Does your partner watch porn?

[Iamawomaninlove]

Mine of a few years was looking for something on his phone whilst sitting next to me, I noticed his recent Google search history had a few... questionable titles 🙄 he had been at home for most of the day whilst I was out.
I have been told most people watch it and it doesn't mean anything, even though there are strong opinions towards the industry and rightly so.
I know it's normal to find others attractive, I think just to see all those searches made me feel a bit disappointed. I didn't say anything or let on.

If mine does, I don't know when he can, as we're always together. But if he did, I wouldn't have an issue with it. I've watched it in the past myself.

But my husband genuinely doesn't though? Why do you believe all men watch porn? Surely you're the one being over confident here 🤔

@XDownwiththissortofthingX "Where did I ask for an explanation?"

I'm sorry. When something puzzles me I look for explanations.

What about those of us who are very sexually open and have no issue discussing porn or using porn ourselves so it doesn’t need to be our husbands dirty little secret, and we KNOW they don’t watch it?

if he said to me “I’ve watched some porn, I’d say “ok dear”. He doesn’t need to hide it. He doesn’t wank either, and he knows he’s highly unusual in that respect and that most men do. When he had to do a sperm sample he really struggled 🤣

Mine did when he was younger and it ruined our sex life.

I doubt he does anymore as A. His libido is zero and B. We both work from home all the time so I could walk in at any minute (plus the only device he could watch it on is family laptop, he doesn't know I know his password and there's never anything suspect in the history)

No,

I think personally I'd be more concerned if my partner was tracking my behaviour with a keylogger then if he said he had watched some porn.

Dh watched when he was young, he doesn’t now and hasn’t for years

He has a work phone and laptop, neither of which he could use for porn because A) he would lose his job and B) quite a few completely innocuous websites are blocked

Never.

@JanglingJack but isn't the whole point that you don't know if the person you are watching has been trafficked or not?

It's hard to say as he's quite prudish but I think so, occasionally.
I've watched it too and would again.

Exactly this. Those who are super confident about their dh not viewing it could be in for a shock sometime. They're hardly going to admit it when they know their dw is so against it.

He certainly used to watch it when we were first together, so I assume he probably still does from time to time, although certainly not frequently these days. I used to use his computer at his house before I moved in with him and he didn't try to hide his internet history from me. None of it was ever violent or disturbing and I didn't mind at all. I also watch porn sometimes, and he is aware of that.

However, that doesn't mean everyone has to be OK with it. You are perfectly entitled to be uncomfortable with it and you are perfectly entitled to count it among your dealbreakers in a relationship. Only you know what your true feelings are on this, and what other people think about it is neither here nor there.

😂😂 absolutely not
My partner is a mythical creature according to MN because he has no interest in porn

There are definitely men who don't watch it.
That is not being naive.
In my younger days before I woke up, I used to watch it and was open about it.
I have been with partners or had male friends with low sex drives, on meds, depressed, weed smokers. Men with autism who aren't interested. There are definitely men who aren't fussed.
I used to think all men were dogs on heat as many are, and they stand out. But you only have to read the relationships forum on here to see how many women are with men who don't have a sex drive. Or they don't like porn. It needs to be more accepted that some men are like this.

@Str8talkin

He won't have actually searched for those words. He'll likely be more interested in the thumbnails than the words above it.

I don't know what you are trying to say?

OP said...

It's just when you see searches like 'Young girl with huge ts gets very wet',

Why have you, not at all involved in the relationship at all, decided you know better than OP?

No, We both see too many negatives for women in the porn industry. It is one of the things on which we agree.

I've watched it with my partner. If he watched it without me wouldn't bother me

I'm usually pretty sceptical about the characterisation of Mumsnet as "manhating"

But fuck me, the bar is low for them on here! Not a single one has any contextual, societal or moral framework to fit porn into. Not a single one has any understanding or empathy. They just want to get their rocks off. Well, not my Nigel.

Raise your fucking bar, women! Not all men are pigs who support the exploitation of women and children!

If you'd asked me this morning I'd have said DH probably didn't
But it was being discussed on the radio earlier and a guy said virtually all men watch it....so I asked DH and he said yeah....but now I feel about stupid assuming he didn't

Thank you both, completely agree.

If you are watching porn, masterbating over someone else, you are essentially cheating on your partner.