Lodger told me I eat too much. Do I??

[Orcubed]

Obviously you’re not going to be able to tell me for sure without seeing my portions etc but I’m a bit annoyed.

She’s been wfh this week, normally we don’t really see each other. I’ve just been into the kitchen to get a coffee and opened the cupboard to get a snack to go with it (a dark chocolate rice cake if that’s relevant) and she said “you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”

So Monday I had
2 cups of tea
porridge with mixed seeds
a peanut cereal bar &coffee
cheese and cucumber sandwich (granary bread, butter), cranberry juice, satsuma
2 sausages and veg (carrots, broccoli, leeks, swede, sprouts). cherry yoghurt.
Plus water and herbal tea (3 herbal teas, 2 water)

Tuesday
2 cups of tea
2 weetabix
standard size bag of maltesers and coffee
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Bag of salt and vinegar squares. Cranberry juice
shakshuka with extra veg in (courgette, aubergine, kale as well as the peppers, onion and tomatoes), feta and hummus on top, flatbread on the side
water, herbal tea as Monday

Weds and Thurs basically as Tuesday except Wednesday I had toast and marmite with my coffee, no crisps either day. Dinner Wednesday was lentil and fennel stew with rice, had a digestive biscuit afterwards, last night pork casserole with mash, green beans and broccoli.

Putting aside the fact that she was rude, I don’t think I eat that much? Basically 3 meals and one snack. Would you consider this a lot of food?

Jeez she should see how much I can put away! Agree with others how rude and irritating?! Chuck her out if you can.

Very witty. Love it.

Tell if you wanted to live with a knob you’d get married then tell her to fuck off? Rude rude rude

I think OP is an enabler, not many people I know would put up with that behaviour in their own homes ffs. And posting her food diary for clarification is just ridiculous- despite what some may say, what you choose to put in your mouth is no business of mine, nor should it be anyone's business what I put in mine esp in my own home.

You don’t each much - she’s being an idiot. This comment will be a small indication of bigger resentment/nastiness underneath. I’d be asking her to leave. You don’t need that in your own home.

This -get rid of her!

Me "you know that room you are renting in my house ?"
Lodger "yes"
Me "I want you out by the end of next week"

“you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”

@Orcubed I KNEW she wouldn't be British. Is she from a European country?

I have relatives by marriage from a European country and they are always coming out with stuff like this. It's just normal and not considered rude for some inexplicable reason. Similarly commenting on people's weight is just matter of fact, par for the course and nothing anyone regards as odd.

This.
She sounds annoying and stupid. Can you find another lodger?

Is she overweight ????

Sorry I didn't read your full post because it isn't my business what you eat and it isn't your lodgers either. Eat what you like, you don't have to justify yourself. And your lodger is disgustingly rude imo

She sounds potentially very unpleasant. Please don't over analyse what you eat and question yourself because of her rude comments. Definitely get a new lodger!

Get some boundaries, OP! What you eat is none of her business, it’s none of my business and also none of anybody’s business on here.

Simple solution if it was me. Next time she leaves the house put her stuff outside on the door step along with a cake and say “this is a farewell gift, thank you for the pleasure of your company now kindly f*ck off and nag someone else you rude cow! 😏

It's rude, and she sounds very unpleasant. What you eat is no-one's business but your own. I couldn't stand having someone like that living in my home - I'm afraid she wouldn't last long with me.

It wouldn’t matter if you sat on the sofa all day surrounded by chocolate - it is .. repeat .. no one’s business but yours !
Your lodger is rude and offensive , get sone boundaries and tell her to mind her own business or find somewhere else to live …

Tell the lodger to be quiet and lodge unless they want to be eaten too!😋

As many other people have said, it sounds like she's from a different culture.

In which case - if you feel confident to have the conversation - you could say something like 'I don't think you realised, but t's very rude in this country to talk about people's weight and what they eat, you need to know these things if you're going to live in the UK."

Just think, if you were staying in another country, and you said/did something that's very offensive in that culture - you would expect to be put straight, wouldn't you?

I'd have told the silly cow she talks too much.

I'd tell her to get the fuck out of my house and not come back if my lodger ever spoke to me like that.

disgusting to comment on others eating habit.

maybe she should learn that her small talk is horribly offensive in her landlords culture then

I've only ever met one person who was hugely blunt like this and she was Chinese. This was in an office and she used to comment on other peoples habits all the time. Your diet is fab by the way - she's obviously must eat like a sparrow

Yesterday a friends female relative came to stay with her. She said she had been downsizing her home and had a lovely dress that would just suit me." I'm sure it will fit you it's huge. It's really enormous" Today I went out to lunch with my friend and the same relative. We happened to meet an ex colleague who said she was concerned as I had lost weight and looked " frail" Friends relative agreed that I am not eating enough! So I'm either a prize porker or a little wisp of a thing! I wish people would not give their opinions on everything unless they are asked for . Your lodger is very rude .Tell her she talks too much and needs to leave .

None of her business what you eat. Don't discuss it. Eat what u like. The problem is when someone makes commentsike this the food can feel like as in your mouth. She needs to pipe down.

Stop justifying your intake.please. really just move away from her comment.move away from this thread.do not get hung up on this.it will make you.more unhealthy than dropping such comments will ever do,or what listening yo people telling you you need to differ your diet on here.