@Alleycat1
I have a friend who was born a man. He married and had three children. In his forties he realised he identified as a woman. He has had all the surgery, counselling and hormone treatment but admitted to me that he still finds women sexually desirable* and is married to a woman. This is why I think that "women with a penis" should not share safe spaces with women.
That doesn't really fit in with Ray Blanchards typology. He is the person who studied men identifying as women for 30 or 40 years. He's actually very sympathetic to them.
He divided them into two categories.
Homosexual transsexuals (HSTS), what most people think of as transwomen. An effeminate gay man, who rejects his masculinity for whatever reason, and just wants to get on with it under the radar. According to Blanchard they are more likely to have surgery as they also reject their anatomy.
And the second category is an autogynephile (AGP). Which he characterised as a late transitioning man, usually heterosexual, who has a sexual fetish for wearing women's clothes. Akin to transvestite in old money. And don't usually have any kind of genital surgery. In fact, they often call their reaction gender euphoria, as opposed to gender dysphoria.
The problem appears to have arisen when the latter category has become more prevalent than the former, but people don't realise and are still basing their opinions on the former.