Lodger told me I eat too much. Do I??

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Obviously you’re not going to be able to tell me for sure without seeing my portions etc but I’m a bit annoyed.

She’s been wfh this week, normally we don’t really see each other. I’ve just been into the kitchen to get a coffee and opened the cupboard to get a snack to go with it (a dark chocolate rice cake if that’s relevant) and she said “you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”

So Monday I had
2 cups of tea
porridge with mixed seeds
a peanut cereal bar &coffee
cheese and cucumber sandwich (granary bread, butter), cranberry juice, satsuma
2 sausages and veg (carrots, broccoli, leeks, swede, sprouts). cherry yoghurt.
Plus water and herbal tea (3 herbal teas, 2 water)

Tuesday
2 cups of tea
2 weetabix
standard size bag of maltesers and coffee
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Bag of salt and vinegar squares. Cranberry juice
shakshuka with extra veg in (courgette, aubergine, kale as well as the peppers, onion and tomatoes), feta and hummus on top, flatbread on the side
water, herbal tea as Monday

Weds and Thurs basically as Tuesday except Wednesday I had toast and marmite with my coffee, no crisps either day. Dinner Wednesday was lentil and fennel stew with rice, had a digestive biscuit afterwards, last night pork casserole with mash, green beans and broccoli.

Putting aside the fact that she was rude, I don’t think I eat that much? Basically 3 meals and one snack. Would you consider this a lot of food?

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Um, I think the OP’s point is she doesn’t want advice she didn’t ask for.

Cheeky sod! What on earth is to do with her - regardless of how much/little you eat?!

I'd start snorting kitkats just to piss her off

I’m in no way saying you shouldn’t be enjoying your home in anyway you want. Like you say she could be in her room. I just think this person uses manipulative tactics to get what she wants. I imagine you felt awful getting any more food from the kitchen after what she said. She wins the kitchen! Please don’t change your diet I don’t feel it has anything to do with it.

Of course it's no one's business but your own. If I ate all that I'd put on weight unfortunately, maybe she's the same and is a little envious that you can eat like that and stay a good size.
Regardless, I think you may need to let her know it's a faux pas in Uk culture to comment on this.

How long has she been your lodger?

I always eat the whole avocado. They don’t seem to keep well even in the fridge.

Lodger needs to fuxk off and mind their own business and probably look for a new place to live

I'm also a live in landlord.

It sounds like some cultural differences going on. It would probably be beneficial to have a chat with her about what's considered polite in the UK before she does it at work. I'm sure if you went to her home country, you'd inadvertently say or do something considered terribly impolite.

People who would make someone else homeless because of one cultural misunderstanding - give your heads a wobble.

The only people who need to “give their heads a wobble” are those who thinks “Oh but cultural tho” is a defence for shitty behaviour.

It depends on if the lodger mends their ways after a chat.

Some things are cultural - like what's considered a polite topic of conversation. It's not like the lodger has boiled OPs cat in a stew.

If your first response to having your eyebrows raised is to evict, you shouldn't be a live in landlord because you're just too thin skinned for it.

Your response should have been "You're way too rude - please leave by the end of the month."

Why on earth are you concerned about what some random tells you? If you are not gaining weight, your bodily functions are normal, continue as you are.

Well only because it took me by surprise because I didn’t think I ate that much. I don’t generally give it much thought day to day, just eat what I want when I feel like it (although writing it down made me realise I’m actually pretty boring and eat the same stuff a lot for breakfast and lunch-probably why I don’t think about it much!). I posted my food list on here to see if my perceptions were way off and I am indeed eating a huge amount without realising it. Some say I am, some say I’m not so I’m none the wiser 🤣 but it does seem to be working for me for now at least.

Lodgers’ new lodgings should be ready on 1st April…

Good result on removal of lodger and very apt date! Celebrate with a cake; eat it slowly in front of her and make noises.

Why? Looks healthy to me

Tell her to mind her own business or move out

If you’re fat yes, if you are not fat then perfectly fine and I admire you for eating so well. Is she a larger lady?

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Every day you make a comment 🎶🎵🎶
Your rent goes up 🎶🎵🎶🎶🎵
Every time you mention food 🎵🎶🎵🎶
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Why are you bothered? Just eat what you want, it's nothing to do with anyone else 🫤

It sounds like you eat very little. And it is weird that you can remember every little morsel you ate since Monday.

You need an EX LODGER bloody cheek! Tell her she needs her own place… Enjoy your meals x

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WTAF?? Get a new lodger!