I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

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I know I'm going to be absolutely annihilated for this but please believe me when I say I already feel terrible.

I was at a friends hen party this weekend at a holiday cottage with a group of about 20, on the Friday night a stripper had been hired and it was way more intimate than I was prepared for, he did a bit with whipped cream and a few of us licked off. I would never usually but I was really quite tipsy, there was a bit of crowd pressure and the whole thing was really quite arousing, I know these are lame excuses. I crossed a line and did stuff for way longer than I should.

I know I need to tell DH but I have no idea how to even go about bringing this up, he'll be crushed and I'm so disappointed in myself.

Same, some stranger waving his dick in my face is likely to piss me off more than anything!

This literally had me laughing out loud.

Sorry OP, but you need to start grovelling because now you're going to have to admit to two 'mistakes'.

It’s the school holidays in Scotland. Just saying.

No but his furious “OH” might 😂

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You've made the right decision. No good would come of it...and I would have told a bloke the same.
But if it turned you on then you might want to bring a few fantasies in to your bedroom.

I chickened out and told him something else that's much more low key - it might be wrong but what good can come of telling him

I don't know. Maybe the fact you'll save him the embarrassement of hearing down the local pub, or on a night out in a years time when you bump into some of the other women who were there, or he stumbles across a social media post about the evening. He'll hear about it at some point.

Also maybe so you can give the bloke an actual choice of whether he would want to stay with someone who can happily suck another blokes cock when she gets a bit tipsy?

By not telling him you are being incredibly selfish. You are basically saving your own skin and not thinking about whats best for him at all. Only whats best for you. All that bollocks about not wanting to hurt him. Nope, its about not wanting to own up to the massive huge fuck up mess you've managed to put yourself in.

If you had any respect for your partner and any sort of remorse you'd just tell him what happened, beg his forgiveness and start doing what you can to make amends. Not add lying to the list, the cheating is bad enough. Think about it OP. You'll end up getting yourself into why more of a mess than you already are, and may end up eventually telling him because your guilt is too much, by which point it'll be far worse.

If he can't forgive you, then that's up to him. That's not your choice to make really now is it?

He will probably get sent the video at some point, so how can you live with yourself, constantly worrying over when this will come out?

You could have nipped into Costcutter on the way home, grabbed a can of squirty cream and acted out your lusty high-cholesterol dairy based desires on DH’s prong I suppose, then he’d have felt t’benefit too

@JudgeAnderson are you the Psi judge from 2000AD?😁

They are very very small in number, vanishingly small when the man has done something like this.

and they get roundly disagreed with

im amazed anyone can’t see how this thread is a clear indication of how skewed mumsnet is!

Bollocks would you

Oh who cares? Seriously, the whole world is skewed against women, pretty much every other forum is, so does it really matter? Men aren’t going to suddenly be oppressed because of mumsnet.

Ooh I wonder if this is the hen do my friend has just been on, she messaged and said she’d never seen so many women be unfaithful to their partners in one weekend!

A difficult situation was sprung on you.
Everyone would have been so drunk no one would have noticed how long you were behind the flag.
Deal with the guilt, move on, and don’t dwell on. Stupid to let too much alcohol harm your relationship, you had no unfaithful intent.
Sounds like quite a tacky hen though, but on the other hand I’m an overly repressed person!

If this thread is real, which I'm beginning to doubt, then you should be even more ashamed of yourself

Highly doubt it is real...
But if it is, and no proof needed from reading some of these replies, I think its not only the OP that feels no shame in giving a complete stranger oral sex.

As I asked OP earlier, and same applies to others that say "don't tell", there'll be no complaints if their own DH/DP's done the same thing to a woman and they omitted to tell them.

Strong disagree.

It’s really not that difficult:
“Shall I put this cock, that doesn’t belong to my DH, in my mouth?”

That’s what I thought, it reads like Can I have some Pervy details please <shudders>

No advice to give the OP, sorry!

But this kind of thing definitely happens because I went to a charity ladies night and there were strippers there, also with big flags and whipped cream getting volunteers to wank and/or suck. My next door neighbour sucked a dick and a few months later when we were having a cuppa she screamed at the TV cos she the stripper was on it. It was Chico from X Factor. 😂

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow Well spotted!

Once I was at a colleagues leaving party. We were all very drunk. I was leaving to catch a train home (he was leaving too). I went to kiss him on the cheek but it turned into a snog.

He moved his head at the wrong moment. He didn't mean it.

I confessed to my DH as soon as I saw him. That was 6 years ago.

Thankfully DH found it funny.

This isn't funny. I think you should still tell your DH.

Hopefully you'll be able to find a way to move on together.

‘It was Chico from X Factor’

😂😭💀

Tried to stop myself laughing and ended up honking instead. Fucking excellent.

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This, and the 'prong' comment have me laughing so hard!

How does a cheek kiss turn into a snog? Unless you were crying to open mouth lick his cheek?