What's the most wildly inappropriate thing to ever happen to you?

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I'll start...
When I was 19 I was working as a waitress in a holiday hotel.
I was having a wild, incredibly exciting relationship with the hotel manager, who was a good 15 years older than me.
Guests would fill out feedback forms on the hotel.
One day my boss (Restaurant manager) called me into his office. He showed me a feedback form that stated the guests weren't able to get a proper nights sleep, due to incredibly load love making all night long from the room above them.
The restaurant manager then pointed out that the room in question was the hotel managers room (his boss)
I can't remember what I responded, but when I think about it now, what the hell was he thinking of?!? And why question me about it and not the hotel manager?
I had the arrogance of youth so of course carried on exactly as before 😂
So what's yours?

Two instances spring to mind.
1.Had a major crush on my best friends older brother at 15,he was older married with a child.All at a party at his one night and my friend told him i liked him,long story short,i ended up losing my virginity that night while his wife and sister were sleeping upstairs.Woke up the next morning with a lot of regrets.
2.on a night out with friends,ended the night at an indian restaurant and ended up getting my breast groped in full view of my friends,iburst into tears,friends went nuts,waiter disappeared,pice were called.

So this only happened like 8 months ago...a guy I was working with on a project at work (15 years or so older than me) waited until everyone was out of the office one afternoon and there was just me and him... before declaring his love for me! I was mortified...given I am married and 6 months pregnant at the time and he was aware of both of these facts but still told me as if something was going to happen! I reported him to my manager as I had done nothing to encourage him or even suggest I was interested, it made me feel really sick and...turns out he is a serial letch and has behaved this way to a few women in the office, he gets infatuated with people! What is worse is people described him as 'creepy but harmless'....like seriously.

Nowhere near as bad as any of these but when I was heavily pregnant (8 months or so!) with DC2 and was walking into town after work a man came up and stopped me. He basically said he thought I was absolutely beautiful and he had this feeling we were meant to be together and could he have my number. I lost the ability to speak coherently and bumbled something about recently getting married and also being pregnant. He looked down, noticed my huge bump and no lie ran away. Just ran into the distance. Weirdest thing ever although I took the compliment 💁🏼‍♀️

Went to boarding school age 13. One of the house masters on the boys side would always sit at a table near a girls table at meal times. He always chose a banana for pudding, would put it in his mouth and just hold it there and look over at us with a raised eyebrow. Absolute filth. He was 40+ and was pervy in lots of other ways too....

Not long after turning 16 went to a family gathering. Some distant male relative who must have been in his 50s asked how old I was these days. When I told him he winked and said "time to get you up stairs". WTAF!! This was in front of my parents! I just wanted the ground to open up. Parents just looked horrified but said nothing.

There are lots of others but these two stick with me because I was so young.

When MeToo came out I remember thinking, yeah, me and every fucking woman and girl on the planet too.....

I worked as a waitress in a pub serving meals when I was 17. The kitchen was galley-style and very narrow. The owner (dirty bastard that he was) used to stand facing inwards with his hips pushed forward so you had to rub past him...

Much later, when working, (I'm a teacher), I needed an errand running, so I went to the male teacher next door and asked him if he had 'a body', as in person, I could borrow. With that, he shimmied his jacket off his shoulders and pushed his hips forward and said 'you can have mine' - this was all in front of a full class of students. By then, I was more 'on it' than I was as a naive teenager, so dealt with it myself. I told him that if he ever did anything like that ever again, I would report him for sexual harassment. It was the one and only time in my life that I've seen someone literally go green. I wondered how often he'd been inappropriate with women before. He never was again with me.

This isn't as awful as some of the other stories on here but I still think about this...
Once I was on a VERY long train journey from one end of the country to another (on the way to visit my Dad who was divorced from my mum). I was about 16, very awkward and shy, extremely self conscious. I was in a four seater table seat sitting next to the window, and my friend who was coming up to keep me company was sitting opposite me in the other window seat.
There was a man sitting next to me who must have been in his 30s/40s. He had tried to make conversation and had been very smarmy, sort of smiling in a patronising way and talking down to us.
At some point, I asked him to please move so I could get up to go to the loo. He smiled and said 'no, I'm not moving you'll have to climb over me'
And so I did 😞 twice. Horrible pervert. I hadn't even realised, I thought I was bothering him by asking him to get up so I didn't even question it.

God that's horrible.
It's made me remember the bar manager at a different place of work, who would always move past us barmaids, rubbing himself against us as he did.
He was in his 50s, we were 18-20.
We used to laugh about it! 😳

Why are some men such disgusting lecherous bastards?

When I was 16 on holiday with my Mum!! On the beach and I'd swam in the sea top less, my mum is very laid back, the tide had taken me quite far down the beach and I'd got out to walk back. Two guys from Israel stopped me and asked for my picture, I said yes. No idea why I said yes. So basically two isralean guys have my top less picture. Would quite like to see it to remember my pert 16 year old boobs. Very strange. Didn't tell my Mum. Odd. Also I should have said no. Don't think I was very assertive aged 16.

You all realise these are going into saddo’s wank banks don’t you?

Exactly 🙄
For God's sake, stop feeding it.

Reported

Reported? Reported for what?

Are you inferring I'm the saddo?

I'd done a half a day's work on the outskirts of a nearby town and was waiting for DH to pick me up from the bus stop. I was alone, country lane bus stop, mid afternoon, dressed in a padded anorak, sensible mum jeans and mum boots, wearing my glasses, when a white van with two men pulled up and propositioned me. Just then DH arrived with our toddler sons and the van drove off. DH told me there was a nearby dogging carpark. Nice.

So what if some saddo wanks over these stories? I know some of the stories are just light hearted but others show how despicable some men can be. Why not get these stories out there as much as we can? Might just help others to think twice about certain situations?

I have several stories along these lines, but what strikes me about this thread is that OP didn’t ask “what wildly inappropriate thing has a man done to you?”. And yet all the stories involve creepy men.

I'm so sorry 😧
We aren't safe no matter what we wear, how we look, where we are, from predatory men.
It makes me fearful for my dd tbh.

I know!
That what strikes me too.
Reading all the different stories, all of which are horrific in different ways, really highlights how vulnerable we are as women...and how predatory men are, particularly to young women, when they are so much older.
It's actually made me remember many more instances of older men harassing me when I was younger, and how vulnerable I felt. And how now I'm older, I would totally call them out on it.

Nearly 4yrs ago I offered to help an old guy cross over the road. He was in his 80s, me late 40s, he was clearly struggling. I'd only recently moved to the area and was eager to engage with my new community. Helped him over with his walking aid, he said his flat entrance was just a few yards further and could I help see him in.

Saw him to his door, next thing I knew his tongue was at the back of my throat and his walking aid was now my arse!

I pushed him away, my instinct was to shove and slap but was conscious of his age. Had him arrested and convicted for sexual assault. Apparently he had a reputation for groping women's backsides for years but no one would complain because he was a 'poor old man'. I soon sorted that!

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My ex husband loved porn and persuaded me to pose in some provocative (nude) (explicit) poses. He wasn't in them so just centrefold stuff. I didn't mind lots of people do it, but this was when he had a fancy camera that had film. I thought he would develop the pics himself, but he sent them off via boots chemist for processing, so everyone in that shop in the local town, could have seen me.

Tbh I started the thread as light hearted, but it has gone in a different direction than I anticipated.
But I agree, anything that helps women feel more able to cope should a situation arise is helpful x

Another day, another thing that reinforces my belief that men are disgusting pigs! also fearful for my dd, remembering my own stories like this

This thread should be renamed "creepy bastards I've encountered". What's that quote? The more I see of men the more I love my dog.

I was about 19 or 20. Went to the pub (Yates wine bar) for a Xmas ‘do’ with my bf’s work. He was a postman so the ‘do’ was from about 2 or 3pm, when they’d all finished their rounds.
I got absolutely wasted and had sex with him on someone’s front doorstep on the way home.
I only realised it was a doorstep when we’d finished and we scarpered! Also, as it was December it was around 6pm. I had thought it was really late as it was completely dark. Plus, who gets that hammered, that early??