to wonder if a high ponytail sends a message I'm unaware of?

[AuntieWithAttitude]

I was watching a friend's kid after school and told her about a summer camp where I used to work. We often helped the kids put their hair in 'camper buns'—a messy bun right on top of their heads. She asked me to do it for her, but didn't like it, so we ended up with a super high ponytail instead. She loved it and had fun swishing it around.

When her mum saw it, she commented on how high it was and then lowered it.
I didn't really think too much of it, until today on TV a character wore a high ponytail, and other characters remarked on how high it was, saying things like 'erm, are you sure you want to wear your hair like that?'.

Am I missing something about the significance of high ponytails? I can be bad at this stuff, subtle cues and such, I'm wondering if I've caused offence to my friend somehow. She seemed really weird about it. Don't want to make the same mistake again if I've misunderstood the significance of something.

You mean the Kate Moss facelift effect?!

I thought it was popular because of Ariana Grande? The bun on top of the head I don't like at all and am surprised that Virgin Atlantic has adopted it for their flight attendants.

I’d wear and put my child in a high ponytail just to spite them. 🤣

Is that just because of the Peru two though?!

I occasionally put my hair in a very high ponytail because it covers a multitude of sins and stops it catching the back of a chair etc,- I've very long hair. I am 47 and at this stage have the sense to wear my hair any way I fancy, and feck the begrudgers. As my late mother used to say - jealousy must be an awful burden to carry.

Ignore the people who think a "hair style" tells anything about a person. Their ignorance tells you more about them.

I'm also from Essex and we always called it a Croydon face-lift in school 😆

The Barbie silhouette has a high ponytail.

I think it depends on just how tight and hair sprayed the head is - gelled to the head is not a good look and seems to be in trend again as it was with the bits down the front when I was younger.

Just up with wispy bits and a bit 'fluffier'on top looks more wholesome and sporty/practical.

Slightly off topic but these are perfect for extra swish and so simple to use (note: not on commission just someone with very long hair):
https://www.mykitsch.com/en-gb/products/ponyfull-blonde?_pos=1&_psq=pony&_ss=e&_v=1.0

Me too!!

I also like to think it looks a bit "bohemian", whereas I'd otherwise just be "dishevelled" 😂. Could be wishful thinking though....

If the pony tail is low enough to thread through the back of a cap, it's not ''High''.

High ponytails are almost on top of the head so that they can be swished about in a ''Provocative'' way.

Oh no how sad she played that part perfectly.

Ooh I've always been envious of high pony tails. I have very weighty hair and it just doesn't stay up for me. I'd love to feel it swishing away behind me.

I bloody love a high pony tail!

I’m actually going to wear it like it tomorrow and on Monday for work.

This reminds me of a very stubby man's circumcised penis!

It's not a pretty thing!

😂We had Sharons and Traceys at school as well. And Kevins.

Are you from the Midlands?

I'm genuinely sad that "Kev" and "Shaz" got overtaken by the term "Chav" as ways of categorising humans.

@oakleaffy 😂Oh dear - I can't unsee that now.

I actually live fairly near and not far from Croydon and grew up sort of near there. Yes of course it was a thing and maybe still is a thing. Not that I ever go there much. Bromley is my preferred shopping town. I can’t recall having a Croydon facelift myself but would not rule it out. My hair has been known to break if I have it in ponytails too much (only because I highlight it and it’s fine).

If people have nothing better to do than stereotype people, and make nasty snobbish comments then I despair though.

This is amusing. There are certain buns that look nice and smart, others that look chavvy. I suppose the same with pony tails. Although I always envied girls that could get their hair up so high and smooth. I am crap with hair. Those big bows are also very chav. I don’t know why people put thier bald babies with those giant bows on it looks so naff.

I just think of Ariana when I think of a high pony. It's much more flattering than a low ponytail.

I think some people just like to have full control over their child's hair and clothes and don't like it when other people step in and change things I honestly wouldn't give it a second thought OP

@mondaytosunday Arianna wishes she was Kate Moss!

Ariana Grande always looks like she's working really hard to hold in a fart. The high pony doesn't help with this.

exactly! It's yet another thing to keep women questioning themselves and overly conscious of their appearance.

Sorry! 😂
It's probably not worn on the head though....? I'm not sure how it would work.

Now I'm older, I lopped off my 'crowning glory' to shoulder length.. I loved having really long hair when younger..It takes a lot of looking after...Mum used to have beautifully long hair but she too now sports a neat 'Bob'

Love your long hair while you can!

@Sgtmajormummy

This isn’t a high ponytail. The high one is on top of the head, not at the crown.