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To feel slightly suspicious of dp

969 replies

wwyt · 27/09/2024 11:36

Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

OP posts:
pinkleopardess · 27/09/2024 20:01

MrMucker · 27/09/2024 19:59

I realise this sounds a bit out there, but if he's leaving some time before work starts perhaps he puts the watch on in order to know what time it is.

Surely he has a phone to look at?

butterpuffed · 27/09/2024 20:04

RadixMalorum · 27/09/2024 18:40

Because that wouldn’t result to a thread of multiple pages, would it?! Honestly, some of the threads of this kind read like a bad film full of plot holes and lazy writing.

Many MNers are more suspicious than the OP and have certainly stirred things up and made her doubt her DH more .

Outnumberedmummy2022 · 27/09/2024 20:06

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 27/09/2024 12:31

My guess is that he is taking a child to nursery or school.

this

Merryoldgoat · 27/09/2024 20:09

Outnumberedmummy2022 · 27/09/2024 20:06

this

But he’s going Saturday as well…

MarkingBad · 27/09/2024 20:11

I used to wear overalls and uniforms at some places for work, never liked wearing them when I wasn't working so I don't think the change of clothes is all that suspicious.

Actually now I come to think about it I always kept a change of clothes, including underwear, a blanket, a bottle of fizzy drink, a clean towel, spare change, and a full sized shovel in the boot of the car. It was all very innocent but I'm sure some people would think I was a serial killer.

OP what makes you think he is lying?

6pence · 27/09/2024 20:19

Absolutely suspicious.

What will you do if an affair is confirmed?

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 27/09/2024 20:21

OP what makes you think he is lying?

I expect the change in routine and that the timings don’t stack up.

cantthinkofausername26 · 27/09/2024 20:26

I'm intrigued to hear your friends findings in the morning!

Hello87abc · 27/09/2024 20:27

Sounds very ofd

BabyOwlinthePlumeria · 27/09/2024 20:30

Giving a girl he fancies a ride to work before he goes in to his own job maybe

Abigaillovesholidays · 27/09/2024 20:33

His behaviour is definitely werid, but it doesn't mean he is cheating. However, as I found out with my ex, sex can happen anytime of the day not just in the evening. The optimist in me wants to think he is using the time to do something nice for you.

StarDolphins · 27/09/2024 20:37

Is He having a shower in his 10 minute window? If not, I wouldn’t be suspicious. No woman wants to do anything with dirty Dave that just rolled out of bed!

DoloresHargreeves · 27/09/2024 20:41

I'm sorry OP but this is not the way to do this. If I had told you where I was going and you got your friend to follow me, I would seriously reconsider my relationship with you. Absolutely don't put a tracker in his car.

Remember that people on MN like to stir up drama.

Confusedmeanderings · 27/09/2024 20:44

I hope it turns out to be something really straightforward for you OP.

User19876536484 · 27/09/2024 21:22

butterpuffed · 27/09/2024 20:04

Many MNers are more suspicious than the OP and have certainly stirred things up and made her doubt her DH more .

Pretty normal for one of these threads.

Newmumburnout · 27/09/2024 22:02

I hope you get your answers in the morning OP.

MarkingBad · 27/09/2024 22:36

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 27/09/2024 20:21

OP what makes you think he is lying?

I expect the change in routine and that the timings don’t stack up.

True, my thinking is that he came up with a plausable explanation for that so outside of one conversation about sex, if there was anything else that gave the OP pause to consider it worth investigating.

Like other PP, I hope the OPs DP isn't lying and everything works out fine.
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onwardsup4 · 27/09/2024 23:01

mushpush · 27/09/2024 12:47

Your baby is asleep until 10am?! That's the most suspicious thing on the thread 😂

I joke - if you can't follow him, track him or speak to his parents, you're really limited with options. PI?

Well this. Whole thing seems weird , op you say you talk to each other about everything so why the thread on here ? How is he leaving 2 hours early without a reasonable explanation? Demand one

Kate8889 · 28/09/2024 05:31

"Is He having a shower in his 10 minute window? If not, I wouldn’t be suspicious. No woman wants to do anything with dirty Dave that just rolled out of bed!"

I mean it could be another man?

Imbusytodaysorry · 28/09/2024 08:00

MrMucker · 27/09/2024 19:59

I realise this sounds a bit out there, but if he's leaving some time before work starts perhaps he puts the watch on in order to know what time it is.

Aaaa he is the only person in 2024 without a mobile

Beastiesandthebeauty · 28/09/2024 08:03

Awaiting news

Suzuki70 · 28/09/2024 08:06

Imbusytodaysorry · 28/09/2024 08:00

Aaaa he is the only person in 2024 without a mobile

Or a clock in the car!

CuriousGeorge80 · 28/09/2024 08:10

When I was the OW many years ago (sorry!) we often met before work as it was the only window

CuriousGeorge80 · 28/09/2024 08:10

Hope you get good news OP

Combattingthemoaners · 28/09/2024 08:33

I really hope some people on here are not Detectives. We would be screwed. So far; could he have taken up dancing? Could he be doing a surprise project for you? Is his dad retiring and he’s getting ready to take over the business? Does he just need to know the time hence the watch? 🙃

I hope it was something innocent though!