To feel slightly suspicious of dp

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Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

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I hope you are ok. What happened with your friend followed him?

Please update us OP, I really hope it’s something innocent

UPDATE:

So my friend was to arrive at 7 and park down the street , dp usually sets an alarm for about 7:15 but this morning it was 6:30 & he was out the door for 6:45

As soon as he left I rung my friend and told her he's left already , but she was literally just about to leave the house.

She came to mine popped in for 2 minutes and then went to see if his car was at his parents to rule that out first.

His car was in fact at outside his parents she first got there at 7:10. However it's now 10 and his car is STILL there. He should really be at work by now.

It's good he's at his parents but why is he not at work yet & I'm certain he still has his job?

I did say previously I have a feeling he's seeing someone in the street.

I'm not sure what to do now really.

Also why did he leave so early this morning? This was definitely the earliest since the whole thing has started. Does he know my friend was going to follow him?

My friend obviously didn't set there 7-10 but had popped up a few times and the car hasn't moved. She's now with me having a cuppa we're going to back in 30 mins. If his car is still there, something very dodgy is going on.

My father had an affair when married to my mum. OW husband found out and kicked her out and she had nowhere to live. My Nan and Step Granded took OW in and allowed the affair to continue in their house.

I'm not saying this is what's happened in your situation OP but parents massively cover up for their kids.

:(

Well his parents don't speak to me so I would well believe they would cover it up

So his car is parked at his parents house, but do we know if HE is actually at their house, he could be parked there but in the house next door?

This is what I'm thinking. He's friendly with the whole street. Everyone knows him

Do his parents have a car? Is there car, or cars, there? He could’ve have driven there and then gone to work in his dad’s car?

I'm sorry I hope there is still an innocent explanation!! Make sure you think of how to approach this. I e don't come right out and say why we're you at parents not at work.. try l ask how was his day.. work ect. Has he always worked Saturdays?

That is so awful of your grandparents. Did it affect your relationship with them?

I'm starting to get really suspicious now

The more I think about it, he's obsessed with his alarms before bed. He always says he NEEDS to set an alarm. He seems terrified that's he's going to miss it. What is the rush???????? You don't start work until after 9 You're collecting your father who lives 5 mins up the road.

It’s a shame your friend didn’t get to see which house he went into

And what is your DP’s response to all this?

Before the setting alarms at 7 he used to wing it and wake up whenever he does without an alarm and this was 8:30. He never had to collect his dad because a work mate did. Why did the workmate stop? And why is he leaving almost 2 hours earlier . He used to love his sleep. Weird !!!!

@Thursdaygirl laughs at me and says I'm crazy

Sorry but he could be seeing your friend and she's tipped him off.

Hopefully it is innocent, but it sounds strange!

I think if he and the friend were having an affair he would’ve gone to work? All that’s happened is op is more suspicious.

So if his car is still there, presumably he and his father have not gone to work?

Is there any way you can check if he is in work?

Can you ring him now and act normal and see what he says?

Let’s not start instilling doubt about OPs friend who is helping her and has got her back, unless serious evidence to the contrary shows up 😕

Update:

I rung dp he says he's at work. We rung the workplace his father answered.

Well, this is painful

Would they recognise your friends voice? Can she call the workplace and ask to speak to your partner?