Would you date a man who cross dressed?

[Supernova23]

Compatible in most ways but they admitted from the beginning they cross dressed. Would you?

Hell no

This.

It's the fetishisation of it that would give me the ick. Also, it can be a slippery slope, as I've witnessed in the past.

Never in a month of Sundays

Absolutely not

100% no. In fact I find the idea repulsive 🤢

Somebody who 'wanted to dress like a woman', no.
But somebody up there mentioned Harry Styles, so I'm going to caveat that with- someone who wears what the fuck they want on day, and considers clothing and accessories genderless, maybe. I dont imagine he puts on a frilly top and expects people to believe he's female. That sort of personality probably wouldn't appeal to me in a partner anyway, but wouldn't bother me clothing wise- like a little kid who dresses up as a fire fighter, a fairy, a doctor, they can be what they choose on that day, and if we let it be naturally we might have less people feeling like they have to be another sex.

I wouldn't find that trait at all attractive, so likely no. My DH is bisexual and that doesn't bother me in the slightest, but I think it would bother me if he chose to dress as a woman or claimed that his gender wasn't always male because I am not bisexual and am only attracted to men.

I don't find Harry Styles attractive, but that kind of thing - dressing however someone feels comfortable - would be fine with me. If it's dressing as some drag-type stereotype of a woman then absolutely not, because I find that offensive. If it's a sexual kink then absolutely not either. Someone else has brought into it, so it's made me wonder if dating the latter or a Mercedes fan would be more gross, and I can't decide.

Nope. No ick or whatever, just nope.

No, because the whole concept of 'cross dressing' relies on the idea of a woman as something to do with clothes, hair & makeup. I'd be really insulted that he sees my sex as something trivial and external.

I want the person I have sex with to be really into being a man having sex with a woman. Honest and primal, not some weird clothing-related business in his own head. I'd also be suspicious, with reason, that his real desire is for himself as a 'woman' - autogynephilia. Fuck that. Or, rather, I wouldn't fuck that. I'm not playing second fiddle to anybody's imaginary self.

It's different from simply pushing the boundaries of 'gender' with your fashion choices. That's what Harry Styles does, and what all the cool guys were doing in the 1980s. That isn't 'cross dressing', and I love it.

What you are describing is a kink. No other word for it.

So you would go along with a man's kink for cross dressing.

I think the phrase ''cross dressing'' is a bit vague.

For some it means kilt wearing Scots, sexy men in sarongs on a hot holiday, foot ballers wearing a bun and Mr' Styles doing whatever he does to get a bit of attention. All fine obvs.

For others (me included) ''cross dressing' means either a man who gets a sexual kick out of wearing womens clothes or a man who likes to pretend to be a woman, either in public or in private. Neither is something i want in my life.

All mine then!!!
I'd climb him like a tree.

Yep.

Gender non conformity and cross dressing (which is usually part of a fetish) are 2 very very different things.

From experience, no.

Assuming it's sexual it's likely a Paraphilia. That means that it's an obsession and a compulsion.

In my experience he thought and talked about it ALL the time. He dedicated hours (every day) to dressing and masturbating and wanted my involvement.

If that's what you want great, if not walk away now.

I wouldn't have thought twice before all this aggressive and weird activism, and the meteoric rise of autogynephilia.
Now, I am too pissed off, wary and informed.

No. Definitely not.

My bloke is tall and large so he'd look like Demis Roussos in a dress, so no.

Also I like very masculine hairy men, preferably in a suit, so it wouldn't work for me.

Definitely not. I would find it an absolute turn off.

Never

No, I'm saying that I wouldn't date them if it were a kink.

But I don't see why clothes are inherently gendered. If a man wants to wear a dress because he likes it then that's no more a kink than me wearing a trouser suit as opposed to a skirt suit is. It's a kink if he wants to have sex in the dress BECAUSE it's a woman's item of clothing, and he wants to think of himself as "dresses as a woman" during sex. If he just likes the damn thing and how it looks then all good. To be clear this type of dress isn't attractive to me, but neither are suits or low hung jeans. I could tolerate both in an otherwise attractive man that I clicked with.

Are we talking someone stealing my dresses and heels or Harry Styles? Because I wouldn’t mind the latter level but if it was due to a fetish absolutely not.

Good God noooooooo.

No

No