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Apparently this is the reason he broke up with me...

113 replies

Snowatnoon · 09/01/2024 19:59

Was together with ex for around a year. Very intelligent man and excelled career wise but has never been great at communicating his needs with me. Anyway he recently broke up with me, his reason being that "I don't do what he tells me to do" and I am not obedient therefore he can't see a future with me

I'm just really confused because he has never "told me to do anything". I'm just confused really.

OP posts:
Whatadayyyy · 09/01/2024 20:00

Wow seriously, you dodged a bullet there. Run and don’t look back

McMuffins · 09/01/2024 20:00

Ask him

EvilElsa · 09/01/2024 20:01

Sounds like a lucky escape for you!!!

MagnificentlyCursed · 09/01/2024 20:01

Sounds like you had a lucky escape.

hope you’re ok and that your heart heals soon ♥️

Ghostwritersinc · 09/01/2024 20:01

You had a lucky escape

vodkaredbullgirl · 09/01/2024 20:01

Keep him an ex.

Aquamarine1029 · 09/01/2024 20:01

McMuffins · 09/01/2024 20:00

Ask him

Don't bother. Why on earth would you even care to ask? A twat like that will only give you a twatish answer.

2Old2Tango · 09/01/2024 20:02

Remind him you are a human, not a dog, and don't respond to commands.

Bloody cheek of him! Obedient?? You're well rid by the sounds of it.

Throwawayme · 09/01/2024 20:03

You're not obedient? Fuck him! You're not a dog! Lucky escape for you! Onwards and upwards 💐

StrawberryWater · 09/01/2024 20:03

Sounds like you had a lucky escape.

He's probably a recent graduate of the Andrew Tate school of misogyny.

SheFliesLikeABirdInTheSky · 09/01/2024 20:04

Fucking hell! What fresh hell is this? Why should you obey him like a dog?! Shock

BLOCK him on everything and move on. He sounds utterly unhinged.

MoreDollies · 09/01/2024 20:05

Who are the 27% who think YABU???!! FFS

Theyarehere · 09/01/2024 20:07

Are you serious? He wanted obedience? Phew for you!

BarbieGirl999 · 09/01/2024 20:08

Dodged a bullet. Sounds like a narcissistic bellend.

Beastiesandthebeauty · 09/01/2024 20:09

I would definitely fake regret and apologise and beg to know what you failed to do just for the sheer shits and giggles !

Asosbabe · 09/01/2024 20:10

Another vote for you docged a bullet x

McMuffins · 09/01/2024 20:11

Aquamarine1029 · 09/01/2024 20:01

Don't bother. Why on earth would you even care to ask? A twat like that will only give you a twatish answer.

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I’d want to know for a laugh

JanefromLondon1 · 09/01/2024 20:12

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momager1 · 09/01/2024 20:12

obedient??? what does he think you are? a cocker spaniel. ??? Oh my darling you have had a VERY lucky escape. Thank god he showed his true colors NOW instead of after having a child with him! My husband just said (joking only..really)" hey woman..get in the kitchen and make me a tea." I said (joking ) "F u.. get in the kitchen and pour me a wine asshole" He said "yayaya.. poured me a wine and said..this is prepaid dinner ..whatcha making. " It is one thing to have fun..but ORDER me around, NOPE NOPE . Sweetheart KNOW YOUR WORTH. Dump that piece of crap, you do not need him. PS I know you said he Dumped you already, but trust me, he will be back and hoping that his scare tactic will make you want him back and start to OBEY him. KNOW YOUR WORTH.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 09/01/2024 20:12

I agree with others - sounds like a lucky escape!

SecondChancesAtLife · 09/01/2024 20:13

Hahahahahahaha. He’s funny in’t he?

Yep you dodged a bullet. Do.not.look.back!

betterangels · 09/01/2024 20:14

Lucky escape there. You're not a servant.

WickDittington · 09/01/2024 20:15

Red flags! You dodged a speeding bullet there. Congratulations 🎉

NeverDropYourMooncup · 09/01/2024 20:15

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

Fuck off.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

No, really, he can fuck right off.

Even dogs need a cue from their owner, rather than relying upon psychic powers or the deductive reasoning of Sherlock Fucking Holmes.

Summerhillsquare · 09/01/2024 20:16

Tbh they'll come out with any old bullshit at this point.