What's the most wildly inappropriate thing to ever happen to you?

[badassbaby]

I'll start...
When I was 19 I was working as a waitress in a holiday hotel.
I was having a wild, incredibly exciting relationship with the hotel manager, who was a good 15 years older than me.
Guests would fill out feedback forms on the hotel.
One day my boss (Restaurant manager) called me into his office. He showed me a feedback form that stated the guests weren't able to get a proper nights sleep, due to incredibly load love making all night long from the room above them.
The restaurant manager then pointed out that the room in question was the hotel managers room (his boss)
I can't remember what I responded, but when I think about it now, what the hell was he thinking of?!? And why question me about it and not the hotel manager?
I had the arrogance of youth so of course carried on exactly as before 😂
So what's yours?

Name changed because im still so ashamed 😔i was seduced by my much older boss,i was 15 nearly 16 and he was 40.i was from a poor home,no male role model.i was a child i know that now, i had all my first sexual experiences with him,all his wild fantasies anywhere anytime he wanted while i was working.im so so embarrassed, ashamed of stuff i let him do to me with me.30 years later and i still feel sick thinking about it,about him. i stupidly thought i was grown up having this exciting relationship.He groomed me,i know that now. I feel angry at myself and have never spoke to anyone about it.i feel sorry for that poor girl i was😭sorry for all of you too.

So many upsetting stories on here (was expecting a funny and lighthearted thread). So many stories resonate with me.

Worst one: I remember it was 2002, I missed the school bus one morning, mum didn’t drive and dad was at work. I knew I’d be in trouble, so I hid all day and used my phone to call the school pretending to be my mum saying I was ill. My best friend’s dad saw me hiding in an apple orchard. Basically he said to me if I let him have a grope, he wouldn’t tell anyone my secret (of missing school). Said how school uniforms turn him on (cheers Britney Spears). I just completely blanked him. When I got home, he’d called my parents and the school to report me. Parents were actually really cool especially after I told them about what he did but they did state they were disappointed. Next day at school, I had to go to the deputy head’s office. He was new, young (maybe early 30’s?) and lots of people, including me, had a crush on him. He started off being nice, saying how I was always ‘such a good girl’, great grades etc. Then he said how disappointed he was and that I should give him a reason not to suspend or expel me. I’d never been in trouble for anything and the thought of disappointing my parents again filled me with dread. He saw that I looked sad so hugged me and said maybe if we had a little kiss and cuddle he would know I am sorry. That was the beginning of an ‘affair’. I lost my virginity to him. I had just turned 16. Nobody ever knew other than a few of my close friends who voiced their jealousy and asked for details etc, which made me feel that the situation wasn’t wrong.

Also had the cliche of an older boss in his 50’s when I was late teen/early 20’s say inappropriate sexual things frequently. In an office full of people. The women in my office who were in their 40’s would tell me he’s ‘naughty’ to say stuff like that to me, but nothing changed. Some of the women even said they wish he spoke to them like that?? Sad to hear things like this still happen.

After I had my 3rd child, (admittedly very sexy) Dr came into my cubical to check stitches as he had done with the other ladies in the room. He pulled my sheets down and I said “yeah no mate, I didn’t even have any” and he actually grinned and said these very words “damn, I knew that, just wanted to have a feel”. No words. When I was walking out of the hospital with the baby and my husband, he was at the midwife station with all the midwives swooning over him (this was 2010 by the way), and they were all saying bye etc to us and I gave them chocolates. He piped up “if you want baby number 4, I can help you with that” and winked. Instead of being shocked or repulsed, the midwives all giggled and said things like “oh my goodness you two would have beautiful babies” and “aww get her number we should make this happen”… WTF. My husband and I made the swiftest exit ever. But made me think how these “good looking” and powerful men are often egged on and supported by women which allows them to continue their sexual predatory behaviour. Like catcalling and wolf whistling: while the majority of us hate it, these little older ladies keep saying ‘oh I’d love it’ and how difficult it is to be invisible and old. I’d be invisible any day over having creeps look at me.

let it. I think its worth it to share stories and help build womens confidence. I'm still young but reading the accounts on here makes me feel like I have a hundred lifetimes worth of knowledge to deal with this behaviour when it eventually comes up again.

men will fucking want over anything. haven't you seen the pages and pages of 'suggestive fruit'
where men post photos of vagina- like fruits

This is all horrible, I'm sorry this happened to you.

Re: the doctor, in 2011 I was having a check up after my daughter was born. Complained of a pain in my hip and doctor asked if I wanted him to examine it. I nodded and stood up and said "do you want me to take my clothes off?" Indicating to the fiddly skirt I was wearing which I thought might make the examination difficult. To which he replied "it usually takes a few glasses of Chardonnay before a girl asks me that!" I was gobsmacked and just sort of laughed nervously (I should have smacked him!)

I also had a doctor say "they're the biggest ones I've ever seen, but nice-big, not saggy-big!" About my 34N breasts during an examination in the fucking breast clinic. I had a lump and had been referred and was facing fucking biopsies and what have you and this perv is getting his jollies. Again, I said nothing. Me now would complain but I was younger and timider. Pervert should have been struck off. Grim.

Tbh I started the thread as light hearted, but it has gone in a different direction than I anticipated.
But I agree, anything that helps women feel more able to cope should a situation arise is helpful x

yes I thought it might be light hearted/ unusual events and it’s sad to hear all the things women have gone through, I’m no different can’t believe the things I put up with through being embarrassed, it was a different time in the 80’s no one talked about it:(

These are awful, I mean Wtaf is wrong with ALL these men

I dated a 26 year old lecturer when I was 16, we broke up when he wanted sex and I said no. He waited about six weeks before trying to go the whole way.

When I was 18 my 40 year old boss declared love, I turned him down. Creepy old git, the worst part was my Mother thought it would be a good idea as he had a decent salary and house!

This one is a bit grim.

I had a boyfriend when I was 16, who was 18 and lived with his parents. He had a younger sister of my age. Usually I slept in his room (separate beds cough) but one night his sister was away so his mum asked me to sleep in her room.

I was just dozing off in the box room when bf’s dad appeared in the doorway. I was immediately wide awake, wondering why a topless middle aged man was looming over me. Suddenly bf’s mum ran out into the hallway saying in a panicked voice “David, David, that’s CoilBeGone, not Louise!!”.

I was 16 and stoned but remember thinking WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK IF IT HAD BEEN LOUISE?!?! It was really disturbing.

I worked in a newsagents as a teen and had a man come in and ask if we sold magazines with 14 year old girls in.
I was stopped once by a man in a car in November and asked if I knew where there were any open air swimming pools what in November odd.

I was around 25, this is about 20 years ago, was working as an office manager in at a large respectable bank's head office and PA to a few of the managers.
One morning a middle manager based in another country but in the UK for a month or so comes up to my desk all stressed and plonks a tesco bag on my desk. He was late 30s, married, baby on the way. I wasn't even supposed to be 'looking after' him but I was new and sweet and can-do.
"Van, you have to help me, this is very urgent. Karen Smith, the manager in X-Town and I had a meeting yesterday and she forgot some things, make sure these are couriered to her in X-Town immediately."
Then he buggered off.
Tesco bag wasn't tied up or anything and I peeked inside, to work out if it needed to be put inside a padded envelope or jiffy bag or whatever.
Inside was a filofax, a half empty perfume bottle and a pair of crumpled up dirty knickers.

I’m so very sorry that happened to you & the authorities didn’t take it seriously. I hope you are happy with your son , it must have been tremendously hard having a baby at fourteen years old .

These stories are so upsetting. Especially the ones when the person was only 15/16 and abused by those in authority.

I don't have a story anywhere near that bad but something kind of inappropriate that happened was when I was 20 at a holiday resort. I saw a shopkeeper who I had met earlier in the week in a nightclub. He wanted to hug me and I was so polite and amiable I let him then all of a sudden he squeezed me tight and groped me all over, before passing me on to the man next to him who did the same, and passed me on to at least another two who also groped me. I just walked away shocked but now look back angrily at being treated like a ragdoll!

One of the men followed us back to my hotel room with his friend and while my friend and his friend were outside talked about how nice my 'fanny' was even though it had a bit of hair and that he wud love to do stuff to it. I was mortified and a virgin who was religious. He kept trying it on despite me saying no but in the end I just laid there while he penetrated me. I am still so angry at myself for letting it happen and so ashamed, especially as I wasn't a child or teenager I was a 20 year old woman ffs! I just hope I can teach my daughter to be more assertive.

Have you considered reporting this awful woman? Sorry this happened to you & your mother . Seriously stuff of nightmares .

These threads are always horrendous and I’m so sorry for what everyone’s been through on here. It just goes to show that most women have suffered at the hands of men yet there have been minimal or no consequences for them.

I was around 13/14 and I had gone Iceland for my auntie which was about 10mins away. On the way back this strange man came up to me and asked me if I wanted to come to his house. He said he had tea and biscuits then all of a sudden he pushed me against the wall and started kissing my neck and groping me. He took my hand and made me rub his disgusting penis but I just froze. I couldn’t say anything or do anything but eventually I managed to run away. I didn’t tell anyone because I thought I’d get in trouble.

In 2019 (I would have been 20), I had finished work and got off of the tube and was standing on the escalators. A man walked on the left hand side, brushed past me and grabbed my bum. I shouted ‘wtf are you doing you dickhead.’ Left the tube station but couldn’t see him anywhere, it’s like he completely disappeared. I started to walk to the bus stop when I saw him crouched down hiding behind a bin. As I walked he started to follow me all the way to the bus stop. I panicked because I didn’t want to get on the bus and take him to where I lived (three stops away) but I also didn’t know where to go. I looked around and seemed like he’d disappeared again as I couldn’t see him anywhere. A bus came and as soon as I went to step on, I saw him come out of nowhere and get on the bus. I managed to get off through the front doors and called my mum crying saying a man was following me. My mum told me to go to Sainsbury’s which was opposite the tube station and wait with the security guard until she comes and picks me up. As I walked there, the guy suddenly appeared and walked towards me, I started screaming ‘LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE WHAT DO YOU WANT’ whilst crying hysterically. This was at a busy zone 1 bus/tube/train station during rush hour and not one person helped. Not one. They all stared and did nothing. As I walked to Sainsbury’s the man was somehow still behind me, I was so hysterical that I collapsed on the floor but someone caught me. It was my ex friend’s mum who saw me and saved me! She took me to her house where my mum came and picked me up. My friend and I had fallen out two years prior over something really silly. Till this day I can’t believe her mum was the person who helped me and intervened. My friend and I are still really close and both have toddlers that are the same age.

My mum and I reported the man to the British Transport Police but of course nothing could be done. They couldn’t find him and didn’t know who he was. I was really shaken up and didn’t leave the house for a week. I was signed off work for two weeks. I don’t stand on the escalators the way you should do anymore. I have my back against the side where you’d usually put your hand to hold on as I don’t want anyone to touch me again.
Sorry for the long post but it was really good to share that with people, albeit anonymously!

So sorry to everyone who has gone through these horrible experiences of assault. It seems like predators are everywhere 😞 and this was unfortunately my experience as a child/teen too.
I remember being on a Duke of Edinburgh expedition when I was 16 and throwing a ball around with some friends on the campsite in the evening. A random middle aged man came up near us with his penis out and started masturbating in front of me, we ran away but were terrified all night that he’d break into our tent and get us.
When I was 17/18 at work as a waitress we had a creepy chef who was around 50 who would gripe us and make sexual innuendos towards us. The managers did nothing, even after the time he smacked my bum and I complained to them about him.
My friends and my sisters have had similar experiences too. I fear for my DDs.

At school, I went out with a student teacher who was doing his training there. The headteacher found out but the guy just got a bollocking but the matter was not taken further. This was in the 1980s.

I had sex with a priest and had a romantic but non sexual affair with another priest.

I had a fling with my own cousin. I am still horrified at myself,

I was touched inappropriately by a family "friend" numerous times when I was 17. Eventually I plucked up the courage to say I was going to tell my dad what he was doing. This would have destroyed my dad and I know he wouldn't have been able to hold back from doing something to him.
He knew that so said you do know he'll end up in prison and it will be your fault. I loved my dad so much I couldn't bear the thought of him going to prison so I kept putting up with it. I know that sounds childish of me and I feel stupid now but I really thought that's what would happen.
It stopped when I met my now husband of 30 years. I wish I had told my dad. I moved away from the area when I married. A year ago my sister in law who lives miles away from where I grew up said she had met someone that used to know me (he said he knew someone with the same unusual surname and were we related) but I didn't recognise the name so they sent a picture. It was him. I went into a deep depression even though it was 30 years ago. The reason I didn't recognise the name was because he had changed it. I have since found out he left the area and changed his name because someone else he had abused many years ago had decided to tell anyone that would listen what he was.
My SIL said what a nice person he was and I wanted to be sick but I couldn't bring myself to tell her what he'd done to me. The audacity of talking to her like nothing had happened and asking after me is unbelievable. Obviously no remorse.
This is the only time I've spoken about this other than with my husband and I have found it quite helpful.
Sorry to all of you for what you've been through ❤

Once borrowed a full niqab from a Muslim girlfriend to be able to follow cheating partner around the area of town he lived in and spy on him.
actually borrowed two so my best mate was with me. I kept fretting that her walk was “distinctive” and would give the game away 🤣

I've just remembered another one.

When I was growing up we had family friends who'd known my parents since their schooldays. They didn't have any kids of their own and every Christmas we used to visit them, we loved going as their house was always decked out and they had loads of chocolates and sweets.

One year we were all on our way out the door saying our goodbyes and I went to kiss him on the cheek (I'd have been 13/14) and he went in for a proper kiss, stuck his tongue in my mouth. I know I pushed him off and everyone laughed which is the weirdest thing about it, like there was nothing creepy and it was just a bit of fun 🤮

I don't know if I will hit send, but I'm going to try

Me and my 13 year old friend at a bus stop, 2 men asked if they could give us £20 to go to their flat. We didn't! Thank goodness!

Art teacher locked the classroom door after asking me and my 2 friends to stay behind, aged 13 still. We thought we were in trouble. He asked us to make up a dance for him :( we did

14 year old me, invited up to my Sisters boyfriends house, Sister is 25, bf is 28 (this is my 14th Birthday) to have a vodka. Mum said yes, only 1. Ended up waking up in bed with her boyfriends 28 year old friend. Couldn't remember a thing and had a love bite on my neck, which they all laughed about when we got up. He then told me he would come and pick me up from School on Tuesday. Ended up telling my Mum but it got brushed under the carpet to keep the peace. I relive that night over and over sometimes.

17 year old me, home from a night out with bf. He tried it on and I was too tired. He kept on at me so I pretended to fall asleep and he had sex with me whilst I "slept". He cried the next morning when I told him I was awake during the whole thing. I didn't move. I didn't speak. Nothing, just let it happen.

18 years old, worked for a large car dealership, salesman 1 took me home and grabbed my hand and put it on his hard on whilst driving. Asked if I liked it. I froze and laughed, terrified. He dropped me home and it was never spoke about again.
Salesman 2 waited until the place was almost empty, came up to my desk and started rubbing himself and asking if I wanted some. Again, I froze, nervously laughed and made my excuses to leave.

I could honestly go on but I've started crying and that guilt that all of this is my fault has surfaced. I don't talk about any of it so it has been nice to write down somewhere with similar stories. Sorry to you all ❤️

I was going to a party in the early evening, travelling alone by bus. The house where the party was being held was quite far from the city centre, almost rural. As I stood up to get off, a male passenger who'd been staring at me suddenly jumped up from his seat and moved to the door of the bus. I got off and so did he. There was no one else around. Feeling slightly nervous, I began walking towards my friend's house. I was in kitten heels and a party dress and I can still hear the sound of those heels on the pavement. I heard the footsteps of the other passenger behind me and I quickened my pace. So did he. I could almost feel him behind me, closer and closer. I began to run. Suddenly hands grabbed my shoulders and I screamed. With a burst of strength, I twisted myself away from him and darted into the road. A loan car was approaching from the opposite direction and I ran towards it, waving my arms and screaming. It stopped, thank god, and the driver got out. He started to run after the man who fled into the trees. I don't remember exactly what happened next, except that I did end up at the party.

@ELL2478

That isn’t kind of inappropriate, it’s assault by a gang of men. I’m very sorry it happened to you.

I’ve just started a new job; worked in three main roles since uni and had some form of sexual harassment in each of them; some incidents worse than others but all creepy entitled men. Let’s hope job number 4 is safe!

These stories make me so sad and angry to read

I was just thinking the same thing. I’d be reporting any teachers now even if it happened 20+ years ago.

@Smallonesaremorejuicy

Do report this women. She’ll still be doing it and your report might make all the difference to stopping her