Apparently this is the reason he broke up with me...

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Was together with ex for around a year. Very intelligent man and excelled career wise but has never been great at communicating his needs with me. Anyway he recently broke up with me, his reason being that "I don't do what he tells me to do" and I am not obedient therefore he can't see a future with me

I'm just really confused because he has never "told me to do anything". I'm just confused really.

Blimey.

I think he's reviewing history now, blaming you for the things he was too lazy/busy/disinclined to get to. But in his re-written version of history, you opposed him achieving these things, dissuaded him or forbade him from .... investing in bitcoin/changing job/training for iron-man

He's said the first stupid thing that came into his head - best case scenario, if there is such a thing here.

Or he's a total dick, and you should run like hell.

I'd have told him I couldn't see any future with a bloke who expected 'obedience' from someone who was supposed to be his partner.

Stay away, could end up being very dangerous, he might be trying to reel you back in, so you say you will do anything he wants, go near him. X

Oh ffs!!

Read your post out loud then give your head a seriously wobble!!

Move on and count yourself lucky you're not married to a man who wants to dictate your life!!

Very intelligent? Did he tell you that? I don't think so. He sounds emotionally stunted at the very least. And blames you for his lack of communication skills.

He must be completely unaware of how the modern world works, clearly never reads a newspaper or is interested in politics, economics or current affairs.

He sounds like an incel and nothing more. You're well rid.

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He can't be that intelligent if he can't tell the difference between P-A-R-T-N-E-R and P-E-T. I mean they are spelled differently and everything.
Fear for the person he deems suitable.

In all seriousness, this is quite awful really. I'm getting sick and tired of reading the countless bad behavior by men on these threads..

I think women need to take a stand, this is going too far..

Probably some of the incels who populate this site.

Tbf lots probably voted yabu because op isn't realising the lucky escape she had and is spending time analysing his words instead of thanking her lucky stats!

I hope it’s true that you don’t do what you’ve been told to do by anyone. You said yourself that he is intelligent so he’s realised it pretty quickly.

Another vote that it’s a lucky escape for you.

The only thing to be confused about is how you stuck out a whole year with that horrific misogynist. Obedience?! Ha. Fuck off.

Is he an Andrew Tate fan on the sly, perhaps? Sure sounds like it..

I would laugh in his fucking face, very very loudly.

Sounds like a right prat. You're better off without that sort of nonsense, surely.

Get him a sheepdog whistle and a crook, he’ll love it.

Don't be confused - jump for joy!

I didn't vote, but my first thought was YABU to listen to a word he says! Why is OP even thinking about this shit, let alone being confused and trying to rationalise it?

Obedient! Wow! That's disgusting and I'm glad you are rid of him.i pray he never finds an obedient women.

How on earth is it confusing? It is plain and simple so not sure why you would even think twice about it

Lucky escape

He doesn't want a partner he wants a servant. Be glad he told you so you can get rid.

I don’t think you need an explanation, he’s a c#nt.

Seems he thinks you are a dog. Obedient? What a Twat.

Obviously not that intelligent as he failed to notice that you were human.

Well rid.