To go to a rave at 40...

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Just that really, I've been invited to a rave with some old friends from university. I'm thinking I'm just going to look like an absolute tool arent I?

Part of me is really excited - I've not been to one since my 20s and it's so far out of my usual weekend plans but heck, you only live once right?

Aibu to go, is it a young person's game or can I still enjoy some good psytrance and a dance at 40?

Do it!!! I'm 41 and still go. Young at heart. Enjoy! X

I’m going an “I love acid” night next weekend and I fully expect it to be mainly over 30s (I’m 42 btw)

I doubt anyone at a psytrance rave would accuse you of looking like a tool! Make sure you brush up on your fire poi technique. And find some clothing with mushrooms printed on it?
I've seen people from two to eighty at outdoor trance raves/festivals before so just enjoy it. It's not really a very poseur type scene at all.

I went to Cream Classics 5 years ago (at 41), and again last year at 45. I fucking loved it! 💃

Go! I'm jealous!

Do it and fuck what anyone else thinks! God im 37 and love a rave and its scaring me that you think 40 is too old as that will be me soon! Just go for it and enjoyyyy

Is it 1 of the Sanctuary Forever events on the 2nd and 9th of November? If so I'm going to the 1st one on the 2nd and I've just turned 44... 😄

Do it. I've been to Ibiza closing parties and I'm over 40.

Go and enjoy yourself !!

Do it. (If it's an all-nighter, be prepared for very sore feet the day after ... I find the painful feet are the only bad thing about raving over 40.)

A photo I took of my mates at an outdoor rave in the summer, Im 42 and they are 44, 45 and 52! We all Love clubbing and wouldn’t even think twice about it?

You make menopause sound like a death sentence! 😳

Quoted wrong comment! 🫣

You make menopause sound like a death ☠️ sentence!!

Most women find that their energy drops, their tolerance for alcohol gets less. A lot of women are knacked, hormonal, anxious and feel like shit. I'd always say get your drinking and shagging in, because things do change after the menopause.

I’m in my 30s and love going to raves! I find they’re super inclusive and no one cares about anyone else 🤣 there’s people raving in their 60s, so you definitely won’t be one of the oldest! Also, who cares? You’re a long time dead as they say, so go and enjoy your life!

Alot of the trance crowd is mixed ages actually you will be surprised they are more around your age. I know I'm one of them and go. It's a great crowd and you'll have a ton of fun.

We are all.clesry stillving out our 90s days of clubbing 😆 but it's great and I have so much fun

Sasha played the most unbelievable set on Hastings Pier back in May this year. There was only about 200 of us there, so he really upped his game to keep our attention. Easily one of the best sets I've ever heard him play, including the sets I've listened to online.

@Ponoka7 You sound so negative, it's bollocks. Just keep enjoying life OP 🖤

It was the sleep routine being broken I found really hard.

I don't normally drink caffeine, so was on the coca cola to keep me awake until the dawn.

It took several days to want to sleep again at bedtime and not need a nap around 3pm.

I love dance music. I try and see something each year. Earlier this year it was Carl Cox for the first time. He was a masterclass. I'm 44. I probably do it differently now - day time outdoors events. Very tempted by clubs that start early and finish at 10pm is, there's one I Tottenham I forget the name of. I used to love the Fridge in my teens. I drink zero alcohol and dance sober which feels great.

Oooh definitely take your Zimmer frame, it'll come in handy at 4am when your legs are aching, and you can hang fluorescent stuff off it too.

Do it!

Young people mostly can't afford to do this any more, sadly, so you'll be with a relatable crowd...

Surely us 40-somethings are the only demographic who are actually 'raving'? By that I mean, I don't think anyone below that age truly knows what it means! I'm 45, and wouldn't think twice about whether to go or not - if there's a dance floor, I'm on it!
As they say: 'You don't stop raving when you get old, you get old because you stop raving.'

Love this thread - I've found my people 😁

I'm 35 and love raves. They're a re-discovery after coming out of a lacklustre relationship with a man who didn't like techno (I know, what was I thinking...).

I go to a rave on average once every 2 months, which is about right to really enjoy it.

Have fun, OP!

Can one if you crazy ravers explain what you actually mean my raving. Does it have to be chaotic hedonism in a field or a warehouse? Or are you going somewhere with 10 quid entry, a stamp on your hand and aircon. I need to know what I am missing out on.