Swinging teachers

[Saintsfan7]

Interested to read some opinions on this. Someone we know has found out that a teacher at their child's school is a swinger. This person is aghast about this and wants to report the teacher (not sure what for) and is refusing to let them teach their child.
My attitude is that as long as it doesn't affect their work (whichbit clearly isnt) then what the teacher chooses to do in their private time is their business and their business only. ATBU?

Is that still a sign??? It goes back to the '60s I think!

Pardon my ignorance/naïveté, but what has an upside down pineapple got to do with this? I use have missed the connection.

Does one assume then that the children of swingers should be taken away from this pernicious influence? It's more likely that it's happening in the child's home rather than the classroom, so who is more at fault?

For information - these are the teacher standards of conduct required for those of us who have worked to achieve Qualified Teacher Status. If aghast parent thinks the teacher has failed one of these, they can report to headteacher. Otherwise mind their own business.
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So a parent would be let off as obviously they're too lazy to influence their childrn, leave it to others.

Exactly. Soon these parents will be demanding celibacy from teachers. Someone remind them these are teachers not catholic priests or popes (for indeed a CoE reverend/priest can swing from the vestry timbers if s/he wants. As long as it's not during service with the congregation rather than to swing buddies)

❤I believe this teacher beholds the British value of individual liberty. No case to answer

Op, tell your friend to change swinging club. Am sure there a few around his or her village/town. S/he does have to belong to same swing cluster as said teacher

If they posted their face on a swinging site openly for example then they should be reported to the regulator.

You’d have to admit to having looked at the site…

Hmmm... to some extent, it's not really anyone else's business what they do with their personal life, but something like this needs to be discreet.

If people have 'found out' then I assume that the teacher is advertising it somehow online, which I would consider inappropriate. There's a risk that kids could come across it, especially if secondary age.

Unless this person bumped into the teacher while visiting the swingers club themselves??! 😱😂

Make sure this parent never lets their children watch Jim Carey's Grinch. It will ruin their Christmas.

@Shetlands Sounds like a school I worked in 😂

@FKAT Really? You know this for a fact do you? Discretion is key.

How on earth has some one’s choice of sexual partners got anything to do with their ability to teach their child ?!

It's absolutely nobody's business.

Yes, that was my first thought too!

A friend recently told me is a swinger. I couldn’t care less other than being mildly interested in how it all works!
I wouldn’t care if I found out a teacher was a swinger either. It’s up to then what they do in their own time.

Whilst I may have finished my GCSEs in 1998 I can still say, even this many years later, the thought of any of the teachers who taught me in Secondary school having sex is just utterly nauseating.

But equally now, speaking as a grown arse adult, what adults get up to in their own homes and on their own private time, provided it doesn’t interfere with the quality of their teaching, I consider to be NONE of my business!

And I say this as a High School Governor who would be duty bound to report an issue if they felt a member of staff had behaved inappropriately or overstepped boundaries in any way.

Definitely still a thing

Oh gosh...is that a sign?

I don't approve of swinging, but as long as she is not bringing any of it into school and is keeping a very strong dividing line between her personal and professional life, I would not report.

Report to whom anyway ?

It was a big thing in the 60s and 70s or so I've heard. May have been an urban legend. When my sister and I were kids, our parents had a holiday bungalow in North Cornwall not far from Bude, in a road of similar places, and the garden was full of pampas grass growing very tall. The couple my parents bought it from were a sweet elderly couple active in their local church, not exactly the types you'd expect to be attending key parties.

Tbf mumsnet loves the term ~safeguarding issue~ and it gets thrown around a lot, including for things that really aren’t safeguarding issues.

I knew about pampas grass but not pineapples. Apparently wicker hearts are as well 😅

Anyone who thinks that there is anything wrong with a teacher swinging is an idiot who needs to take their beak out of other people’s sex lives. A teacher could fuck their way through the local fire brigade and half the Premier League and it would still have zero impact on their work as a teacher.

I have been to a swingers party with a teacher, though not near where either of us lived. Of course, if most people are operating on the principle they won't go to a party near where they live, it means you might still meet someone from there... I can confirm it's a very weird place to meet your partner's cousin unexpectedly for the first time.

It shouldn't matter what teachers do in their own time in private. It does matter if it causes issues at school - when I was about 8, the head had an affair with a parent, which got very messy when the husband found out. The scandal really affected the school/town. But if this is just a rumour with no substance, it doesn't matter.

It depends. If it's a small town, then probably it would get out if they've worked their way through the local fire brigade.