DH refusing to buy me what I ACTUALLY want - AIBU to find this frustrating?

[Greysealemperorpenguin]

A fairly everyday but not-cheap item of mine broke and this is a pain and inconveniences me all the time.

I’ve asked DH for a replacement for Christmas and he keeps deflecting, saying he’ll mend it (he won’t and even if he does it isn’t the same.)

AIBU to find it a bit frustrating?

Just ask for the money for it and buy a replacement. YANBU.

Maybe he'll get you one after all as a surprise? I asked DH for a karaoke machine last year and didn't get it on the grounds I would be annoying with it (probably true).

Hopefully he’s already bought it and wants it to be a surprise?

Not cheap, you say. Is it over your DH's budget? Is he rubbish at mending stuff? Did he break it?

Why don't you just order/buy one yourself?

Maybe he’s actually got it for Christmas and wants to surprise you?

If not, then YANBU. I asked for the same thing every year for a few years and he never got it. I think he thought it would be a waste. So I bought my own and use it all the time!

No - broke in an act of God sort of thing.

Not cheap but less expensive than what he actually bought me and had to return as I already had one!

No, he’s definitely not got it for me.

If it's a fairly everyday item, I'd just replace it yourself.

Yes but it’s not cheap to replace, so it’s a bit frustrating that this is what I desperately want / need.

It sounds like he may have got you a replacement but wants it to be a surprise

@Greysealemperorpenguin

Yes but it’s not cheap to replace, so it’s a bit frustrating that this is what I desperately want / need.

I get that but if he's not going to buy it then you'll have to.

Massively annoying though.

I'm going to guess at hair straighteners?

Hard to say really - is he a good diy type? Sounds not from you saying it wouldn't be the same anyway! Would he otherwise get you a nice thoughtful present? If no to both tell him if he doesn't get it you'll get it yourself in the sales.

Weirdly enough Worra that’s what he bought me and had to replace as I have some!

Flamingo, trust me on this, he hasn’t!

Dyson hairdryer is my guess 🙂

YANBU as long as you can easily afford to replace whatever it is.

The fact it’s a replacement for something is a red herring. You’ve asked for something you really want for Christmas, and he for some reason is refusing to get it for you. YANBU

Stand mixer / Kenwood / kitchen aid is my guess 😀

No, just a bag

Throw the broken one away so that he can’t fix it.

Tbh i'd have a go at mending an expensive bag before buying a new one. Why does he have to do it?

Yanbu. Every yar DH asks me what I want, and then if I tell him he proceeds to tell me why I shouldn’t want that. 🤨

I learned a long time ago it’s best to just buy the thing you want and wrap it up yourself and tell him that his gift to you is sorted.

As it's expensive I assume it's leather.
If it's the stitching on the strap or somewhere that's come undone then try taking it to a cobblers.They should be able to re sew it.

I voted yanbu but just go and buy your own

Not everyone can just afford to go out and buy what they want. Especially at Christmas.