She ordered a Curry and hasn’t paid me

[OnePeachA]

Friend came to my house

I was going to cook but she asked if I fancied a curry. I said that would be really nice actually

Her JustEat app wasn’t working so I said have a look on mine for places that are open. She picked Indian.

I put everything I wanted in and she added hers. Total came to £52ish. Over 65% of that cost was hers.

I said I could just check out and sort it later. I have messaged to ask if she had the money today as a gentle reminder, and she said she thought it was my treat?

I said oh, we must have got crossed wires then. She said ‘I did cover the shop’

She went to the corner shop for wine and snacks. I got a Grape Fanta!

Where do I go from here? Leave it? Was it reasonable for her to assume it was in fact my treat?

And then would you argue that it's an appropriate amount of food for your body and anyone who didn't eat that much had food issues and was miserable?

you are very defensive. Are you a big eater?

How unnecessary.

Oh maybe they would, s cube of chicken and give grains of boiled rice would be acceptable?

Stop normalising behaviours that are contributing to the obesity endemic.

It reminds me of smokers who say 'maybe' smoking is bad for people but...

I'm not a great cook but I'm a very good re-heater. I wouldn't chuck the rice (I don't make good rice) - I would add a splash of water and microwave. The naans are also very nice re-heated in the microwave for 40 seconds.

I saw a comment from a poster on another thread that in the UK we are too cautious about rice and reheating it... and that if rice were actually such a risk, many millions elsewhere who eat it every day would be dead; and they're not.

Exactly. It’s ridiculous to suggest that OP should automatically be paying for it just because it’s in her home.

I imagine that she will try to leave it as long as possible and you'll forget it

First post nailed it.

No it’s the fact they all jump on a thread that does not ask about portions to tell the OP that she’s eating too much.

Just why? No one asked them! MYOB! No one is interested in what you eat, if you’re going to comment, then expect counter arguments.

It’s that simple!

Given everything coming from an Indian restaurant is drowned in ghee, butter or oil then not really. I never eat any it it when I'm in a slimdown phase although I enjoy it about once a month during other periods.

I’ve been reheating rice for over forty years, never had a single problem. I do put it in the fridge overnight though.

I would highly recommend a rice cooker, I couldn’t be without one now.

I always reheat rice, my DH always cooks to much. Never an issue.

Christ almighty is there no thread the food police won’t come to holier than thou on?

We’ve had the
double carbs horror
gluttony
piggery - tinkly laugh
obese / obesity epidemic
ToO MuCH FOod based on their own appetites

On a thread that’s wasn’t a discussion on food.

And the usual resort when they get policed back
’teeny tiny eaters shouldn’t have to be insulted by the piggies. The judgement only goes one way. This is DISCRIMINATION’

Just piss off and lick your lettuce on your own threads you tedious bores.

I really like this response!
Its laying it all out, no hints or passive aggressive silence or anything.

I didn't see anybody say the OP was eating too much. The order was very strange. It sounds like the friend over ordered and then assumed she wasn't paying. I've a family member who behaves like that.

So true 😁

Why are you posting like this? It's really annoying to keep having posters with food issues (whatever they are), bouncing onto a thread and derailing it with finger-wagging.

You have no idea what other people eat or how much so why blether on with your 'normalising obesity' rant? I think that people who do this, unasked for, on a chatboard are lacking people in real life who will pay attention to them.

I have had bacillus cereus poisoning and felt so ill. As a result I am very risk averse with rice these days. I keep naan bread in the freezer so would just heat one of those to eat with my leftover curry.

If these people weren’t derailing the thread with “But it’s just soooo much foooood!!!” when it’s not relevant, nobody would have anything to comment on.

It's not too much food based on our own appetites. It's too much food for anyone.

I’m sure the OP will beat that in mind for the future.

@IlooklikeNigella please re read the last line of my post.

Seriously chill. Newsflash, you don’t have to eat your portion in one sitting, you can actually divide it up if you want, it’s allowed. 🤦‍♀️ Did you know restaurants will even let you take your left overs home to eat later, yes really, it’s a thing.

But no one asked for your opinion on that, yet we have to read all your trope!

Go and start your own thread about an Indian takeaway!

Just piss off and lick your lettuce

If I could lick my own lettuce I’d never leave the house…