She ordered a Curry and hasn’t paid me

[OnePeachA]

Friend came to my house

I was going to cook but she asked if I fancied a curry. I said that would be really nice actually

Her JustEat app wasn’t working so I said have a look on mine for places that are open. She picked Indian.

I put everything I wanted in and she added hers. Total came to £52ish. Over 65% of that cost was hers.

I said I could just check out and sort it later. I have messaged to ask if she had the money today as a gentle reminder, and she said she thought it was my treat?

I said oh, we must have got crossed wires then. She said ‘I did cover the shop’

She went to the corner shop for wine and snacks. I got a Grape Fanta!

Where do I go from here? Leave it? Was it reasonable for her to assume it was in fact my treat?

Sez who? Honestly, all this monitoring and faux horror on this thread about peoples food choices. Was it handed down to Moses on a tablet that thou shall order either rice or a naan. Never both? 🙄

@MidnightMeltdown The plain naans used to be complimentary and you wouldn’t have to pay for them. But now you even have to pay for the naan 😅. Unless you were specifically ordering garlic naan or tandoori naan, they’d come free with the meal as well as some poppadoms. Those were my favourite part of the meal.

I saw something similar to spaghetti in a tyre at my DH’s care home today. Wish I’d taken a photo.

Any road, who orders an Indian without poppadoms?

And beer?

There is no way you’re going to see that money. I’d cut my losses and send one final message:

“If money is so tight, maybe you should’ve accepted my offer to cook. All this quibbling about paying your share is so tacky, I’m embarrassed for you. So long CF.”

Tyre might have been a bit too chewy tbh 🤔 :)

How convenient that her just eat app was down. Didn't she know that she could just use the online version by typing just eat into Google Chrome and could order it that way.
She suggested getting a curry in the first place so, how does that translate into "your treat".
God, what a cheeky bitch.
Send her X figure of what she owes her with a message along the lines of, is this worth losing our friendship over?
It would be the end of it for me anyway.

I think OP needs to cut her off once she’s got her money. She needs to keep badgering her.

'YOU suggested a curry, then claimed your just eat app 'wasn't working'. With hindsight I should've just asked you to add your card details to my account? So no, I wasn't planning on treating you I'm afraid. Quite the contrary actually.'

Then she could've removed them after paying for the food she so desperately required.

So her excuse is double bullshit. She was clearly potless. Why the hell would it be your 'treat'. And how much fucking food could one person eat!

That sounds like she must have ordered about two starters, two mains and two sides just for her?

I'd make it plain it wasn't your treat but you'll be cool if she pays for a meal next time. Give her one chance to redeem herself.

Come next week, if she doesn't do just that I'd consider whether I wanted to be mates with her anymore. Cheeky cow!

Hang on, so her part of the Indian was about 33 pounds, plus she bought herself snacks? Greedy little piggie!! She probably spent on the snacks and wine because she was planning to get you to treat her. And of course she took the snacks home instead of sharing with you!

33 pounds is a lot to subsidise someone. There was no reason for her to think it was your treat considering you checked out saying that you could settle up later. That was NOT a cheap takeaway. She was being a CF! So glad you didn't let her off the hook.

Best auto correct. Made me laugh out loud

£32 worth of food for one person from an Indian takeaway?! That's ridiculous. Maybe it isn't two of everything but it's more than one person's worth! Even for a bodybuilder. Unless it's a haute cuisine 3 Michelin starred restaurant in Mayfair doing Deliveroo?
One portion of curry alone and two sides is plenty for two people with bread or poppadoms?!

As if!
Delaying tactics, buying more time to wriggle out of it, hoping you'll give up/feel too awkward to keep asking her if she keeps making excuses

Me and five family members ordered one naan to share in 2012. We're still working our way through it as we also made the mistake of ordering one portion of rice as well. My sister had to eat my fifth of the family poppadom, I was so stuffed.

Your friend is a CF, OP. Her reply was crap - she was indeed hoping to get away with a free meal.

She's a CF.
That was very expensive.

"Spaghetti with a tyre"? - bloody hell, OP, how big is your pan?

Who the fuck lives in 2025 in a first world country and doesn’t have online banking?
reply haha really? You should get that sorted, I don’t know anyone under 90 who doesn’t have online banking. Can you get into the branch tomorrow? You could probably set up online banking in less time.

I would have thought that it’s just basic common sense unless you enjoy being obese. The rice alone is more than a portion size, why would you order 3 naans as well? It’s extreme gluttony and a total piss take. Especially when you are expecting someone else to pay!

3x nans? For 2x of you?? 3x of those massive, baking tray size nans???

That would be the end of the friendship for me. CF!

It feeds an entire family for a fortnight. Who needs a Mumsnet chicken?

This reminds me of when my son was three and came home from Nursery saying "Mummy I couldn't eat the lunch today. It was MEATBALLS WITH ANTS!!"

Turned out it was some type of brown rice...

That said, I wouldn't have eaten meatballs with ants either :)

Me. I don't want to waste my appetite on poppadoms and have room for more lovely food.

What’s a sweet naan?