Quite cross

[GrannyGoggles]

I would like to buy something quite extravagant which I don’t need. I can afford it. Our adult children will enjoy it too. We have room to store it.

I have asked my husband to look at choosing the specification, as a) he’s competent at such things and b) historically if I’ve made such a purchase without consulting it’s resulted in a massive sulk.

His verdict is that we don’t need it, it’s expensive and extravagant.

Unlike the ride on lawnmower that’s awaiting delivery? His most recent 4 wheel drive? The machine that’s on order for ‘our’ (his) business that IMO is entirely unnecessary?

I’m quite cross

Quite cross sounds like 1950s Enid Blyton.

I would let him sulk

Just buy the one you want and let him sulk.

@daimbarsatemydogsbone

Quite cross sounds like 1950s Enid Blyton.

I thought the same, I only clicked on the thread because the title made me smile

And a 1950s husband to go with it

If you split up it will cost him a lot more. We could probably help.

Is it a huge inflatable tent?

Why are you cross? Just buy what you want and ditch the pathetic man.

What is it???

I would just tell him that I was going to buy it anyway, I think.

But you already knew you didn’t need it and it is expensive per your op. That was never at issue. Since he hasn’t added any valid problems with the order I’d say, crack on!

I am very heartened to see a mumsnetter describe themselves as "quite cross" rather than "absolutely raging".

I am slightly dismayed if you let your husband dismiss this purchase just because he is not Interested. If you are not completely confident of getting the spec. right yourself then can you consult with your adult children.

And BTW have you pointed out the comparison between your intended extravagance and his?

You already knew you didn't need it though.

Do you need his permission?

YANBU to be annoyed with him, but YABU to be ‘quite cross’ about it, like you now can’t go ahead. Just order it if you can afford it.

Just buy it. You can afford it so you shouldn’t need permission.

Quite cross? I would be incandescent with rage 🤣

Just buy it, in fact, buy two.

Hmmm, if I were in your shoes at the moment, I think I'd be thinking a new patio might be nice...

He sounds awful. Previous purchases have resulted in him sulking? What adult does that? And he tries to tell you you can’t spend money. Controlling twat.

Oh sod what he thinks and just buy it. What a dick

What is it? It won't be any more outing to tell us than the info you included already and I'm a nosy bugger

Bloody hell, woman up and buy whatever it is.

Yes, it's a nice thing to discuss large purchases with a partner, but as he doesn't appear to extend that courtesy to you, fuck him, go spend some money.

If the man child sulks, leave him too it. Don't give him the airspace.

Did he ask permission to buy the lawnmower? If not, why do you need permission to buy this item.

I really want to know what it is now!

Yanbu
I would also be quite cross.

Do the research and purchase yourself.
Make sure you get a good one.

Is it a Peleton bike? Or a Velvetiser? Or a hot tub?

Is it expensive like £100 for a tea towel or expensive like £1,000,000 for an indoor swimming pool?

What is it?
Loads of people on here would be able to advise you.

Then get one.

Well, is it a dog? A peloton? A VR system? A robot vacuum?
We neeeed to know!