To think this is disgusting

[Bearface28]

Was in bed last night, DH visibly scratched his bum then put his hand under my nose. Immediately lost my shit and left the room. He thought he was being funny but I can't even look at him.

Aibu to think there's no coming back from this?

That really is gross. Does he have form for this sort of thing?

For clarity, he scratched his buttock or his actual butthole?

Well it's gross but not sure it's divorce territory if it's a one off !

Pretty sure from the smell, it was the hole. Vile.

Yuck. You're not his little brother...jesus. What a dolt.

🤢 oh god no.

So grim.
How are you supposed to find him attractive again?

That's the least sexy thing I have ever heard and would put me right off.

My legs would absolutely clamp together and we would have to separate.

I can't imagine it being done by my dh, but it's made me laugh quite a lot! Pretty gross and very odd behaviour from an adult. I really hope he washed thoroughly before he touched anything

I feel repulsed just by the fact he thought it was ok to get into bed beside you with his butt hole stinking 🤢

Yuk. Just vile. How immature is he to think that’s a funny thing to do.

How fkn disgusting and disrespectful. And that's what he does that you know about!

No idea how you can have sex with that. What is he like generally?

Overall he's great. More than pulls his weight around the house, amazing Father and he's generally really thoughtful & kind. It's why this has really thrown me off.

I couldn't EVER imagine doing this to my wife.

Disgusting.

Doing what to your wife?

??? What the OP says her husband did to her obviously.

I thought you said he scratched his bum, then sniffed his own fingers, which while it's pretty gross, I'm pretty sure some people do. (Not me, obviously!) But to scratch his arsehole - which has probably got shades of shitstain on it, and then stick his fingers under your nose?! Well, that's a new level of foul, disgusting, grim, and gross.

I don't even understand why anybody would do that - it's sickening. It makes you wonder what other 'gross' things he does. I would never eat or drink anything he's prepared for you - ever. I don't know if I could stand being married to a man like this anymore, once I had witnessed that, just... OMG! 😩

I mean, I don't think I could even ever get intimate with a man like this - ever again.

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Really juvenile, a bit like thinking it's funny to fart under the covers.

But I don't think it's a hill to die on, just tell him not to be so disgusting and wash your hands

Absolutely disgusting but not a reason in and if it’s own right to leave someone etc.
You do need to sit down and have the chat about needing to keep some spark and mystery alive in the bedroom department, and how surprise poo fingers don’t contribute to that

Just spoke to him about it & he didn't really see what he'd done wrong, thought it was just a bit of a laugh. I asked him how he'd feel if I did the same to him and he responded 'aroused'. I give up.

FGS what goes through some men's minds . Just horrible .

Jesus, that's so disgusting.

He doesn't even sound like an adult does he?

Gross behaviour.

Tell him to sleep somewhere else for a month, while you process the shock of being married to a ten year old .