Lodger told me I eat too much. Do I??

[Orcubed]

Obviously you’re not going to be able to tell me for sure without seeing my portions etc but I’m a bit annoyed.

She’s been wfh this week, normally we don’t really see each other. I’ve just been into the kitchen to get a coffee and opened the cupboard to get a snack to go with it (a dark chocolate rice cake if that’s relevant) and she said “you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”

So Monday I had
2 cups of tea
porridge with mixed seeds
a peanut cereal bar &coffee
cheese and cucumber sandwich (granary bread, butter), cranberry juice, satsuma
2 sausages and veg (carrots, broccoli, leeks, swede, sprouts). cherry yoghurt.
Plus water and herbal tea (3 herbal teas, 2 water)

Tuesday
2 cups of tea
2 weetabix
standard size bag of maltesers and coffee
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Bag of salt and vinegar squares. Cranberry juice
shakshuka with extra veg in (courgette, aubergine, kale as well as the peppers, onion and tomatoes), feta and hummus on top, flatbread on the side
water, herbal tea as Monday

Weds and Thurs basically as Tuesday except Wednesday I had toast and marmite with my coffee, no crisps either day. Dinner Wednesday was lentil and fennel stew with rice, had a digestive biscuit afterwards, last night pork casserole with mash, green beans and broccoli.

Putting aside the fact that she was rude, I don’t think I eat that much? Basically 3 meals and one snack. Would you consider this a lot of food?

My response would be that it's none of her fucking business what you eat.

Yes I didn't read what you eat.
Your business entirely
Kick her out cheeky cow like you need this crap in your life

Not too much at all. Looks varied and nutritious too.

But that’s not the point - even if you were scoffing junk food she has NO right to speak to you like that, especially in your own home?

I'd give her notice. This would piss me off enough.

What does she eat? if she is from anouther culture then she may come from an environment where women are shamed for having a healthy appetite? or she may just have disordered eating, by by verbalising that you are eating too much she is affirming that her own little intake is 'normal'

C.f. Judging person!
I'd be giving her notice she clearly has no respect for you.

You eat very little compared to me! (And I’m a healthy size.)

But also, what the hell has it got to do with her?!

Tell her to shut up and get out. Nasty lodger. She is not the bloody food police!

“I do feel hungry quite often. You look pretty filling though”

waggle knife and fork

problem solved

It none of her business and she was rude. End of.

🤣

It’s really rude of her

Your diet sounds perfectly normal, and pretty healthy and well balanced, actually.

Lodger was being very rude, regardless. If she makes a habit of making this kind of comment then I'd be giving her notice.

The way you’ve written what she said suggests she isn’t British born. Yes it’s rude here, but in some places this would be tough love- helping before it goes too far! Doesn’t make her right though, we all have different metabolisms. Any chance of getting her food diary in writing for us?!

It's non of her business what you eat. She was rude. Get rid of her.

(I eat way more than that and it's not half as healthy if that makes you feel any better!)

Unless you’re eating out of a bucket lid your diet’s fine. But she’s not.

😂

@Orcubed No, you're not eating too much, she's very rude!

@Greyflowers 😂

Wow how rude. Give her notice and get someone decent to live with.

Sounds ok to me. Cheeky cow.

I’m interested to know what the lodger eats if she thinks you eat a lot. But in any case, it’s none of her business and she’s being obnoxious.

How much you eat is irrelevant - she is out of order criticising your eating habits, and I'd be giving her notice to leave. She has WAY overstepped the line.

Cheeky mare. If she's so offended by what you eat there's the option of her leaving and moving in with someone who's diet is more to her liking.. 🌹

No I eat way more than that!

Even in cultures where this comment might be seen as ok - is it a comment people would make to their landlord? Really?