Husband doesn't know my middle name

[bigbluehamster]

Together for six years. Have a one-year-old together.

He can't tell me my middle name!

Am I being unreasonable to think that this is offensive?!

This is pretty unusual. Why doesn’t he know it? Did he ever know it?

I hope my wife doesn't read this, I know her middle name but I couldn't tell you our childrens middle names! My excuse would be that to me middle names are unnecessary and unimportant. But I realise that other people won't hold the same opinion. They were just something my wife wrote down for the birth certificate and I've never considered it since.

So personally, if he's otherwise attentive, not uncaring/uninterested in those around him otherwise then it wouldn't bother me.

My husband never gets my birthday right.

But then he doesn't know his arse from his elbow so it's unsurprising

Your marriage isn’t legal then. Your marriage ceremony and certificate have to use your full name.

I go by a nickname of my first name and our ceremony was done with just that nickname and DH's first name and we're legally married. I can't say in regards to the certificate though since ours has full names on it.

I'm mixed about it. Both my DHs knew everything about me to specifics things I would order out to eat.

I have trouble remembering my grandchildren's ages and exact birthdays even though I was there for one of them! They don't know though. I have it written down. 😂

I can't even remember kids' middle names.

Yabu to find that offensive

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This makes you sound like you're 12 years old!

This thread is truly baffling. Doesn't anyone on here (who doesn't know middle names) have house insurance? Car insurance? A mortgage? Book flights? Have joint bank accounts? Book hotels? Have passports and driving licenses? How utterly strange. I know my husbands and sons middle names, dob, place of births. My husband knows mine too. Sometimes I think I'm on another planet.

What a catch!

My husband forgets how old I am. I don't mind!

'Offensive' feels a bit dramatic

Well that's a very odd relationship then.

you can play Rumpelstiltskin!

Make him do horrific chores every day until he guesses correctly .

Hm middle names aren’t really used for much so I wouldn’t look too much into it.

I agree. Some of the people on here are describing their husband's. How can they not know after arranging and attending their own weddings? Surely it must set up home in your brain somewhere?

Having said that, it's probably not the most important thing to know about someone. We once played a version of a Mr and Mrs quiz with other couples at a get together. The ones who planned the questions seemed to know next to nothing about each other after over 30 decades together. They are now divorced.

I forgot my dhs 2 middle names at the registry office...he has 3...i got 1 out of 3 right!

Is he kind? Supportive, honest, loyal, gentle, fun, sexy?
Some things matter, somethings don't.

DH knows my middle name but honestly it wouldn't offend or bother me if he forgot.

We also only got married a few years ago and I'd have to think long and hard to remember the date - I do know the month though

To be fair, memory does degrade after 3 centuries 😉

Sometimes my DH has to ask me how to spell his own middle name! (He’s dyslexic and it’s a long name!)

Whoosh! Hear that?

This wouldnt bother me at all. I'm not particularly keen on my middle name, literally never use it, ever, and sometimes I even forget its my name as I've kind of disconnected with it and dont see it as "me" if that makes sense.

Married for nearly 15yrs and husband consistently spells my middle name wrongly. And it's not a complicated name and the spelling he does is patently insane and no normal person would think that this spelling was anything other than wrong (think it's Rachael and he spells it "Raychul").

I don't take it personally, he's a great husband and father, just clearly a bit of a dimbo

Have you ever told him your middle name?
I don't use mine on anything, I don't get all these people saying it's on bank stuff and bills, mine isn't, why the electricity company need my middle initial?

You can’t get married without using your full name. It’s right there on your marriage certificate and the priest/registrar/celebrant legally has to use it in the ceremony.