I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

[Lostsoul0307]

I know I'm going to be absolutely annihilated for this but please believe me when I say I already feel terrible.

I was at a friends hen party this weekend at a holiday cottage with a group of about 20, on the Friday night a stripper had been hired and it was way more intimate than I was prepared for, he did a bit with whipped cream and a few of us licked off. I would never usually but I was really quite tipsy, there was a bit of crowd pressure and the whole thing was really quite arousing, I know these are lame excuses. I crossed a line and did stuff for way longer than I should.

I know I need to tell DH but I have no idea how to even go about bringing this up, he'll be crushed and I'm so disappointed in myself.

I look forward to hearing how you fare with the panel beater.

You're on form today @BlueLiquid 🤣🤣🤣

Thinking about it from my pov,i.e. Would I want to know,tor be happier not knowing,I would rather know then weigh up for myself.
Ask yourself why you went the extra mile .Think of questions your dh is likely to ask and have honest answers ready,don't give him lame responses or blame him.
You stand to lose an awful lot from this so really think about why you took park and why you kept going.
And get checked out for sti.I've never seen a private stripper so no idea if having oral sex is part of the job,but you really don't know him or where is wotsit has been.
Maybe you can learn something about yourself from this.

This is the only way forward.

I can think of few things less arousing than what you've described, OP. Grim, yes. Seedy, sordid, sad, tawdry, pathetic.... arousing, no.

Tempted to text my DP and ask if he'd rather I a) suck a already well moistened strippers cock for 3-4 minutes, or b) scratch the car.

It's only a scratch she can ask for a quick touch up.

So what was the point of this post then?🙄

Honestly I'm not sure but there is enough support for me to keep quiet and deal with my internal guilt and shame

i mean if you're trying to get yourself off on the details, there's probably better written stuff on the internet. if youre genuinely confused about all these women licking some floppy flaccid penis, my singular experience of a ladies night would suggest they would get it hard enough to do the job so the cream doesnt drip off the end

If my DH, in a moment of drunken madness, got up to something with a stripper, I'd rather not know - providing it was a one off and he was otherwise a faithful, good husband. Ignorance is bliss in that scenario.
If my DH was frequently cheating on me and pursuing other women I would definitely want to know and would leave him.
For this reason I wouldn't tell your husband.

how many times is too many tho? so she doesnt tell this time cos it was 3 minutes. what about a next time? what if your DP is only snogging individual women once a quarter not every time he goes out? like whats the line for cheat but dont tell?

😂😂

don't be stupid. You weren't unfaithful and don't need to tell him a thing.

Isn’t she, proper lol on both 🤣

😳< My face reading this!

For those that are saying it's not cheating, I'd personally disagree and this would be a hard boundary in my marriage. I think some of you women sound far more accepting than me...

Just out of curiosity, had the shoe been in the other foot and OP told us DH licked whipped cream of a strippers vagina and continued for 3-4 minutes, would you still consider this as an innocent mistake? Would you be saying that he shouldn't have said anything because its unnecessary hurt?

OP, my advice is to tell DH (I saw that you text but backed out). He has a right to know. What he does with the information is up to him but you can only apologise and ask for forgiveness. Keeping it a secret make the whole thing worse IMO.

What the fuck did I just read.

And how are you going to explain it when he comes down with a raging case of herpes?

If you’re real, you are a poor excuse for a human being.

This thread is amazing.

I’m laughing at the amount of posters thinking this can’t possibly be true and must be posted by a man because a woman would never.

So you scratched the car and then sucked off a stripper?

Nice.

What must he have done to deserve such a DP eh?

@whumpthereitis

I know. Why wouldn’t it be possible for a woman to do this? Some bloke waved his massive cock infront of her and she couldn’t resist 🤦‍♀️. Not the first, not the last.

Honestly I'm not sure but there is enough support for me to keep quiet and deal with my internal guilt and shame

Earlier you said you know you need to tell him.

If you don't, someone else will.

If you were that drunk, you certainly won't have been discrete when performing the act or when telling your friend afterwards.

So bascially you are picking out the posts telling you not to worry, and giving a stripper a blow job on a hen do is just a bit of fun, and ignoring all the rest 🙄

I pity your husband, and hope karma sets this right one day as you clearly don't intend to.

Chewies?! I think you’re doing it wrong!