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Does your partner watch porn?

169 replies

Iamawomaninlove · 05/12/2023 22:12

Mine of a few years was looking for something on his phone whilst sitting next to me, I noticed his recent Google search history had a few... questionable titles 🙄 he had been at home for most of the day whilst I was out.
I have been told most people watch it and it doesn't mean anything, even though there are strong opinions towards the industry and rightly so.
I know it's normal to find others attractive, I think just to see all those searches made me feel a bit disappointed. I didn't say anything or let on.

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CurlewKate · 06/12/2023 13:30

@Bleakmidwinter1977 "If you are watching porn, masterbating over someone else, you are essentially cheating on your partner"

You are doing many things- all of them unpleasant. But you are not cheating on your partner!

Bleakmidwinter1977 · 06/12/2023 13:43

CurlewKate · 06/12/2023 13:30

@Bleakmidwinter1977 "If you are watching porn, masterbating over someone else, you are essentially cheating on your partner"

You are doing many things- all of them unpleasant. But you are not cheating on your partner!

Fantasing about having sex with other people is basically cheating. If my partner was fantasising about having sex with my best mate, its as good as cheating.

Fairymother · 06/12/2023 13:51

KrisAkabusi · 05/12/2023 22:15

There are two types of men. Those who watch porn, and those that lie and say they don't watch porn.

This. I have several friends who all watch it and their wives would swear on everything that they dont.. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Fairymother · 06/12/2023 13:53

Bleakmidwinter1977 · 06/12/2023 13:43

Fantasing about having sex with other people is basically cheating. If my partner was fantasising about having sex with my best mate, its as good as cheating.

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This is absolutely ridiculous.

everybluesock · 06/12/2023 13:53

Bleakmidwinter1977 · 06/12/2023 13:26

If you are watching porn, masterbating over someone else, you are essentially cheating on your partner.

Pahahahahahaaaaaa!!!!! Hilarious.

Cas112 · 06/12/2023 14:01

Mine says he has done, he doesnt that often anymore but he probably does

Dont really care, its not affecting our sex life and I've watching it myself whilst both out the relationship and in it so who am I to judge

jeaux90 · 06/12/2023 14:04

MaryBeardsShoes · 06/12/2023 13:19

Raise your fucking bar, women! Not all men are pigs who support the exploitation of women and children!

This

MissBuffyAnneSummers · 06/12/2023 14:05

No he doesn't and nor do I.

Didimum · 06/12/2023 14:06

Fairymother · 06/12/2023 13:51

This. I have several friends who all watch it and their wives would swear on everything that they dont.. 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Then they simply don’t have very honest relationships. That can’t be applied to all.

keye · 06/12/2023 14:07

Cas112 · 06/12/2023 14:01

Mine says he has done, he doesnt that often anymore but he probably does

Dont really care, its not affecting our sex life and I've watching it myself whilst both out the relationship and in it so who am I to judge

Why is the only reason you would care is if would affect your sex life? What about the moral aspect?

BigMandsTattooPortfolio · 06/12/2023 14:08

Neither of us find any of it erotic or aesthetically pleasing, so no.

Str8talkin · 06/12/2023 14:18

This reply has been deleted

This was started by a persistent troll.

CampsieGlamper · 06/12/2023 14:18

Yes, using slavery and abuse, just like clothing in high streets and on line at "cheap" prices. Will we treat them both as appalling?

CurlewKate · 06/12/2023 14:24

@CampsieGlamper "Yes, using slavery and abuse, just like clothing in high streets and on line at "cheap" prices. Will we treat them both as appalling?"

I do my absolute best to avoid products which may involve slavery or abuse. It's not always easy for people to do this, particularly in a cost of living crisis. Not using porn, however, is simple. Just stop.

IfOn · 06/12/2023 14:30

Why is it so hard for some people to believe that some men really don't watch porn?

Mine doesn't and neither do I. I never have and never will.

Personally, I find it disgusting for anyone in a relationship to be indulging in porn.

CurlewKate · 06/12/2023 14:32

@IfOn "Personally, I find it disgusting for anyone in a relationship to be indulging in porn."

But OK for people not in relationships?

KimberleyClark · 06/12/2023 14:32

CurlewKate · 06/12/2023 14:24

@CampsieGlamper "Yes, using slavery and abuse, just like clothing in high streets and on line at "cheap" prices. Will we treat them both as appalling?"

I do my absolute best to avoid products which may involve slavery or abuse. It's not always easy for people to do this, particularly in a cost of living crisis. Not using porn, however, is simple. Just stop.

Exactly this. We need clothing. We don’t need porn.

TheGoogleMum · 06/12/2023 14:34

Mine generally doesn't. He has in the past but generally prefers to have sex (with me) rather than sort himself out

keye · 06/12/2023 14:36

TheGoogleMum · 06/12/2023 14:34

Mine generally doesn't. He has in the past but generally prefers to have sex (with me) rather than sort himself out

What pretentious shite

IfOn · 06/12/2023 14:39

CurlewKate · 06/12/2023 14:32

@IfOn "Personally, I find it disgusting for anyone in a relationship to be indulging in porn."

But OK for people not in relationships?

Well the OP was specifically about if your partner watches porn so I was speaking in that context. In general I still find it disgusting. Single or not.

Mamoun · 06/12/2023 14:41

KrisAkabusi · 05/12/2023 22:15

There are two types of men. Those who watch porn, and those that lie and say they don't watch porn.

That's untrue.
My DH doesn't. He would have no problem telling me if he did. He did when he was younger but has completely gone off it - prob hasn't watched any in 8/9 years.... and he prefers the real deal!

Mamoun · 06/12/2023 14:42

SingleMum11 · 05/12/2023 23:58

I hope one day we will look back in horror over the ‘fine to watch porn’ in the same way we look back at the horror of abuse or slavery. Because a lot of porn is abuse or trafficking/slavery. There is not ‘okay’ porn.

Agree 10000000%

Mamoun · 06/12/2023 14:44

Coyoacan · 06/12/2023 04:04

Here in Mexico, we have had so many young girls go missing as they are abducted for the porn and prostitution industry. Sometimes they are found dead later on with signs of having been sexually tortured. But go on being feminist while you watch your porn and we are all too scared to let our daughters out of our sight.

👏 couldn't agree more

Mamoun · 06/12/2023 14:47

Jk987 · 06/12/2023 07:45

Those who say their partner definitely doesn't, how do you know. You're not monitoring them 24/7 surely. Sounds like you're in denial.

Sounds like you have never been in a trusting relationship.

CurlewKate · 06/12/2023 15:07

@TheGoogleMum "He has in the past but generally prefers to have sex (with me) rather than sort himself out"

It might come as a surprise to some but it is perfectly possible to "sort yourself out" (shudder) without the use of porn...

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