She ordered a Curry and hasn’t paid me

[OnePeachA]

Friend came to my house

I was going to cook but she asked if I fancied a curry. I said that would be really nice actually

Her JustEat app wasn’t working so I said have a look on mine for places that are open. She picked Indian.

I put everything I wanted in and she added hers. Total came to £52ish. Over 65% of that cost was hers.

I said I could just check out and sort it later. I have messaged to ask if she had the money today as a gentle reminder, and she said she thought it was my treat?

I said oh, we must have got crossed wires then. She said ‘I did cover the shop’

She went to the corner shop for wine and snacks. I got a Grape Fanta!

Where do I go from here? Leave it? Was it reasonable for her to assume it was in fact my treat?

This conjured such a visual image! 😆😆

Can you get her to do a PayPal invoice? She must have a card if she had a justeat app….

She is such a CF. How many more excuses will she come up with to fucking stiff you? Bad friend.

Surely if you’re ordering a rice each you don’t need naan? You’re supposed to order one or the other 😂. No wonder it was expensive!

This is how I would play it.

Right. So her just eat app wasn’t working, and now she doesn’t do internet banking. That’s convenient isn’t it?

I don’t think that you’re very to get that money back OP. She is CF extraordinaire. I wouldn’t bother seeing her again if I were you.

I don’t believe she doesn’t do online banking in 2025! What a joke. She’s trying to make it seem as awkward as possible for you. Suggest PayPal.

Yes I didn’t even think of that but now you mention is, what BS! As if a professional app like that just randomly “wouldn’t work”

It’s highly unlikely she doesn’t do online banking. She’s hoping you’ll not ask again. CF.

Missing the point but 3 nans for 2 people!

I’d be distancing myself from her after you’ve had your money back, she definitely lacks morals and empathy and shame if she behaves this way. A normal person would feel guilty and cringe at doing this.

This. So weird.

You have now learnt she is not a good friend. Absolutely no adult expects a "treat' for no reason from a friend..why?!

You offered dinner she suggested take away.

You may never see the money as the not doing Internet banking is top level byllshit

I can't believe you can manage a bag of crumbs, I'm absolutely stuffed from the aroma! A good deep breath and that's me done, couldn't possibly eat a thing! I actually find it rather gluttonous to be eating anything at all!

“Gosh not doing internet banking in this day and age is unusual isn’t it! Not to worry - I’ll pop by yours to get it - what day and time is good?”

Doesn't do online banking! What an excuse. 😆

"oh wow, no, I was ready to cook for us when you suggested the takeaway! Anyway, if it's easier, you can PayPal it over. Otherwise yes I suppose you'll need to take the money out the old fashioned way. Let me know, you can just pop it in an envelope through the door (or whatever) Thanks!"

If you want to over egg it you can add a "go ahead and deduct the £3 for the Fanta I had" if she even mentions snacks again.

From how she phrased it I’d expect she was treating you. On the other hand, if you invite someone to your home you usually provide food. However, unless she exceptionally socially inexperienced, it is also not polite to refuse the meal on offer at host’s home, let alone demand something different and more expensive and expect host to cover costs.

WE'vE lOsT siGHt oF whAT A NOrmaAL aMoUNt of NAan BrEAd IS 🥴

Ha ha at 'doesn't do online banking'

I'm 47 and don't do online banking. Although I do use the automated phone service to pay bills and transfer money so she could do that instead of having to draw the cash out.

oh phew 😂😂😂
if I came to yours and you offered to make me spaghetti with a tyre I’d most definitely offer to buy you a takeaway 😝

It hardly ever is on AIBU. Waiting for someone to bring up Hungry House.

Sorry OP, she sounds like a chancer. Either that, or when she asked about takeaway and you offered, she assumed you were offering to get the whole meal. (Clutching).

If she doesn’t do online banking how was she going to be using justeat for a takeaway she wanted.

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Send her your bank details and the amount, don't engage with cash drop offs. Let her arrange it.