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To go to a rave at 40...

155 replies

Squigglewigglediggle · 11/10/2024 19:14

Just that really, I've been invited to a rave with some old friends from university. I'm thinking I'm just going to look like an absolute tool arent I?

Part of me is really excited - I've not been to one since my 20s and it's so far out of my usual weekend plans but heck, you only live once right?

Aibu to go, is it a young person's game or can I still enjoy some good psytrance and a dance at 40?

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DollydaydreamTheThird · 16/11/2025 13:17

Rave to the grave OP 🙂💃🪦☮️

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 03/12/2025 11:27

HelpMeGetThrough · 16/11/2025 12:14

Anyone remember the Men Behaving Badly episode where they went to a rave? 🤣

You need to behave like that OP!!

Also in Power of Parker when the main character and her sister do pills at a club 😁

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 03/12/2025 11:28

I’ve just booked tickets for my first ever Day Fever event in January … I’m so so so so excited!!!! And will still be in my Jim jams for 10pm!

Maddy70 · 03/12/2025 12:42

I'm much older than you and go regularly. I'm definitely no where near the oldest

TizerorFizz · 04/12/2025 08:41

Are raves for those who went to raves decades ago? A sort of rave revival? Not sure 18 year olds are that bothered!

BooseysMom · 06/12/2025 16:44

HornyHornersPinger · 12/10/2024 11:30

I really wanna find some people going to this! There's going to be 5,000 of us aged-ravers there, most of us with our adult kids... I'm taking my 23yr old daughter! 🤣

Only just seen this otherwise I would have tried to go. I went to the Sanctuary raves at Milton Keynes and still have my old tape packs! I love Nicky Blackmarket and Hype. I remember seeing Nicky B in my home town and was struck at how short he was but my god he was ace! Then I saw Hype in Hereford. They were messy times!

BooseysMom · 06/12/2025 17:03

Oh and I forgot to mention the other legends that I loved on the line-up.. Micky Finn, Kenny Ken, Brockie .. i wish I could go now!!

HornyHornersPinger · 11/12/2025 15:06

BooseysMom · 06/12/2025 16:44

Only just seen this otherwise I would have tried to go. I went to the Sanctuary raves at Milton Keynes and still have my old tape packs! I love Nicky Blackmarket and Hype. I remember seeing Nicky B in my home town and was struck at how short he was but my god he was ace! Then I saw Hype in Hereford. They were messy times!

I went again this year on 1st Nov with VIP tickets, met all my fav DJs including NBM and Hype.
Plus we've seen them both DJ at RaverTots this year 🤣
They doing 1 more Sanctuary Forever event next year on Nov 7th

To go to a rave at 40...
To go to a rave at 40...
HornyHornersPinger · 11/12/2025 15:07

BooseysMom · 06/12/2025 17:03

Oh and I forgot to mention the other legends that I loved on the line-up.. Micky Finn, Kenny Ken, Brockie .. i wish I could go now!!

Love me some Brockie 😍

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To go to a rave at 40...
Crushed23 · 11/12/2025 15:19

My next rave is New Year’s Eve, but I’m itching to go before then! DP thinks we should save ourselves for NYE (which is actually a 2-day affair into NYD!).

Found out 2 of my favourite DJs are doing a ‘pop up’ event in a city that we’re going on a city break to in January. Amazing coincidence and I literally can’t wait. One of the DJs I haven’t seen since 2019! The other I’ve seen twice this year but never disappoints. Something to liven up January 🤩

BooseysMom · 11/12/2025 16:41

HornyHornersPinger
Thanks for the heads up. I saw they are doing one final rave. I haven't been to one since 2000! I feel too old to handle it these days though! Plus I've got nobody to go with and live 2 hours away. .love your pics BTW ❤️

HornyHornersPinger · 11/12/2025 17:59

@BooseysMom We live 2 hrs away so stay overnight. And I didn't think I could handle raving at my age but I appreciate and enjoy it more than at 18... Think its because back in the old days I didn't have to do much adulting like running a household etc so didnt really appreciate how it was to go out and let loose! I too have noone to go with - so I take my 24 yr old who grew up hearing the music and now fangirls over all the DJs 🤣

To go to a rave at 40...
VoodooQualities · 11/12/2025 18:05

Hell yes. I'm going to one between Xmas and NY with my husband and all my old 90s mates. We're all in our 40s and 50s. Can't bloody wait!

OfcourseitsaNC · 11/12/2025 20:44

Should I buy a ticket for Fatboy slim tomorrow night?

I really want to see him, but I'm so tired. Doors open 11am, end 3am. I'm not sure I'll cope.

What are your thoughts MN?

Willyoujust · 11/12/2025 20:46

Absolutely not! I still go raving at 43. Some of my friends are older than me! Enjoy 💃🏽 x

BlueberryOats · 11/12/2025 20:52

Will it not be an older crowd if its psy trance?

Op have a look on You Tube at psy trance at the Fridge in the 90s, that will get you in the mood ☺️

I'm 46 and going raving next year, it finishes at 11pm though so right up my street 😂

I always try and dance once or twice a year - outdoor daytime events are my favourite.

BlueberryOats · 11/12/2025 20:53

OfcourseitsaNC · 11/12/2025 20:44

Should I buy a ticket for Fatboy slim tomorrow night?

I really want to see him, but I'm so tired. Doors open 11am, end 3am. I'm not sure I'll cope.

What are your thoughts MN?

He's doing tonnes of gigs- he's always good live. Go for it. Or find one of his gigs that finishes earlier?

Goditsmemargaret · 11/12/2025 20:56

I follow a few Facebook pages about raving in the 90s - LOADS of people your age and older still going to raves.

I wouldn't as I'm totally sober these days but I still have friends who do.

JHound · 11/12/2025 20:57

There is no age limit on raving.

StrawberryJangle · 11/12/2025 21:00

Squigglewigglediggle · 11/10/2024 19:27

I know the organisers and djs are pretty youthful still so in y head I just assumed a younger crowd. What everyone has said totally makes sense and I'm feeling a lot less self conscious.

It will absolutely be 40s, dare I say 50s and @Ponoka7 plenty of peri meno too, we're not dead yet 🤣

Rave on!!

Crushed23 · 11/12/2025 21:33

OfcourseitsaNC · 11/12/2025 20:44

Should I buy a ticket for Fatboy slim tomorrow night?

I really want to see him, but I'm so tired. Doors open 11am, end 3am. I'm not sure I'll cope.

What are your thoughts MN?

Yes! Do it and tell us how it is! I missed him when he swung by NYC earlier this year so I’ll live vicariously through you 😎

xSideshowAuntSallyXx · 11/12/2025 21:52

Having heard and watched Tiesto's set from Dreamstate I think I might have to dust off my rave shoes. If he's going back to trance I'm going back to raving 😂.

Crushed23 · 21/01/2026 01:14

xSideshowAuntSallyXx · 11/12/2025 21:52

Having heard and watched Tiesto's set from Dreamstate I think I might have to dust off my rave shoes. If he's going back to trance I'm going back to raving 😂.

I saw Tiesto at EDC Orlando in November and he was great. I’m not the biggest Tiesto fan, but the production was great. Plus he got his daughter on stage which was super cute.

mamajong · 21/01/2026 08:16

Yanbu im a raver in my 40s, there are loads of us! Enjoy!

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