Does your partner watch porn?

[Iamawomaninlove]

Mine of a few years was looking for something on his phone whilst sitting next to me, I noticed his recent Google search history had a few... questionable titles 🙄 he had been at home for most of the day whilst I was out.
I have been told most people watch it and it doesn't mean anything, even though there are strong opinions towards the industry and rightly so.
I know it's normal to find others attractive, I think just to see all those searches made me feel a bit disappointed. I didn't say anything or let on.

Yes both of us do. Not all the time just when we feel like it. We enjoy it together, Neither of us are reliant on it and can I just say there is Porn and then there is PORN, you can go as far as you like with very few boundaries but I would suggest most adults only access material that they are personally comfortable viewing.If you want the hard stuff its there but its nasty and neither of us find anything good about extremes. Having said that I guess it all depends on what you like and what is acceptable viewing for both of us. It hasnt caused us any issues, in our marriage in all the years from I guess the 70s when we discovered it.

If he does then I know nothing about it.
In all honesty I don't think so.....more likely to watch things about engines to be fair

That's utterly vile and a would be a relationship ender for me.

I'm a bit stunned that you said nothing

No. Most people don’t.

I think men like females bodies and women like making money off their bodies, so porn is a win win for some people. If your guy has a low sex drive he’s not particularly fussed, but some guys have a really high sex drive and they don’t want to cheat - hence they watch porn!
Generic porn is women getting a kick out of being filmed and they like the money. And come on any of us really shocked that a guy would Google big tits - no don’t fool yourself! It’s just looking! You can’t control everything someone else does! Or looks at!!
Should he let you see he’s watching it, absolutely not, should he like other women’s pictures also a hard no!! And if something makes you feel uncomfortable you should be able to say, but some things are allowed to be private. Self gratification is one of them

It's the obsession with tiny teens, why!? It's weird and makes you feel ick, and insecure. Most of us don't look like that. Why is that attractive?

I don't think my partner watches porn, if he did it would be very rare. We live together and I have a much higher sex drive, so he never really feels the need to.

This is not true 🙄

@3sausagedogs

Generic porn is women getting a kick out of being filmed and they like the money.

You really don't have a clue, do you?

I have no idea if he does or not and I couldn't care less tbh, I do occasionally 🤷🏻‍♀️

This may come as a shock to some of you, but people have been masturbating for a very, very long time. Even (gasp) before the easy availability of porn.

I'm always a bit puzzled that the same people who claim to find porn so abhorrent they have no inclination to look at it and never have, often talk like world-leading authorities on the types of porn commonly available on popular websites.

I don't know if he does or if he doesn't. It wouldn't really both me if he did (unless if was something really dodgy) but to be honest, I've never asked him.

@XDownwiththissortofthingX

How very difficult you must find life if this issue puzzles you. Is there anything else you would like someone to explain to you?

No mine doesn't. And I know that's the truth because the only phone he has is a work phone and all websites like that are blocked. Plus I genuinely don't think he's interested. Not all men watch porn, I hate when people say that!

Where did I ask for an explanation?

Lot's of " Not my Nigel " comments in here, as there always is when this question is asked.

If your partner has a phone, he watches porn.

The more you insist they don't and the more you are convinced of that, the more secret they will keep it.

Only the most incredibly naïve or over confident are ' sure' their partner doesn't watch porn.

DH does, so do I and many of my friends.

@Suddenlychrimbo sorry but how do you physically know that every single man on this planet, watches porn? Like how can you actually physically know that 🤣

It seems very odd to me! Of COURSE not everyone does.

We both do. Separately and together

Nor DH or I watch porn (though we both did years ago before we ever met), it was very important to me that my partner not watch porn, and also share similar values with me. I couldn't be with someone who got off to the exploitation of and violence against women (after a horrendous past relationship with a sex and porn addict).
The ubiquitousness of porn in our society is a truly sickening development. No wonder there are so many fetishists wanting to flaunt themselves in public spaces these days. Its degeneracy.

I don’t need to visit Pornhub nor be an expert to know that in 2020 Pornhub took down EIGHTY percent of the content on its website because it showed child sex abuse, used trafficked actresses or other illegal reasons. It’s all in the public domain. But you keep putting your fingers in your ears and singling “lalala”.

Women who claim that there’s nothing wrong with it, that these actresses are empowered and enjoying sex are conveniently ignoring that porn actresses also (almost universally) come out and say the opposite once they’ve left the industry - that they were forced to perpetuate the “loving it” myths, when they were abused, beaten, raped, forced into practices that they didn’t want. Many were victims of child sexual abuse and told themselves they were taking back control, or were addicted to drugs and alcohol.

These women are victims, and it doesn’t make us prudes or sexually-repressed to be repulsed by abuse. All women should read up on the realities of the porn industry. It’s easy enough to google. Anyone who isn’t horrified doesn’t deserve to call themself a feminist or have a daughter.

I mean my says he doesn’t and I wouldn’t be fussed if he did. If he does its at work so more power to him getting paid to wank if that’s the case 😂 never seen him following any of those models or such when he was on social media either.

I don’t need to visit Pornhub nor be an expert to know that in 2020 Pornhub took down EIGHTY percent of the content on its website because it showed child sex abuse, used trafficked actresses or other illegal reasons. It’s all in the public domain

No it did not.

It took down 80% of content because that 80% could not be, or was not previously verified content, not the same thing at all as being child sex abuse, trafficked actresses, or "illegal reasons".

This encapsulates my point, which is merely that the people making all sorts of claims about what is or is not present on certain websites, while insisting they have never visited them, are in no position whatsoever to make objective claims about what is commonly present on those websites, and are merely regurgitating what they have read or heard elsewhere, regardless of the fact that is often either misinterpreted, misunderstood, prone to bias and written with an agenda, or just plain wrong.

But you keep putting your fingers in your ears and singling “lalala”

Pardon?

Agreed.

I absolutely hate porn and think it's responsible for the absolute vitriol a lot of men spew about women these days but I obviously cannot guarantee that my partner doesn't watch it, despite the fact that he knows how I feel about it.