What's the most wildly inappropriate thing to ever happen to you?

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I'll start...
When I was 19 I was working as a waitress in a holiday hotel.
I was having a wild, incredibly exciting relationship with the hotel manager, who was a good 15 years older than me.
Guests would fill out feedback forms on the hotel.
One day my boss (Restaurant manager) called me into his office. He showed me a feedback form that stated the guests weren't able to get a proper nights sleep, due to incredibly load love making all night long from the room above them.
The restaurant manager then pointed out that the room in question was the hotel managers room (his boss)
I can't remember what I responded, but when I think about it now, what the hell was he thinking of?!? And why question me about it and not the hotel manager?
I had the arrogance of youth so of course carried on exactly as before 😂
So what's yours?

I was 21 and had a long term boyfriend of 4 years. We spent a lot of time with his sister and BIL at their house. One Saturday night we'd went round theirs to play cards and have a drink. The BIL had been drinking all day so was already drunk. My boyfriend and his sister went to the kitchen to get drinks, leaving me and the BIL in the dining room. I can't remember how the conversation came about but I remember the BIL telling me "I bet you have lovely fanny". I told him off and he just kept going, saying "I've thought about it a lot because I'm a man and we do that. But I really do think your fanny would be lovely, I bet it's just perfect and shaved and I often think about what it would be like to put my face in it". The entire time I was telling him off and telling him to shush because I didn't want my boyfriend and his sister to hear. I thought they'd think I'd encouraged him (i totally hadnt) and i really liked the sister, so didn't want her to hear her husband saying things like that. To be fair to him, he did remember saying it when he was sober and he came round to my house the next day to apologise profusely. He was never inappropriate again. I still think about it 15 years later and cringe though.

Sadly, too many.
But one that really lingers in the memory is when I was 13 I went to hang at a friends house and her neighbour was there who was 18/19. My friends mum spent the whole day dropping hints that me & the neighbour should get together and ended up locking us in the annexe for a couple of hours whilst he tried it on with me. It is so vile even thinking about it now. What mom does that to someone else’s kid?! I was just there to hang with my friend! So messed up.

1995 Glastonbury age 15, I went on my own with a friend pretending we at each others houses. It was so big I lost my friend and tent. A man followed me around trying to get me to go back to his tent he must have been in his 30s and I was very obviously 15. He followed me for two hours until I threw my wellie at him. I was a ballsy kid back then.

A consultant gynaecologist at Rotherham hospital asked me to strip naked for a post miscarriage examination, I refused, after the examination I felt a bit queasy, he said had he turned me on that much!!

I said to my GP, I wasn't bothered about seeing that gynaecologist again, to which he replied, oh are you another one, which sort of told me he'd got form for this sort of behaviour.

He long dead now.

Totally agree. Let's not hide this information. Am seriously shocked at some of these stories 😱

The driving instructor ones are why I, as a female driving instructor, am sought after by so many 17 year old girls. I’m told even these days there are still some male instructors who behave inappropriately.

That's heartbreaking, disgusting and truly horrific.
You literally couldn't have been more vulnerable at that moment.
It has made me remember when I had a termination whilst very young - the doctor (female) gave me an examination before my termination and started feeling my breasts. Through the fog of distress I was feeling, I remember turning my head and looking her straight in the eyes. She stopped what she was doing, but I didn't complain!
I look back now and I'm incredulous, but it honestly never even crossed my mind.

@FieldMapleMabel

"This thread should be renamed "creepy bastards I've encountered". What's that quote? The more I see of men the more I love my dog."

Unfortunately this is is the reality for most women. And when you put "inappropriate" in a sentence, it will almost always be about a man in some form or another

came here thinking this thread would be a bit light hearted, but OMFG holy hell so so many of these stories are so awful. I cannot believe the level of vulnerability and danger in so many of these scenarios. I know many are from other times but STILL. The treatment of women/girls by men in these stories is the stuff of Netflix true crime documentaries. I cannot believe these were 70s/80s/90s! Be careful all of you it just goes to show that really we are still living under such oppression and inequality. X

This is alot more than 'widely inappropriate'.. a 35 yr old man sleeping with a 16 year girl.. it's verging on paedophile material! I find it weird that you describe it as 'widely inappropriate'.

Went Christmas clubbing with 5th/6th firm and some teachers
Very drunk and 2 teachers took turns bending me over a table on my back, snogging and fingering me. I was 15

Head of year asked me the following week if I was having an affair with one of them as he'd heard something. I just said no

I have stupidly got in cars with strangers on holiday & gone back to random peoples houses in my 20's - plus other things now popping into my head
I can't believe how stupid I was 25-35 years ago

There are. I was older, in my mid 20s when I learned to drive. This was just a few years ago. My instructor would constantly try to invite me to things outside of my lessons and regularly asked me if my DH was home or if I needed company. I claimed he was home when he wasn't. If I hadn't been close to passing my test when this intensified to the point I picked up on it I would have quit right then.

@jackstini omg omg omg. That’s unbelievable. You could probably go to the police if you felt inclined. Sorry that happened to you x

Just after my 16th birthday (I looked about 13), I went for an interview at Russell Bromley shoe shop for a Saturday job.

I had to sit in the store room waiting for the manager.
2 members of staff (young men) kept walking into this store room having a conversation about if chickens had vaginas, would a vibrator fit etc.... it lasted about 30mins.

They were watching me. I was trying to not blush but be composed..
The manager was even sleazier than they were. Lots of "over time after hours trying on high heels babe" blurgh.

I was offered the job. Didn't take it.

‘Very drunk and 2 teachers took turns bending me over a table on my back, snogging and fingering me. I was 15’

Just so very wrong in so many ways.
I am sick to hear of this.

I went to a nightclub ( strictly over 21 apparently) got very drunk, got chatting to a group of guys, went back to one their houses and I did the deed with one of them.

i went for a drink of water afterwards and my friend who I was with sobered up quickly when she realised the lad I was with was in her little sisters class at school (14/15 yr olds) and it was his parents house but they were away for the night and got fake ID to get in the club, we legged it as quick as we could! I’m still reeling about that all these years later! I didn’t know him and as we were drunk and in a club neither did my friend until it was too late

That's terrible I'm so so so sorry 😞

And Greyarea12 if you read the thread properly you'll see I anticipated it would be a light hearted thread when I started it.
I was a victim of child sex abuse myself, so I can assure you I am not in any way looking to lessen the impact these experiences have had on the women involved.

I worked on the reception of a car dealership/garage when I was still at schools Worked weekends, one night a week and then full time in school holidays.

I’d never had a birthday party so encouraged by some lovely work friends I had a big party planned for my next one. The invitation was up on the noticeboard in the canteen.

Came in one day of the holidays and got called into a meeting with the big big boss. They’d phoned in the morning, but after I left for the bus so my Nana (who I lived with) was there already. Big boss, Nana, my boss, a woman from a scheme and two police officers.

The garage was part of a scheme whereby people nearing the very end of their sentence had a day release type thing. Gave them a reference and the likes. They came in weekly for a few months. The woman in charge of the current guy had come in for something and spotted my invitation. Turned out they weren’t aware of any female staff under 18.

I got questions in that meeting, and later with the two police officers (both female) about the guy - had he asked me lots of questions, had he ever asked where I lived, or appeared on my walk to/from the bus station.

Never found out what he did, but my bosses organised for one of the mechanics to take me too and from work for three months after, and I never walked to the bus station on a dark evening for the two years I worked there. They also withdrew from the scheme.

What sort-pf amused me after was how everyone started saying the guy was creepy and they’d never liked him. For me the creepy bit was that he wasn’t. Remotely. He was a nice seemingly-normal guy that rang no bells for anyone (I don’t believe the post-revelation announcements - people in that place were quick to say if they didn’t like someone).

I grew up on quite a rough street and when I was 15/16 my friend and I were stopped by some guy who lived a bit further down and asked if we'd like to come to his and sit on his bed and watch DVD's. We'd never seen him before!
Well, being young and stupid we said yes. When we got to his room it was COVERED in leopard print. Carpets, curtains, EVERYTHING. In hindsight I actually think it looked like a brothel!
We were laughing at the ridiculous decor whilst he put the tv on and went to grab a DVD from a cupboard. Just as he opened the cupboard door, someone knocked the door so he left the room to answer the front door. I looked in the cupboard and it was full of porn DVDs!
We ran out the room giggling and pushed past him and out the front door.
A couple of weeks later he was arrested for being a paedophile. God knows what would have happened if we hadn't have escaped!

Some of these are hurrendous!

I was doing a placement at an old peoples home and a couple owed it. The male owner, who must have been late 50s, used to come and sit with me when I was chatting to the old people, and asked me if I had a boyfriend. When I said no he said he'd have me 10 times a night if I were his and loads of other lewd comments including something about when my breasts properly develop I'd be gorgeous . This was all in front of the old people who were watching TV! I was barely 14.
This talk continued until my last day, when he followed me out, gave me a hug and stuck his tongue down my throat. He had grabbed me hard and I couldn't turn my head away from him for a good few seconds. What was worse was his son walked by and just laughed 😳
As soon as I could I ran home and told my mum. Never set foot in there again.

I've been grabbed, groped, gripped and harassed more times than I care to remember. I had a very dysfunctional upbringing which made me perfect prey for years.

Some of these are so revolting, I feel physically sick.

One or two make me want to cry.

I wasn't expecting a lighthearted thread, but even so, I'm shocked and appalled at these assaults.

I do agree this thread should remain though. Silence has been our enemy for centuries and this behaviour needs to be exposed.

I think the most inappropriate thing that has happened to me, is I've caught 2 of my uncles ( one man on my dad's side, and one man on my mums side) staring at my tits. I was talking to them and they just looked down and stared at my boobs. I'm looking at their eyes and their eyes were looking at my chest while I'm talking. Really creeped me out.

As a teen, I was hanging around at a friend's house when their Dad came in from work and said 'Oh my hands are cold, girls, come and sit on them to warm them up!'

Well I mean there are things like a taxi driver that assumed for some reason that he could grope me with no sign that I was interested etc etc.

Other than stuff like that, I'm getting older now so I don't tend to get must hastle. But when it started getting dark in the autumn, there's a stretch of path back from my new gym that for a few minutes is really quite dark. For some reason, random blokes think passing me in this very dark area is the perfect time to ask for my number etc when I never get it anywhere else really. Like if I'm walking a few minutes down a dark bit I must be up for it with anyone. Ewwwww.

I'll have to walk the long way round next time I'm there.