To feel slightly suspicious of dp

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Hi, I'm looking to know would YOU be suspicious? I'm not really suspicious but maybe a bit slightly?

So, dp works for his dads business and has for the last 10 years. Dp doesn't start work until 9. Usually he would set an alarm for 8:30 which sounds really late but his workplace is a 2 minute drive from our home. And he's really easy going 🤣. His dad doesn't drive but a workmate would always collect him.

About a month ago dp started setting alarms at 6.45-7:15 getting up and leaving the house within 10 mins of those alarms. (Extremely early from before) I've been with dp 5 years he's never up that early for work.

He says it's because he's starting to give his dad a lift to work every morning. His mum and dad live a 5 minute drive from our home. That's not too suspicious. But the thing that's making me go 🤨 is he's leaving home in the mornings in his normal clothes. He says he gets ready in his parents house just before he leaves for work as it's easier?

He has a specific work uniform. He would always get ready here before leaving.

So he's started leaving the house over an hour earlier than usual and not getting ready here?

Would you be suspicious?

I would be very suspicious

Make sure your friend knows which is your PIL's house in case he does go into a different house on the same street.

I reckon he's joined some sort of gym/activity thing and has made such a fuss before he's hiding it now. Though taking a nice watch to the gym is a bit odd.

To me it sounds like a new job with different hours, that he's not wanting to share details on.

Or (as a sweet thought) is he the type to work on a project for you with his dad for an anniversary/birthday present? Getting up early, working on it, then going to work work?

Because that wouldn’t result to a thread of multiple pages, would it?! Honestly, some of the threads of this kind read like a bad film full of plot holes and lazy writing.

OP you already know who it is

So sad,.I hope it's nothing sinister

All sounds v suspicious

Whatever is going on, you clearly don't trust your dp and that is a thing in itself. His story about getting up and leaving the house more than an hour early, dressed smartly, just on the off chance that his dad might be going to work and need a lift, sounds complete nonsense to an outsider. You know him better but if you're suspicious there is probably a good reason for it, sadly.

Yes I was wondering this too. There are too many changes in routine. I'm especially suspicious about the work clothes.

It does sound like a weird time to have an affair but stranger things have happened. Putting the £400 watch on to go pick his dad up and drive to work, where he can’t even wear the watch, would be the biggest suspicion for me. Who puts a £400 watch on for the sake of driving a parent to work?

I really couldn’t be arsed to have an affair at any time of day, but certainly not at 7am… 😱

I can’t imagine any young mums on his parents street wanting to get up at 7am to have an affair with some bloke whose mum lives next door after a night up being up with a baby/toddler. That’s got to be the most unsexy thing ever.

Has he come home with egg or tomato ketchup stains on his clothes?

hmm well now I'm invested... please update tomorrow OP!

I hope it’s something innocent and your mind is put at rest tomorrow x

Yes, do keep us posted!

rather than your friend following why doesn't she park up near his parents and just watch to see if he goes into and stays in their house

Oh yeah, this would make me suspicious too.

Agree that you have a great friend, hope it is something completely innocent that you can laugh over one day.

My first thought was that the FIL is seriously ill in some way or is set to retire and they're spending extra time at work to get DH up to speed as his replacement. Perhaps his DPs made a request not to tell you, which is unreasonable but they won't care about that.

Really hope it's nothing and your friend confirms

I used to work with a guy who left his house at 5.30am to get to his OW for 6.30 for a pre work shag. They worked together so then travelled in together.

He had a really long drive so just told his wife the traffic at 7 was hideous so he was avoiding it.

I realise this sounds a bit out there, but if he's leaving some time before work starts perhaps he puts the watch on in order to know what time it is.