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Would you date a man who cross dressed?

576 replies

Supernova23 · 03/04/2023 09:06

Compatible in most ways but they admitted from the beginning they cross dressed. Would you?

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Choconut · 03/04/2023 09:11

No because I wouldn't find it attractive and who knows how it might progress.

Viviennemary · 03/04/2023 09:12

No.

MeinKraft · 03/04/2023 09:12

One of the least sexy things imaginable so no.

Ktime · 03/04/2023 09:12

No. Voting is confusing, but I voted YABU.

Sicario · 03/04/2023 09:13

Not knowingly, no.
So coming home unexpectedly after forgetting something and finding a set of clothes carefully laid out on the bed which were obviously going to be put on was a bit of a shock.

Fraaahnces · 03/04/2023 09:13

Eddie fucking Izard. No.

ArcticSkewer · 03/04/2023 09:14

ArcticSkewer · 03/04/2023 09:11

I'd casually date them, and have done in the past.
I don't think I'd have a problem with a longer term more established relationship but I'm just not in the market for that anyway.

Actually I am going to caveat that ... it wouldn't be a factor against, anyway. It would really depend on how they were as a person.

PurpleParrotfish · 03/04/2023 09:14

BadgerFacedCoo · 03/04/2023 09:08

No.

But any sort of fetish would be a no for me. Cross dressers. Those people who dress as animals. Spurs fans. People who like whipped. No thanks.

Spurs fans?

newtb · 03/04/2023 09:14

No, as a PP said it could be the start of a slippery slope.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 03/04/2023 09:14

Fuck no

Thepeopleversuswork · 03/04/2023 09:14

In and of itself it wouldn’t be a big problem.

If I thought it was the thin end of a wedge that was leading to him being transgender or a certain type of kink it would be a big no.

I certainly would proceed with caution.

BringMeTea · 03/04/2023 09:15

No.

ArcticSkewer · 03/04/2023 09:15

PurpleParrotfish · 03/04/2023 09:14

Spurs fans?

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I'd draw the line there, personally.

The other fetishes are okay by me ... got to find your fun somewhere...

Keeween · 03/04/2023 09:15

Absolutely not.

Happygirl79 · 03/04/2023 09:15

It's 100% no from me.

cassiatwenty · 03/04/2023 09:15

No.

ThomasinaLivesHere · 03/04/2023 09:16

I’d be worried about how it could progress and if there was anything being held back.

I think it would depend how he did it and looked and other aspects of relationship.

ShagratandGorbag4ever · 03/04/2023 09:17

How good does he look in tights?

PogoThePunk · 03/04/2023 09:17

No, but only because I'd be worried about him nicking my clothes.

TuesdayJulyNever · 03/04/2023 09:17

I honestly don’t know how I’d feel if dh did, because he’s a wonderful human, I love the bones of him, and I might just take it in my stride.

But early in a relationship it would be a complete sexual turn off for me.

Theimpossiblegirl · 03/04/2023 09:17

Absolutely not.

OutDamnedSpot · 03/04/2023 09:18

Hell no.

SoFED · 03/04/2023 09:18

No, having been with a man with such fetishes. Basically would want to be dominated so dressing as a ‘woman’ would feed into that kink. Run a mile. It’s an emotionally draining place to be.

KohlaParasaurus · 03/04/2023 09:19

No. He sounds like he might be hard work.

skippy67 · 03/04/2023 09:19

Nope.