Decline party invite because she gave me a thumbs up?

[FrumptyMumpty]

I know this is petty, but I find the whole birthday party scene an unwanted drain on my family time, my energy levels and my finances.

I’d much rather do play dates.

When you’ve got as many kids as I have it’s lucky if we don’t have a birthday each day of the weekend.

So my eldest daughter was invited to a party where everyone is invited.

I don’t know this mum, hardly see her to talk to her, but the kids get on so I was going to go… like you do. She came to my daughters party, exchange the gift back, etc

BUT the mum is obviously selectively responding to several mums RSVPs with either a 👍🏻or a ❤️

I got a thumbs up 👍🏻

Now I’m wondering why I should put myself out when she has outed me as being less equal than half the other mums.

AIBU to decline purely because of the 👍🏻?

Don’t be a twat. It’s not about you.

Did your daughter think she was one of this girl’s very best friends?

This has to be a wind up

You are being ridiculous and unreasonable.

Isn't the party for your child? Not you?

Oh shit - there's a hierarchy of emojis ?

I am fucked then.

I would 👍

If you want to now decline having said you'd attend then yes do it now and let her know exactly why..

I’d love to see the rest of the list. What tips you from going from 😂 to 🤣 for example?

I think you're reading a bit too much into emojis here...

But you are less "equal?" You say yourself you hardly know each other?

It's your DD that your putting yourself out for in the end, not this woman.

Me and you both!

👍

That would be an insane reason to decline, but it's fine to not go just because you don't want to go, as long as you RSVP in good time so you're not expected or paid for. Maybe just ask DD if she'd rather go or do whatever you would be doing otherwise?

But you say you don't know her well? You're being ridiculously petty.

I assume you already accepted the invite? Hence the thumbs up. So are you saying you now want to renege on the invite?

Are you usually so petty?

Come on, OP, surely both 👍and ❤️ are signs of approval and appreciation!

Obviously if you don't want to go, don't. But don't decline over a fecking emoji. Christ.

You said you hardly know her so why would you expect a heart emjoi!!
You're reading far too much into this!!

This is unhinged, OP.

Your poor daughter.

Mum am I going to Alice's party

Yes you are, I've RSVPd

Two days later, your not going to Alice's party anymore, her mum used the wrong emoji.

It’s not her fault you have had so many kids!

Is this a thing now, really ?

What the heck did I just read? #firstworldproblems

Blimey! This is about your daughter turning up for her friend’s birthday- a children’s birthday party! This is not about you. Don’t ruin it for her by not letting her go.

Am I the only one reading this as a lighthearted post?