Decline party invite because she gave me a thumbs up?

[FrumptyMumpty]

I know this is petty, but I find the whole birthday party scene an unwanted drain on my family time, my energy levels and my finances.

I’d much rather do play dates.

When you’ve got as many kids as I have it’s lucky if we don’t have a birthday each day of the weekend.

So my eldest daughter was invited to a party where everyone is invited.

I don’t know this mum, hardly see her to talk to her, but the kids get on so I was going to go… like you do. She came to my daughters party, exchange the gift back, etc

BUT the mum is obviously selectively responding to several mums RSVPs with either a 👍🏻or a ❤️

I got a thumbs up 👍🏻

Now I’m wondering why I should put myself out when she has outed me as being less equal than half the other mums.

AIBU to decline purely because of the 👍🏻?

Are you coming back OP?
♥️ for yes
👍 for no

Me too. Doubtless I've unknowingly offended a raft of people :(

As you can see lots of people didn’t know there is an emoji heirachy so I am guessing she did not either

@KitKatLove - that made me snort! Very clever!

You must have an awful lot of time on your hands.

💅

This reminds me of the time my sister blocked me because she put this emoticon 🤗 and I asked what was that.

Obviously, I didn’t realise the emotional weight an emoticon could drive. I have also aparently shamed my son to death for adding :-) to a thank you on an open day. Apparently the source of embarrassment was that he couldn’t believe I had put a smiler with a nose! The shame! Worst mother on Earth, obviously!

This is very immature. I can't believe you are basing your attendance on an emoji.

I ve been told 👍 are lame, I gave the comment a 👍

🤣🤣

At least you didn't get an upside down smiley face, (🙃) I hear that's like a kick to the shins.

🦇 💩 😜

Well I think it’s a bit childish to reply to RSVPs with emojis in the first place. At least keep to one 👍for everyone. How silly to give favourites a ❤️

The 👍mums are clearly going to cordoned off to a corner of the party and ignored/ not allowed access to nibbles etc and sent home so an “after party” can commence for the ❤️s

100% this

I do know what you mean, OP. I'm sooooo mindful of this.

It really can feel that there are different tiers when one person gets a ❤️ and another gets a 👍

Therefore I make sure everyone is given the same - unless there is a genuinely exceptional reason for it.

I'd still take my child to the party though.

Even it is - I still do it!

This is bonkers! You're going to make your kid miss out on a party because you're not close enough to the mum to get more than a thumbs up? Get over yourself!

I detest the thumbs up emoji as a response. It's lazy.

👍

Really?

Fucking hell. I know it's no race to the bottom with problems but if this is an actual concern of yours...

Maybe she is related to or know those far closer that she is giving the hearts to? You sound quite immature and making it all about you.

I initially assumed this was a joke but, well.....😬

You are jealous because others got a heart, how petty, your poor child!

What?! Really, just what! Is there really nothing more pressing than this to worry about. Lucky you.

How many people have I unknowingly offended in the past!

How do you know which emojis the other mums received? Did you go around checking everyone’s phones?