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To think that the vast majority of people would think that allowing rapists to self ID as women is completely batshit?

104 replies

Galvantula · 13/12/2021 11:33

The people all over Twitter jumping to defend the rights of men to force everyone to refer to then as a woman, after raping them with their actual penis... Just wtf?

But no, JK Rowling is a bigot for highlighting this nonsense.

She shared this article about the Scottish Police who want to #bekind to the poor rapists and also fuck up all the statistics. The tiny % of sexual offences carried out by women doesn't take much to skew.

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/6d5deff8-5acc-11ec-a18c-c6d6c5855d8c?shareToken=950f24c7503003e07e782cf76b53d56f

twitter.com/jk_rowling/status/1470092815506063365?t=4nIz6ltkdNO0Jp6PDGmKiw&s=19

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daimbarsatemydogsbone · 13/12/2021 11:38

YANBU I suspect most ordinary people haven’t been following this too closely.

I do worry though - we had a long car trip at the weekend and DD (13) reeled off a long list of reasons to hate JKR - this anti-debate approach seems to have a lot of traction with younger people.

EishetChayil · 13/12/2021 11:44

YANBU.

I just fear it's too late now. All the time us gender critical feminists were being condemned as vile transphobic bigots for questioning self ID, all sorts of legislation was being passed.

So yeah. Glad the majority of people are finally seeing it, but I wish more had spoken up before now.

iguanadonna · 13/12/2021 11:45

It's giving rapists the chance to further abuse their victims by insisting that they too are actually female.

Georgeskitchen · 13/12/2021 11:48

Placing the rights of male rapists above the rights of their female victims? What could possibly go wrong? 🤬🤬

Shedmistress · 13/12/2021 11:49

Who - just WHO - looks at a rapist and says 'yup, lets lock them in with women'?

Who?

And how can we get these people off the board of whoever makes these decisions?

It is sick, utterly sick.

DrSbaitso · 13/12/2021 11:49

Most people aren't aware of all this and how far it's going, and that's exactly as the lobbyists have intended it. Denton report.

It's interesting that while Rowling got a bit of crap when she spoke in favour of same sex marriage and Hermione being cast as black in the Cursed Child play, it was nothing compared to what she's been getting since she said that men can't become women, least of all just by saying they are. The fucking racists and homophobes are less threatening than the worst of this lobby.

dragoncheeselady · 13/12/2021 12:01

Alas feelings of men are seen as more important. So a man who decides he is now a woman, even if he has a history of abuse and rape of women, has to be pandered too in case his feelings are hurt.
But the poor women who are now subject to his abuse have to suck it up or be called bigots.
I am glad that stuff like this is coming light but we need to keep talking about this stuff. Hell we need to keep screaming about this.

purpleboy · 13/12/2021 12:10

It's so absurd, most right minded people think your bonkers when you tell them stuff like this. There is no way any decent person would think this is ok, it's so unbelievable.
Hopefully more people are waking up to this nonsense, I don't know a single person in real life who even knew about this topic, or then disagreed with me when I explained to them.
This is why no debate was so important, those who are fighting for this knew when the general population found out what was being asked of then, there is no way they would agree.

RocketPanda · 13/12/2021 12:29

Locking women in with a rapist so that they have no chance of getting away from him. That's what they are doing to female prisoners. The vast majority of women in prison have already been victims of male violence and are in there for non violent crimes. And that's without the further abuse of the rapists victim to call him she and her.

Cattenberg · 13/12/2021 12:33

I think most people have no idea this is happening, but the vast majority would think it was batshit.

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ZuttZeVootEeeVo · 13/12/2021 12:33

I wish the (admittedly few) people who voted YABU, would have the balls to say why.

LetterBug · 13/12/2021 12:43

what the hell? I knew it was bad but I didn't know it was this bad

FireworkParrot · 13/12/2021 12:44

I do not understand it, I just don't get how you could be a decent human being and agree with locking male rapists up with female prisoners. Yet again, male DNA trumps female DNA...... never mind women having to face more male violence, we wouldn't want men to have their feelings hurt.....

PigletJohn · 13/12/2021 12:44

Men I have raised this with agree with you almost 100%. and are bemused that the question has arisen.

Some were under the impression that a TW would have had to have surgery and behavioural training before being considered a W.

DismantledKing · 13/12/2021 12:46

Of course YANBU. This gender woo is such authoritarian bullshit.

AlfonsoTheUnrepentant · 13/12/2021 12:47

YANBU.

MiladyBerserko · 13/12/2021 12:48

Posting this excellent thread, commenting on one of our esteemed Scottish parliamentarian (ho ho ho)
mobile.twitter.com/TwisterFilm/status/1470189369080393732

2Gen · 13/12/2021 12:50

YA DEFINITELY NOT BU!!!
I'm not scared of males with genuine gender dysphoria. They tend to like women because they identify, even over-identify, with us and I would say are harmless. Plus I feel genuinely sorry for them because it must be awful to really believe you were born in the wrong body. I take my female body for granted most of the time, though I have, at times, resented it for causing me so much pain over the years. Ultimately though, I love being female, so I do feel for them!
The ones who scare me are the types you discuss- those who have used to the trans-agenda as an opportunity to act on their malevolence towards us! Now, a man who hates women can say he's a woman and have all sorts of opportunities to hurt and violate us and the trans-agenda has removed our protections. If he's in a fighting sport like MMA, he can batter women and not only not be punished for it, but praised and rewarded! It sickens me and makes my blood boil but also frightens me. It is not a phobia though because these sorts of perverted, malevolent men really are a danger to women!
We need to keep resisting and using our voices against it. Women in the legal professions need to defend the rest of us. Any woman who is for it needs to think about how she'd feel if it was her on the sharp end of this, or her daughter or grand-daughter! Men who love and respect their mothers, wives, daughters and sisters need to back us up!

DrSbaitso · 13/12/2021 12:53

@PigletJohn

Men I have raised this with agree with you almost 100%. and are bemused that the question has arisen.

Some were under the impression that a TW would have had to have surgery and behavioural training before being considered a W.

Most people are under this impression. They think being trans still means wishing to inhabit a body of the opposite sex and are not aware that it now means that being an actual woman or man is simply a feeling, and the body isn't relevant.
TooWicked · 13/12/2021 12:54

Before I started reading the Feminist section on here I extremely naively assumed that all transwomen had had their penis removed. I thought that was the main 'thing' that made or allowed them to declare themselves as transwomen.

Now when I'm talking to friends and family about this, lots and lots of people assume the same. They're blissfully unaware, as I was, of self ID or the fact that no surgery is needed even for a Gender Recognition Certificate.

WorriedMumsDontSleep · 13/12/2021 12:55

behavioural training before being considered a W.

What would this entail? What behaviour makes a woman?
Or do you mean don't rape people training because the whole male population could benefit from that.

BigYellowHat · 13/12/2021 12:55

Totally bonkers! And who voted YABU 🙄

Elsiebear90 · 13/12/2021 13:00

I don’t think the majority of the general public agree that in any situation all a man has to do is say “I identify as a a woman” and now he’s magically a woman, but speaking up against this nonsense gets you labelled a transphobe and bigot because the minority who do believe in it are extremely vocal.

I used to be fairly pro trans rights until I realised the damage and risk their belief system poses to women, and how any slight concern is met with hostility and abuse. I feel that as a lesbian I can’t even join any LGBT events or meet new LGBT friends because I’m going to be labelled a bigot for not agreeing with self ID and that “gender identity” is more important than biological reality.

TangoWhiskyAlphaTango · 13/12/2021 13:00

Its utter fucking madness and worst still that so many people are ok with this bat shittery (judging by the Twitter responses to JKR). WTF have we become?