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To be ridiculously proud of DS

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Mumof2NDers · 19/03/2024 20:23

So, DS1 is 24 and has ADHD, Tourette’s syndrome, long Covid and a 3rd rare neurological condition( I’m not saying what it is as potentially outing, it’s so rare)
He’s suffered with depression and crippling health anxiety (convinced he was dying of cancer). It got so bad at one point he thought he’d be better off dead than living with the misery.
He’s pulled himself out of a very dark pit and got a job!
20 hours a week for now.
Probably won’t seem like a big deal to some but I’m so proud I might burst!

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Wayk · 19/03/2024 20:24

That is a huge achievement l. Delighted for both of you.

DailyMailHater · 19/03/2024 20:24

That’s amazing 🤩 well done him - celebrations all round.

RedHelenB · 19/03/2024 20:24

Well done to your ds. You're right to be proud of him.

strawberryblue · 19/03/2024 20:24

That is amazing! Congratulations to your son!

WarningOfGails · 19/03/2024 20:24

I’m thrilled for you & him!

Scirocco · 19/03/2024 20:24

That's fantastic! Congratulations to both of you!

BugsyDrakeTableScape · 19/03/2024 20:25

That's amazing! Well done to your DS! Hope you can all celebrate this achievement!

Globetrote · 19/03/2024 20:25

That’s a fantastic achievement! Well done to him and I hope he enjoys his new job x

Youdontknowmedoyou · 19/03/2024 20:25

Ah that's wonderful.

Runnerinthenight · 19/03/2024 20:25

Well done that lad! Hope all goes really well for him!

PSEnny · 19/03/2024 20:25

You deserve to be so proud!!

Bellatrixxx · 19/03/2024 20:26

Aww love this post. Well done to him! Enjoy it, it sounds like he’s had a really tough ride, love the positive news xxx

ClemmyTine · 19/03/2024 20:26

Well done to him.

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 19/03/2024 20:27

Brilliant news, that's so good for him. No doubt, you have been a big influencing factor in his turnaround.

I love when people post positive things like this.

Leeds2 · 19/03/2024 20:27

Well Done to him! I hope he is enjoying his new job.

Elvis1956 · 19/03/2024 20:28

It's great to read something positive on here. He is a brave and strong young man. Tell him to remember how he feels right now, to savour it and should things ever get dark again to pull that memory out, polish it and go back to exactly how it felt in that moment when he was told he was hired

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Mumof2NDers · 19/03/2024 20:28

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 19/03/2024 20:27

Brilliant news, that's so good for him. No doubt, you have been a big influencing factor in his turnaround.

I love when people post positive things like this.

It’s been a long tough road and I’ve shed many, many years but at least now they’re tears of joy.

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BabaBarrio · 19/03/2024 20:28

That is a fantastical accomplishment even if all he had were depression!

However, depression usually only goes into remission, be sure to let him know that part of recovery is spotting signs of relapse and getting help sooner rather than later. I wouldn’t want him to feel a disappointment to you if the depression comes back. Your famous PM Churchill suffered from depression badly, he called it his “black dog” in his memoirs when it would start to tussle with him.

As he has ADHD, he may also experience burnout. So 20hrs a week might be his personal limit.

Igmum · 19/03/2024 20:29

Well done your DS and YADNU in having a nice proud mum moment

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Mumof2NDers · 19/03/2024 20:31

Elvis1956 · 19/03/2024 20:28

It's great to read something positive on here. He is a brave and strong young man. Tell him to remember how he feels right now, to savour it and should things ever get dark again to pull that memory out, polish it and go back to exactly how it felt in that moment when he was told he was hired

He’s felt a failure most of his life. Left school with no GCSE’s then got excluded from college.
I’ve said to him so many times I wish he could see himself how I see him. He’s a fab young man x

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thisnthat · 19/03/2024 20:31

That’s brilliant - very well done to him! Thank you for sharing such a positive story.

Staygoldponyboystaygold · 19/03/2024 20:32

That’s fantastic, you have every right to burst with pride! Congratulations to your son.

BigMandsTattooPortfolio · 19/03/2024 20:32

That’s such great news! 💐

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Mumof2NDers · 19/03/2024 20:33

BabaBarrio · 19/03/2024 20:28

That is a fantastical accomplishment even if all he had were depression!

However, depression usually only goes into remission, be sure to let him know that part of recovery is spotting signs of relapse and getting help sooner rather than later. I wouldn’t want him to feel a disappointment to you if the depression comes back. Your famous PM Churchill suffered from depression badly, he called it his “black dog” in his memoirs when it would start to tussle with him.

As he has ADHD, he may also experience burnout. So 20hrs a week might be his personal limit.

Thanks for your post. He could never disappoint me 😀. But I will be sure to keep an eye on him.
I too think the 20 hours is enough for now (for as long as it takes)

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Gagagardener · 19/03/2024 20:33

Congratulations to you both. No wonder you are filled with pride and joy! You deserve to be.