Decline party invite because she gave me a thumbs up?

[FrumptyMumpty]

I know this is petty, but I find the whole birthday party scene an unwanted drain on my family time, my energy levels and my finances.

I’d much rather do play dates.

When you’ve got as many kids as I have it’s lucky if we don’t have a birthday each day of the weekend.

So my eldest daughter was invited to a party where everyone is invited.

I don’t know this mum, hardly see her to talk to her, but the kids get on so I was going to go… like you do. She came to my daughters party, exchange the gift back, etc

BUT the mum is obviously selectively responding to several mums RSVPs with either a 👍🏻or a ❤️

I got a thumbs up 👍🏻

Now I’m wondering why I should put myself out when she has outed me as being less equal than half the other mums.

AIBU to decline purely because of the 👍🏻?

Just send her a 👎🏻

I think OP is joking? Surely?

You've admitted that you barely know her... wouldn't you think it odd to get a heart emoji? Surely she's reserving the heart emoji for her closer friends?

I shower my whatsapp chats with thumbs up emojis. I even give people a thumbs up now and again IN REAL LIFE.

Very funny op 💀😭😭

Flashbacks to my teen daughter giving me An Education on emojis, with a detailed breakdown of how I was using them wrong. According to DD16 😁 means sarcasm and 👍 is passive aggressive. I've been reliably informed that 😂 is 'cringe', too.

I wouldn't worry about it OP. Loads of us have no idea about emoji etiquette. Apparently I've been acknowledging messages with passive aggression for months!

I think she’s just alternating emojis- a string of hearts would be weird. I’m guessing you’re joking though….

That was my first thought too. I wonder how many I've insulted, I more or less pick them at random.

What the actual

You say:

I don’t know this mum, hardly see her to talk to her, but the kids get on so I was going to go
OP Why would she use a heart emoji?
If she had sent you a heart would you be complaining 'how false' she is?

ps I have not read all the posts.

A whole class group WhatsApp?

Theres no need to reply to an RSVP anyway. I mean where does it end? Replying to the reply acknowledging the RSVP reply?

Perhaps send ❤️In reply to the 👍? That’ll give the clear message that you’ve rumbled her coded emoji game.

I’m surprised you get any invites anywhere being this much of a prick tbh

FGS
what is wrong with people???

This is a party invite for your daughter, so...does she want to go?!? That's all that's relevant.

When in doubt I use the sunglasses character

😂 What the F have I just read? Are you 12 @FrumptyMumpty ???

🖕

👎

🫁

Please come back and answer some questions OP! Is this a wind up? If not, how old are you, and how many DC have you got? you sound like a teenager, but say you have loads of kids?

I don’t know this mum, hardly see her to talk to her

Putting aside how OTT your reaction is. Let us think about this in a matter of fact perspective.

If this the above quote describes the relationship between you both then why do you expect a heart rather than a thumbs up?

Maybe she puts a heart to the people she knows well and a thumbs up to those she does not know well.

Seems perfectly reasonable to me.

I don't understand what the 👍🏻 was in response to. Has your daughter gone and already attended her friends party or not? The friend has clearly been to your daughter's party. What was the thumbs up in relation to?

Also, you must get that kids have best friends in school and after school and if the invite extends to all children, then some will of course be the best friends of the party girl so are more likely to get a ❤ than a 👍🏻 which would be reserved for people the mother doesn't know very well, of which you have stated you're in that group.

Go.

Don't go.

It's entirely up to you but if your daughter in years to come learns that her mother decided a potential friendship of hers over an emoji, do you realise how deranged that sounds?

This is why I hate WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram etc. constant pressure to like, reply, comment, use the right emoji. 🤯