Husband doesn't know my middle name

[bigbluehamster]

Together for six years. Have a one-year-old together.

He can't tell me my middle name!

Am I being unreasonable to think that this is offensive?!

Me too buster. HOW can you not know your spouse’s middle names? And forgetting your children’s middle names? Bizarre.

My middle name doesn’t appear on any of those documents apart from my passport, and I’ve never used it to book hotels etc.

Nor mine. Ive claimed on car/house insurance several times, my middle name not being on there has never even come up. I certainly have never used it to book a hotel. Its on my passport because they specifically asked- many forms only ask for first name, last name etc

Op over 20 years here and mine doesn't know. Or rather he just forgets. He also doesn't remember the anniversary of the day we met, where we went on our first date, where his work socks are kept or if he locked the back door. He never forgets important football facts/events or how much money he has left in his wallet/bank. He only stains information that is important to him

@EmptyBedBlues Same here. I've never used mine on anything, legal documents or otherwise.

We don't live together. So no lies, says a lot about you that you instantly assume I did!

Unless you use your middle name a lot it's an easy one for others to forget.

It's not a big deal.

Poor you

Are they not listed on your passport?

I'd forgive mine for rounding down, but not up!

Sorry, I'd better clarify. It was a 'joke'. Evidently misconceived!

I stand corrected, but surely it's used when setting these things up? When my life/home insurance company contact me they use my first name and surname but at the time of setting up the plan I'm pretty sure they'd need formal ID which would have my middle name? My bank card says Mrs B A Gonand so that obviously has my middle initial on it. I suppose I just can't understand why partners wouldn't know these things. But we are all different.

A bit different though, it is a number that changes every year, I sometimes forget how old I am.

You know you don't have to do any of those things with your middle name, when it says full name for most things I don't put my middle name. My husband only very rarely uses his middle name too, its on his passport and probably driving licence so I have to think hard, because its not like i am looking at those, i dont need to seen them!

This came up recently with my parents, I don't have a middle name but my brother does (they realised that we'd have the same initials for post etc and he is younger, so gave him a last minute middle name), DM does and DF said I don't either. DM looked at him strangely and said yes you do it's X , and he laughed and said oh yes I'd forgotten.
His OWN middle name.
I wouldn't be too worried about it OP it's not that important all things considered.

And not remotely funny.

Is it a test, OP? I have, in the past, forgotten myDH’s Birthday! It’s not a deal-breaker…

Ah okay. I guess I just use mine anyway. I do live abroad and we are forever filling out firms for work visas, spousal visa, visas to enter other countries so to me it's second nature to put my whole name. Previously to that I have always know my husbands full name. It's just something I know about him and vice versa. Maybe I'm just an old git now???

It made me and DH laugh. I suppose we must be stupid. Sorry! 😖

Every time I think the bar for men is low, MN shows me it can get lower of course my DP knows my name! He knows my birthday and our anniversary too.

This is what I'm thinking tbh.

If he has access to your marriage certificate…

I don't think I've ever told my OH of 9 years what my middle name is, so no issue with that.

The fact he had no idea what colour my eyes are was a 'really?!' moment. They are not blue or brown, so I thought he'd notice/remember!

My middle name isn't on any of my documents, including my passport, and neither of us have looked at our wedding cert in over 30 years. I don't see the big deal with this, though my dh would never forget our anniversary or my birthday, as I wouldn't forget his.

I know my husband's middle name simply because it's a name I really dislike so has stuck in my mind :) his initials also spell out a name so hard to forget the first letter of us middle name at least! If he had a regular name like John or something, I'd probably have forgotten as you never really use someone's middle name! I think husband knows my middle name, but if not, it doesn't really matter. He's never had to use it!