Apparently this is the reason he broke up with me...

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Was together with ex for around a year. Very intelligent man and excelled career wise but has never been great at communicating his needs with me. Anyway he recently broke up with me, his reason being that "I don't do what he tells me to do" and I am not obedient therefore he can't see a future with me

I'm just really confused because he has never "told me to do anything". I'm just confused really.

No amount of "intelligence" or wealth could make me attracted to a man who'd say that. Eugh. Zero emotional intelligence and and clearly still a little sad boy inside.

You can do better.

This was not why he broke up with you - this is what he told you is why he broke up with you. In my experience if the excuse doesn't fit it's because they've found someone else and want to pass the buck. I can guarantee you he is not worth your effort.

Congratulations on your lucky escape

What a twat. You had a lucky escape.

I voted YABU

OP is being unreasonable for giving this any headspace. He saved her so much future grief

Rip one of his favourite jumpers to shreds, curl one out in his back garden and then say sorry, what was it he was trying to train you to do?

Sounds like he found a "mens activists" and is retro fitting their bulshit on you in order to ake himself feel better. Ignore him.

Don't be confused, be thankful

Urgh he’s scum. Block and delete.

Move on. Actually, run! He's done you a favour.

you should obediently thank him for showing himself to be a controlling misogynist and try to forget you ever knew him.

Is he a time traveler from 1850??? If so he may have a point, if not he's a damn creep.

Rather than be upset, be overjoyed the trash has taken itself out.

If he wants someone who is 'obedient', then honestly you are well rid of him!

He actually used the word obedient 🤣🤣?

And you didn’t laugh at him 😳😳.

YABU for being confused he didn’t tell you what obedience he required. Thank your lucky star he dumped you instead of trying to mould you.

I wouldn't be confused I wouldn't of be thank god he has gone. Be obedient, do what he tells you what person wants to be with a man like that

Lucky escape

"I don't do what he tells me to do" and I am not obedient therefore he can't see a future with me"

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Just take a deep breath, pause and imagine for a moment what your life would have been like married with children to this man.

Then breathe out slowly and reflect that you truly have had a lucky escape.

He needs a dog not a girlfriend.
You’ve had a lucky escape. Can you imagine if you’d had children?! Ghastly.

Honestly OP the people on here aren't just trying to make you feel better he sounds absolutely awful - you can't even recall him asking you to do anything! Sounds like he would get an absolute earful if these posters were to get near him!

J would ha e laughed loudly. And then said 'oh, you're serious!'

I thought she was being unreasonable for feeling confused 😂 The only reasonable response to this is "Thank fuck I'm away from this weird control freak!"

He’s not finishing with you he is game playing so that you will go and ask what he means . This will be the start of you behaving and him controlling you .

Run as fast as you can

Hope you're okay.

what on earth! What’s wrong with him then, who says that lol.

Anyway he recently broke up with me, his reason being that "I don't do what he tells me to do"

Why should you anyway? Who died and made him King of what you do?