Lodger told me I eat too much. Do I??

[Orcubed]

Obviously you’re not going to be able to tell me for sure without seeing my portions etc but I’m a bit annoyed.

She’s been wfh this week, normally we don’t really see each other. I’ve just been into the kitchen to get a coffee and opened the cupboard to get a snack to go with it (a dark chocolate rice cake if that’s relevant) and she said “you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”

So Monday I had
2 cups of tea
porridge with mixed seeds
a peanut cereal bar &coffee
cheese and cucumber sandwich (granary bread, butter), cranberry juice, satsuma
2 sausages and veg (carrots, broccoli, leeks, swede, sprouts). cherry yoghurt.
Plus water and herbal tea (3 herbal teas, 2 water)

Tuesday
2 cups of tea
2 weetabix
standard size bag of maltesers and coffee
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Bag of salt and vinegar squares. Cranberry juice
shakshuka with extra veg in (courgette, aubergine, kale as well as the peppers, onion and tomatoes), feta and hummus on top, flatbread on the side
water, herbal tea as Monday

Weds and Thurs basically as Tuesday except Wednesday I had toast and marmite with my coffee, no crisps either day. Dinner Wednesday was lentil and fennel stew with rice, had a digestive biscuit afterwards, last night pork casserole with mash, green beans and broccoli.

Putting aside the fact that she was rude, I don’t think I eat that much? Basically 3 meals and one snack. Would you consider this a lot of food?

Please say this to her!
Then give her notice if she's rude to you again.

Your diet is perfectly healthy, and even if it wasn’t she’s still out of order. I’d kick her out tbh

No you not eating too much. Your eating smaller meals and snacks regularly. Your lodger is probably one of these who eat three square meal a day and don't snack between. Sadly that isn't a good dieting tip either. I'm like you I only eat smaller meals and I eat more often. My husband prefers two large meals and coccasionaly has breakfast. I'm the lighter of the tow by far nothing to do with how often as opposed to what you are eating. Rice cakes are literally no different than eating a price of cardboard. Both in texture and the weight you gain, tell your lodger if she has a problem with what you eat then find somewhere else but just because you eat less more often doesn't make you fat.

Your food intake is fine. She has issues around food and what you do is none of her business.

“you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”
If I had a lodger who spoke to me like that I'd bundle her and her stuff into black bags and boot her out
wtf!

Why do you care? Eat what you want when you want. If you are worried about putting on weight, it’s impossible for others to tell whether you eat too much without knowing how active you are and your stats. But it’s awful to comment on
anyones weight whatever they may weigh. Ditch her and disregard anything that anybody else thinks. It is entirely your business.

Your diet sounds healthy, and no I don’t think you eat too much. But that’s irrelevant. Even if you were stuffing yourself with junk food all day, it still wouldn’t be her place to comment. Tell her she can either keep her opinions to herself or lodge somewhere else - it’s just rude.

You could eat your body weight in lard and it’d still be none of her business. I’d not be having that at all, so rude!!!

Its none of their business!!! You are eating a very healthy diet in my opinion. If they don't like it tell em to find somewhere else to live

I'd say it looks more like you don't eat enough @Orcubed .

Unless you're overweight you don't have to worry about it.

And it's inappropropriate a lodger talking to you that way. They must have their own issues with food, or just be a bit obnoxious.

I suppose the dinners are a bit more substantial to make up for the lunches being light. But no, it all looks quite healthy to me. I would probably put on weight eating that but then, I'm very sedentary. And it looks a lot healthier than most people eat.

But the kep point of course is that it wasn't ok for her to say to anyone, esp. her landlady.

What business is it if your lodgers how much you eat. It's your home, you bought your own food with your own money. Unless the lodger is a dietician/nutritionist then tell them to butt out!!!!!

Are you putting on weight, OP? If yes, your lodger is right (but v rude). If not, she is wrong.

Cheeky moo! There is nothing wrong with what you are eating.

I eat similarly to you and I’m on a diet and i still manage to lose weight, Unless you are having mountainous portions, and everything slathered in oil (which doesn’t appear to be the case) then what you are eating is fine.

Lodgers’ new lodgings should be ready on 1st April

Good. So if you tell her ton leave tomorrow she can get a hotel for a few nights (not that it's your problem).

I think your diet sounds very good, I eat way more carbs and bad stuff than that. I also eat no fruit because I don't particularly like it and it is high in sugar, I'd much rather have my 5 a day in veg. My weight stays the same and I take a multi vit each day to top up anything I'm missing. I think if I ate what you ate I'd lose weight 🤔

The moments gone now but if a lodger (a bloody lodger!) made similar remarks to me I'd be addressing their need to make such comments rather than considering the content.....but as you have
I'd say your diet is a healthier than the majority of Brits.
Doesn't seem a lot (worth commenting on) but obviously there are some unhealthy snacks. There's room for improvement (less carbs, more protien?)and I can't see your portion sizes but seems pretty standard.
Could it actually be that what she's saying is more you're in and out of the kitchen a lot. She's probably clocked you emerging everytime you make a drink with a snack (Malteasers) or a meal.
If she was a new overseas student when she first stayed with you she will have grown in confidence. I'm guessing you're helping her out more as a favour. Now (surprise surprise) your older and bigger...and she's more direct. If you suspect it's a cultural thing point out how it sounded. She might even have been saying 'I only eat bread n jam n I'm loads bigger than you ....lucky you'.
Yes it's a bit forward but not worth losing sleep over, and no need to kick her out for a minor social faux pas

How much you eat is none of her business. You are an adult, it's up to you. Tell her that if she doesn't like it, she can live elsewhere and to keep her opinions to herself. She'd make me want to eat more, like huge amounts in a revolting manner (think Bruce Bogtrotter)

It is no business of hers what you eat. Tell her to mind her own business or find somewhere else to live.

Thank god she’s moving out soon!

I think because she’s lived with you before and moved back she feels comfortable enough around you to comment on how much you eat.

The brass neck of her saying this when she’s heavier than you though!

Tell her to piss off

Your diet sounds ideal.

She sounds like she’s from a different culture where commenting on peoples’ weight is normal and socially acceptable. I’m from Cyprus and the first thing people comment on when I go back home is my weight fluctuation. I don’t take offence as I know they don’t mean any harm. I don’t think she meant to be rude if that’s any conciliation but if she lives here she should be mindful of this culture and how such a comment would be perceived so maybe you can say that to her?

Having said that, it’s a fucking annoying comment so I totally get that you’re annoyed.

We get one life of an indeterminate length. As long as you feel healthy, enjoy your food and aren't compromising your health by eating things such as 100g chocolate covered peanuts as I have just done 🤭 then please do carry on and ignore your lodger's comments.
Life's far too short to weigh food, count calories, eke out portions, deny treats and be miserable in order to fit in a 10 instead of a 12 or 14 instead of an 18. Enjoy yourself.

That’s rubbish. I’ve got Italian friends and parents have a holiday home in France.

People definitely do have crisps at home as I’ve seen it and they tell me. It’s more the bigger bags though as another poster says, not smaller bags.

Sounds delicious your diet. I dont think you eat too much. But it sounds to me like a caring but clumsy comment. Without knowing your ages, life stages, cultura background - as you mention - portion sizes, I’d say you’re not. But I think her rudeness is accidental and she was protecting the future you, which is sweet.