear with it a while longer and see if in a few months he's caught up. But I echo other folks and see if you can find a setting where there's more outdoors provision/greater focus on hands on stuff. He may also simply benefit from being held back a year so instead of being the youngest he'll be the oldest. My sister did this with my nephew and it's done him a world of good

im not the OP but that was reassuring to read about your experience